Your Ex has someone better than you

@hanagi (390)
Philippines
July 15, 2010 11:02am CST
What would you feel if you meet your ex without knowing that he is with his new girlfriend and that girl if way far better on you when it comes to physical aspect like the girl is more beautiful, more sexy, and taller. I must admit when it happened to me I was surprise because I never thought he would get someone like that. I also got a little bit insecure when I saw the girl. Then I started stalking the girls profile for a month I think. Then I still realize I am far more better than that girl and I stopped what I have been doing. I realize that the incident made me go crazy.
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13 responses
• United States
15 Jul 10
Don't want to put you down, but you said "you realize you where better then her", at least she doesn't stalk people? but probably knowing that you are better then her will make you more self confident, and will move on next time this happens
@hanagi (390)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
well would you know if she doesn't stalk people too? Love can drive you nuts and make you do crazy thing. I am better than her and would keep on saying that , just one way of putting my self confidence up after that long days of thinking and suffering from being insecure about her.
• United States
15 Jul 10
Good point maybe she does stalk people, and its a big love web of stalkers stalking stalkers!
• Portugal
16 Jul 10
aww hanagi im sorry for what happened :( anyway even if that girl is so beautiful and so sexy and looks better than you what does it matter? maybe she is not sweet or caring like you^^ just bcs she looks better outside doesnt mean she is better than you trust me. like those girls and those guys that are so handsome and then are just playboys or playgirls and dont care for others feelings or just care for their needs and are selfish. dont think she is better than you bcs everyone has good things^^ and im sure you also will find a guy better than your ex^^ even if is not more handsome what matters is that he loves you more and cares more^^
• Portugal
16 Jul 10
i think in the beginning i would feel like you too^^ thinking aww now i see why he left me but thats a nonsense you know. we just think that bcs after see that we feel so insecure about ourselves. but is ok hanagi you will find a veryyy sweet guy and for sure for him you will be the sexiest cutest sweetest ever ahah^^ your ex doesnt matter^^
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Hi, hanagi. For the two ex boyfriends that I have went with. There can never be another woman better than me or more attractive. I am not trying to sound conceited, but it is true. The love that I have given my ex's, they will never forget me. I have seen all of my ex's girlfriends and wives and none of them can hold a candle to me.
@med889 (5941)
17 Jul 10
It happens and I think this is normal because if one has been sharing some good moments with his/her partner then even after a break up he/she would feel like this when seeing the other with someone else, and then we realize that we are what we have been working for and we should be happy after all, because everything which happens happens for the best.
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
well, of course the first thing that I would do is compare, but in the end, if he is happy and I am happy, then I don't think I would take it too personally. I mean, good for him that he found a better looking girl. I think I would be more irritated if the one he got after me is not good looking at all. Hahaha. Atleast if his new girlfriend looks good then that says a lot about his taste in women.. LOL.
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
It really feels so hurt especially when u see him happy with the girl and the sad thing you always end up comparing yourself to the hirl and what if she really better in a lot of way? hmmm, i habe been on that shoe, no matter how i try to open his eyes that i am better that her its the reality that really judge the relationship.But one thing that you should and we should do is acceptance.Really have to accept the fact that some things are meants to be, learn to move on and dont ever get mad to the girl,Coz the girl has nothing to do with the relationship, third party is not the reason of the break up, it should just be between the two of u.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Jul 10
Everyone has unique strengths and unique weaknesses. It may be difficult to accept but if you try to look at it, it's good to know that he's found someone.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
I don't wanna sound so hypocrite but I felt nothing when I saw the girl. I even invited her during my 18th birthday. I think the thing that hurts me most is when I found out that the girl was pregnant and my ex if the father.
@lixiaoyan (179)
• China
16 Jul 10
I will be more happy to find his new girl better than me.If his new girl is not good enough ,I will be very crazy and question that why he broke up with me and choose such a girl who worse than me.Of course,besides these ,I will also feel sad to come across of them in the street.
• United States
16 Jul 10
I don't think she is better than you. It was just a moment's thought. Beauty is not everything. Also what is beautiful to you might be ugly to others. You did not feel insecure. You just felt hurt to see your ex with someone new and it is very natural to feel this way. Stalking is not a big deal. Many girls do that.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Jul 10
I am not hypocrite to admit that fact that I will feel the same thing as yours. I mean that is kinda very intimidating on my part as well. I will feel that I'm a less as a person. As much as possible I would still try to avoid stalking because I am sure that will make me feel more insecure if I am going to do that. Maybe if I am in the position of other lovers that have seen their ex like that I would be hoping to have someone better or far better as well compare to my ex like having a handsome, intelligent, humble, and all other good traits that I want to a guy will be accomplished.
@rose0822 (123)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
as a girl i also felt like yours before... lolz:D but i think its normal, we're just human we're not perfect... its just a matter of acceptance. and moving on.
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 10
I dont know exactly...but i feel she must be happy with him. I have seen her profile on Fb and i see that she looks much happier. I am also happy for her. I dont even want to thinbk about her as i am happy in my marriage. i have a beautiful wife to die for.