A Better Caliber of Friend

I would not say that I've ever left a "group" of friends, because I've never really belonged to any group of friends (because I don't get along with entire groups, just a few people from it). But there have been at least 2 instances where I've had to drop a friend because they were no longer good for me. If they're bringing you down or making you feel bad while you're around them due to their childish behavior, then I do believe it's best to leave them behind. No one is worth your happiness. The only downside I've found to losing friends is that it's rather difficult to make new ones. I meet people all the time, and have no problem getting into a conversation with someone I know wherever I go.. but I don't have a lot of people I can call up on the phone when I feel like chatting.. or go have coffee with, or anything like that. That's the hard part.

There would always come a time when you have to sort things out on your own. When you have to leave some space so you can think of a better way to work it out. I think that you should give yourself enough time to figure things out. We can never judge anyone for their wrong deeds. Because no one is perfect. But I believe that if a friend is not helping you to become a better person and doing things to destroy you in purpose, you really have to stay away from them. In able to live a happy life, we should surround ourselves with people who will make us happy. You must not be afraid of losing people who tend to hurt you because you will never be able to heal a stabbed wound unless you put away the knife from your skin. The pulling part will hurt. But you will get through it...

dorannmwin I have not had that problem really mine is more that I made some friends here but they do not understand my addiction to the net as all they seem to want to do all day long is watch the television andsit and fall asleep doing it. That bores me and the net does not. They really do not understand me, and while I love to read thats not the same as sitting downstairs and reading all day long.So that leaves me with my one best friend whom I have been friends with for 20 years and our sons are best friends too. we are both diabetics, both have Nov. birthdays , and sons who love computers. her son is now working in Holly wood cutting previews for movies and wantsto get hired someday by a big film company. I tease him sometimes as I want to brag about knowing him when and hope he gets that job and gets his name in the movie credits. Nelda and I are very close and she is always here for me, we email all week, and she keeps me in touch with my old life before this tiresome retirement center.

A good friend of mine once related to me that you are the average of your 5 closest friends. He got it from some book or some study or something, I do not know how true it is, but I do know that the people you hang around with the most, are the ones you are most alike, or it leasts to disagreements and arguments, and you also pick up their habits, if you wants some proof there let any 4 year old play with a 4 year old that has better or worse manners more then twice in a week to see a base example. As to your question, I have left groups of friends, and it has greatly improved my quality of life in the important ways, and well, maybe I wake up with fewer headaches and sore bellies as well. When I don't like the people I hand around with I find new people, preferably like minded people. Sincerely and With Appreciation.

Ahhh, yes. I've unfortunately had to leave friendship groups several times throughout my life. Either they get on my nerves for the last time or I just simply grew out of that kind of friendship. I left with NO regrets - and yes, I'd have to say it was the best thing I ever did for myself each time (afterall, there were reasons why I wanted to leave). One group that comes to mind that I had in college . . . well, we were longtime friends, but I went to a different college from them. They got into dorm/Greek system/partying - and their way of partying was not my cup of tea. I can't explain it, but their college "culture" became so different from mine - I really didn't feel like being around such foolishness - so I didn't hang out with them anymore. I didn't actually sever the friendship . . . I just conveniently made myself unavailable and sort of disappeared. They found me on Facebook - and I see that they are still all about socializing in sort of a similar manner - bah - I'm glad to still not be around them.

why not try going straight with your friends..as them frankly what makes them do such incredulous activity towards you. I for instance rather stick til i would know the reason for i beleive that in every problem their is a fact reason so that maybe a solution may then be made.

I've seen quite a bit of that over on Yuwie. There was one person in particular, a big, fat bully who drove quite a lot of people off the site. But it's never happened to me with people I've known personally. Leaving (more or less) Yuwie didn't really have to do with that person so much as because most of my favorite people have left there though.