How to deal with the relationship between wife and mother?

Man, this need to be dealt with very care. Ideally you have to put mother first because mother take a good care of you from you born till now. Mother's sacrifice to raise you is incomparable to other person. Wife is a person under your care, in a way you feed her and pay for her living. So, MOTHER FIRST! This link might sooth your situation - http://hubpages.com/hub/Unique-Gifts-for-Wife

First, we need to understand why mothers and wives do not get along well. The reason for that is because of competition. Women has a natural tendency to compete with each other especially for attention. Both women love you and both wanted to get more attention from you over the other. There is always a trace of truth in the saying that "no woman is good enough for a mother's son". So because of that, mothers tend to raise eyebrows and always keep a watchful eye over every actions that their daughter-in-laws does so that they can report it to their sons and discredit them so they can win back their sons attention. Because wives feel treated indifferently by their mothers-in-law, so they also tend to distance themselves and reiterate on the unfair treatments that they get. Love begets love and hatred begets hatred. This is kind of a selfish attitudes of mothers. Although they are aware of that, however, mothers can't help it most of the time. If tolerated, these sometimes would cause their son's broken marriage relationships. Tsk tsk... too bad. So if it comes to the point that your wife and mother gets into a fight, my advice is never to take sides. You yourself love both women. And you also do not want to hurt any one of them. Instead work towards an activity that both women can bond together so they can have the chance to know each other better. In time, hopefully they would learn to accept each other, and better yet, love each other.

just run lol. if my wife and my mom cant agree or have different views is one thing, but keeping it a respectful level is another. both will have to keep the respect and i would tell both that. when i first my wife she knew my mom came first at all time. but i was bless my wife and mom and even my step mom and my wife get along

Remember one thing in life "JUSTICE to All"....only supports truth and true person, It does not matter who is the person.....otherwise you might be in great dilemma/confusion.