I do not enjoy life, and I want to change

Start with a pen and paper. Write down what you like about yourself. If you can't think of anything, write down what you want to be. Change comes from within and your attitude is everything. Time to do some positive thinking! I used to be in your situation and believe me, this works. Every morning before you even get out of bed, say aloud "Thank you for this beautiful day!" then go about your business. Think of something positive to say about every action you take. "That was a good breakfast, I have a real talent for cooking" or "I'm really good with the computer", etc. EVERYTHING you do, say aloud something positive! Within ten days at the most you'll find yourself awakening from your malaise. It works, I promise. My life is so much better now that I have turned my focus outward and learned to appreciate how wonderful life is. My life is no great shakes according to most people--pretty isolated, along except for my dogs and rather poor financially--but each day is filled with blessings and wonderful moments! And that is because I crawled out of my misery and learned to recognize how rewarding even the most unremarkable moment can be.

Change the way you look at things and the things you look will change...Please don not feel bad, but your problem is that you are giving importance to your problem. How do you see a baloon from far ..like a dot, but when you go near you see the actual side that it is big. So when you concentrate on your problem all you can see is only problems...change your thinking and concentrate on things that you want rather than what you dont want.

It sounds like you need a plan so you can slowly open up to the rest of the world and do the things you feel like you're missing out on right now. Probably a therapist could be helpful, though his/her services won't come cheaply. In lieu of that, you can probably find lots of good information online. The advice I'd give you is to not immediately force yourself into uncomfortable situations but instead to just take baby steps towards your goals. You don't need to start out going to parties or night clubs or even talking to people in person...try talking to people online more to begin with (and not just "more often" but more deeply too). Then talk more on Skype or over the telephone. Work your way up to the hard stuff. As for the weight issue, I think that's mainly a health thing. Beauty is the eye of the beholder; some people will find you MORE attractive when you are overweight than if you slimmed down. You certainly don't need to hide yourself away due to that, though it sounds like you'd FEEL more attractive if you lost weight and maybe feel more confident too. I'd say, though, that the best reason to lose weight is to cut your risk of getting diabetes, heart disease, and many other ailments. It's even harder to enjoy life when you're ill.

Why don't you count your blessings instead? I felt that way a few months back when my family lost almost all of our possessions due to a disaster. At first I really felt depressed when I realized that all the things that I worked for more than a decade were gone. But after a while, I realized that we were all alive, we can still afford to eat and most of all, that we had really good friends who helped us get through that horrible experience. I also realized that I will have a lot of new things again. Another thing, who says that you have to travel with someone? Why don't you do it alone? I have done it several times and I always come home feeling a lot better.

Hi Friend, I have to begin by telling you that " Happines comes from within and no one is supposed to give you that happiness" you have said that you are overweight but forgotten that everyone was made from Gods image and that we are all beautifully and wonderfully made. You are speaking of no sence of trying to loose weight if no one sees it. let me ask you a question: Whom are you loosing weight for? Dear, you should know that you have to love yourself before anyone to love you. that means the first person to see you loose weight should be YOU not any other person. its until that you notice that you are loosing weight yousef for someone else to see it. The bottom line is make yourself happy not waiting on others to make you happy..! it never works that way..! Nice time dear and cheer up!

You say that you are not depressed, but from what I read in your post I would say that you have classic signs of depression. I think perhaps a trip to the doctors may help you, tell him exactly how you feel, they will help with any depression you have and can also help with a weight and fitness programme for you.

I am like you i am not enjoying life much either at the moment.I would also like to go out and about like i did a few years ago,but i am unable to and i am only 39.Now i am stuck here at home or if i go anywhere it will be hospital,not unless a friend takes me out.The main things that i do now is have a few friends round aswell as go online to chat,so i feel like i do not have much of a life either.Why dont you try to join a few groups aswell as find clubs that you can join that is a great way to meet people.

Firstly , you should keep a good mood every day . complaining things can make you worse . Secondly , make more good friends if you can . Some true friends will understand your feeling when you are sad , and they will bring you a happy life . That is my opinion. Good luck to you . Life is beautiful , please enjoy it .

Well, at first I'd advise you to try and make friends through the Internet, it's less enxious and you don't need to leave home for that, when you feel ready you can try to make friends outside, I mean, when you feel confident enough. Chatting through the Internet made me confident, I hope it'll help you too.

I think the confident is the only way to solve your problem.You must go out to see other people in society.Maybe you can join a slimming club and your weight will not be the problem for there will be more over-weighted persons there.You can talk with them first and gradually be adapted to the social life.

If you think you are not enjoying your life you can change our life style.You go for walk and make lots of friends who can change you distally.So you can improve yourself.Never ever try to be depress in your short life.