Home for the aged for your parents..

I might be weird but I already help my parent's out now when they need it regardless of anything else so I know I would not send them to a nursing home. I would feel terribly guilty, your right they have sacrificed for me so why shouldn't I sacrifice for them as well when they need it? I think it is cruel and unfair to do this to our own parents. =)

I would definitely not leave my parents in the Home for The Aged. Life nowadays is very busy and schedules are more hectic compared to before. Both husband and wife needs to work to meet the family's needs. That's why I understand if there are some people not capable of taking care of their elders. However, this is only in cases where the elder can't do anything at all like if they can no longer walk, see and feed their selves. Of course, someone would need to take care of them. However, what I don't understand is that why there are wealthy people leaving their elders in the Home for The Aged. If they are unable to take care of their elders because of their jobs then surely they can get a private nurse to take care of their elders at home. I think rather than leaving the elders in a Home for the Aged an alternative for this is like a day care center where we can leave them so that someone will take care of them while we are at work and then we can just pick them up once it's time to go home. However, again this should only be in cases where our elders need someone to take care of them 24 hours. If our elders or parents are still healthy and physically able to take care of their self then it's better for them to stay with their family.

I would not send my parents in a home for the aged.my parents sacrificed a lot for me.the least I can do is take care of them.I would rather take care of them or hire someone to help me take care of them.if I'm at work at least I have someone to look after them.

Hi "cheatedaphrodite", Since I am somewhat a "senior" citizen, (just turned 66 years old last month) I find myself thinking about my waining years and it is a bit scary as I have no family close by and I have been pretty much a loner the last four or five years. It would be nice to be with family if I had one so for me the "Senior citizen's home seems to be my future destination when I get to the point I can't function without assistance from other people. (not soon I hope) In answer to your question I feel it depends on the quality of the facility and its staff. Are they really "CARING", Are they well trained in the required skills needed to care for the elderly? In general if the facility meets those requirements in a "HIGH" quality professional manner I would say for those of us "Seniors" who don't have anyone a "SENIOR CITIZEN'S" home would be ok. At least there would be someone there in case of an emergency or illiness don't you think?

I never put to think in it, but he would not hospitalize my parents in a geriatric, because since you it have said they do not spend your it well and are not happy there. It is necessary to be grateful, to take care of them and to respect them, because they are they those who brought us to this world.

I see that there are some here who vehemently oppose sending their parents to the nursing homes. I am one of those who agree with them. In our country, nursing homes are not that popular. We are mostly the nuclear type of family. I also cannot see myself sending my parents to a nursing home. When I think of all the sacrifices that they have made for us over the years, it would be a pleasure to return the favor to them.

Being raised Filipino, we were not accustomed to sending our aged parents to nursing homes. They usually grow old in their own homes and being looked over by our relatives. I don't find this very caring to send them to be taken by people whom they don't know at all. I just find this unfair for my parents to be taken cared of by a stranger after them looking over me and raised me when I can't still live on my own.

I am not in favor of putting aged parents in homes as you found out, since they feel that they are not treated nicely, then they move out. This happens when the children are married and they have spouses who look at the aged parents as burden. If they are abused or not treated well, then it is better to have them in homes.

I feel very good that you visited the home for the aged.Whenever i get time i also try to go to old age home once a week and try to motivate people of old age.Depression,insecurity and loneliness are the major problem for the people with old age.But i feel that those people who have children should better live with them or save some property for them so that they don't have to face these problems in old age.I really feel very sorry for these people who have such bad kids and leave their parents alone when their parents require them the most.

Hi, No I do not send my parents to places like this. When my parents be old they go to our grandmother house. This house is private and they could live without problems. In my place old people search some other strange people and then they live together. How cruel need be kids to throw outside parents? When I will be old I hope my kids too do not send to nurse home. But, it depends how we are raising own kids. Take care, Have a nice day!

No, i don't even think of sending parents to old age home because i love them a lot and always want to be before them and even i know that they can't live without me then so it is clear fact that i can't leave without them and also at the same time i completely don't agree of not sending to old age homes because for some people the situations arise that they should leave there parents in some trusted places to look after them when they are away from them so for them old age homes are the best places. Hence it all depends upon the attitude and the circumstances around the person.

What other option could I use. My mother has Alzheimers disease. She cannot live by herself, as she had for many years. I work a full time job, and we could not live off of her pension and savings, she cannot be left alone. So my mom is in a nursing home, one of the better ones, and it is close by. The rent is about three thousnad a month, not everything is included, the basics are. My mom had to get used to the loss of her freedom, but has adjusted well. As her disease progresses the level of care she needs will increase. I visit her often and spend as much time with her as possible. I see that there are many residents who never have visitors, their family doesn't bother or like my mom, they have outlived the friends they had or their friends are in some other nursing home. I did take my mom to visit one of her friends in a different nursing home. Recently my mom does not have the desire to go out to get some ice cream, let alone go visit someone. She does not suffer, I am thankful she is still with us.

NOT AT ALL! And even students should not encouraged to see these places since they see their condition and again develop creative thoughts to feel them happy there, Instead they can close or not allow such "old age homes" AFTER SEEING THEIR CONDITIONS and encourage to keep their parents themselves, BY INSPIRING. DO SOME REALITY WORK and these places should be closed. Even all types of Encouraging, Giving Funds to Develop, will encourage the development of old age home..

no! of course not. i love my parents very much to just let them be in a home for the aged. for me, this is like neglecting my parents at a time they needed me most. i can't afford to do this to them. and if i will be old, i won't like the idea that my children will neglect me. thinking that i took care of them while they are still young. i was the one who worked hard to enroll them in a good school. it's such a depressing thought...

i seriously dont have a problem with this, especially if you are unable to care for them any longer due to health issues or whatnot. not only do they have round the clock care there, they have activities that are geared for them and are with people their own age and with their interests.

I cant take this doing with my parents even they grow old. I want my parents to stay with me and take care of them the same way they took care of me when i was little and harmless and that is the only chance that i can return my gratitude with my parent. I feel sorry for myself if I do this things giving them for the home of the aged. I love my mom so much and I wont take that risk.

certainly no is the answer but it is only the place for the aged pepole who is treated as burden by their own son!!!!!!!!!

i wouldn`t do this to my parents because i love them extremely much and this is will be so unfair to get them to such a place!! They deserve last day of their lifes to be in good hands !!

No way. I'm not going to send my parents to a home. After everything they've done for me, the best 'thank you' that I could give would be to take care of them. Even that wouldn't be enough. I love my parents very much and I couldn't imagine sending them to a home when they get older. It's unthinkable.