How do you impress your girlfriend and her parents?
July 13, 2010 3:39am CST
Hey Mylotters ONLY FOR GUYS Most of you believe in love at first site. When one sees a certain kind of girl you get this feeling that maybe this girl was born for me. Then how do you impress the girl? Where would you start? Would you be direct in your approach or take it slowly and steadily? Willing to spend a few extra bucks? That is the first part. It's a nightmare for boys to try and impress girls because they have lots of demands with them. After that once has to take the relationship to a public stage. Girls would have to agree to show their boyfriend around and introduce them to everyone so that many other friends of the girl can keep a close watch on the boy and check him out. That's another headache for the guys. Then if the girl accepts your proposal you would have to confront the parents and make your relationship known to them. You should be able top convince them as to why they should take you as a boyfriend or maybe as a future son-in-law. It's another huge problem. So friends what do you think? Do you guys have similar headaches like this sometimes? DO you wish your life to be single also? Or do you want to have a pair and be committed to a girl?
13 Jul 10
Don't you think girls could better answer your questions? Anyway, I'm a girl but I'll answer anyway. I guess this is justifiable as I have dated other girls. Anyway, the first and foremost thing you have to work on is your manners. Good manners will impress any girl. Chivalry is a way to get noticed. Chivalrous men tend to get it on easy with girls because girls are nicer to them and somehow gets attracted. The speed of your courting depends on you and the girl. Some girls are easy to get, so you don't need much time. Some girls prefer to be courted for a month to 3 months, some even longer. I remember, my boyfriend courted me for 9 months. He was slow but steady and was such a gentleman. If you don't to spend much them my advise to you is to take things slow or make the girl know early on that you can't spend much because of financial constraints. Also, more women would want to shoulder or at least split the bill when you go out. Be flattered when a girl introduces you to everyone, it means she's proud of you. Dealing with her friends is hard if you're not a friendly person, but you don't need to be all friendly. Just be agreeable and try to go with the flow. Being introduced to friends is a great honor. It means that your girlfriend is really serious about you and that she thinks you're worthy to meet people who are really close to her. They key to parents is to just be respectful and always be a gentleman. Be humble and be kind. Don't act arrogant. What parents want is someone they can depend on they can be sure that will take care of their daughter. But then these are just a quarter of the headache there's still another problem, dealing with the girl.
• New Zealand
13 Jul 10
Don't worry or stress too much over it, it gets you nervous during a date. It happens, people get nervous and a friend of mine advised me something I thought I'd share with you too... Take that someone you like and do something along with your and her friends. That way you will feel relaxed and that special someone will see the real side of you. Later on you'll feel comfortable when you're alone, or approaching her parents.
13 Jul 10
I think there are no special way to impress a girl whom you like, just stay as you are and your natural gestures and behaviour is enough to impress her if she really interested in you and otherwise nothing will make her impressed. Always remember one thing if you are serious about this relation then dont do anything artificial and one that will definitely revealed to her and that might be dangerous for this relationship. Go to her and propose her directly. Always be genuine.
13 Jul 10
im a girl but i think i can help you^^ about me i think that to impress a girl you need to talk in a sweet way, being caring to her and you should approach slowly. have a nice conversation. then you can ask her to be your friend. if she says yes then you can call her sometimes and go out with her.dont forget if you go out to always pay attention if she is happy or not and to say sweet things to her. then if both fall in love and you meet her parents just be yourself^^ dont try to do so much just be yourself talk sweet with them tell them how much you like their daughter and to her friends do the same^^ be sweet to them, joke with them and for sure you can have a great relationship^^
13 Jul 10
I live in Japan and the whole routine is a headache. Of course you want to show her off and get ur friends approval. If any of your friend doubt your 'new find ' it can tend to put u in an awkward situation sometimes. Secondly once things advance to the proposal stage, its a matter of meeting the parents in a very formal situation, very nerve wrecking for us none Japanese, although I didn't exactly have to kneel down in front of the parents like some do traditionally. The whole routine here in Japan makes u wanna just hold it down with one woman instead of running around deciding.
13 Jul 10
I'll try to address your questions one by one alright? So your first question is, how do we guys, or I, impress the girl I like? Well, I really take it slow and steady but not vague. I mean, I wouldn't want the girl to think about anything about my intentions. I'd make it clear that I like her, without being aggressive of course. I'll show her that I'm the perfect guy that she wants. And for dates? Of course I'm willing to spend for our date! It's all part of the impression. And I wouldn't mind her demands of course. If I really like her, I'd do anything that pleases her. Next, why would it be a problem if her friends keep a close eye on me or check me out? I'll just make sure that they'll like what they see. lol. If she fell in love with me, she wouldn't be minding her friends anyway. Haha. Your last question is how do I deal with the meet-the-parents-situation right? I wouldn't worry about that at all. I mean, I'll just show them that I love their daughter and I'm the perfect guy for her. How to do this? I'll always pick her up at their house, then take her back before dinner. Returning their daughter early and staying there for dinner makes a good impact on any girl's parents. Believe me, it'll take time before you can take her out until late at night but taking it slow will definitely gain her parents' trust. I don't think they bother me. I mean, of course I think about what I should do but I just remember that what's important is the girl's love for me. And in all those shebang, I don't forget to always be myself and show the real me. No pretensions. Just effort, and just me. =)