There are people who only becomes interested in you when they can benefit from u
By clouds0327
@clouds0327 (1389)
Philippines
July 19, 2010 10:55am CST
A long time ago, when I was still in college, I remember there was this group of people that can be considered famous in school, who happens to be my classmates. At first they dont really talk to me or never really cared about me. Bragging aside, I excel in class when it comes to participation, demonstration and quizzes and examination. the first months when I come up to them and smile and attempt to make friends it seemed like I am invisible. So I told myself I'll just be on my own.When I started proving what I can do at class, suddenly a lot of people got interested and started talking to me, these group of people suddenly approached and acted kind and made friends. I was only civil but to make them like my group of friends is history.. I dont feel comfortable with people like this. I like those who are always nice or naturally nice to anyone regardless of what they are.
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@darylT (85)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
i can surely relate to you though mine is not about school. i have this childhood friend whom i haven't seen in a long time. when we finally meet again, i would always invite her to have lunch with me. of course, since it was me who was inviting her, it follows that i would be paying for the meal. but then, as days passed, i noticed that she would expect me to pay even if she was the one who would invite me to eat with her. there would be instances when she would bring somebody with her without me knowing. BTW, she has also borrowed money from me which she hasn't paid till now.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
I remember when I was in highschool and I was just being nice once to my classmate and I treated her for lunch and then paid for her fare once. And then I noticed the next day she would again go home with me and then just let me pay the fare again , at the second time I didnt bother but it happened regularly which bothered me already, I was not saving money anymore because of that. After that I began making up reasons not to go with her anymore because it really is hurting my budget already and it seems like she didnt care.. What a numb...
@amaine (2027)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
There are these people who are so-called "USERS".. They exist in this world, for sure they are just around the corner.. I was never surprised when people came to notice you when you excelled in class.. ANyway, just try to cope up and just make sure that people won't use you.. It's a good thing you're intelligent.. Never let these people use you for their own benefit and just leave you in thin air whenever they don't need you..
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Thank you.. Yeah they are always around... everywhere... These so called "USERS" I still encounter people like this till now thats why I remembered that experience I had before.. When you come up to them and ask question it feels like they are not interested to answer because you dont look cool enough for them and feels like they dont have any obligation to answer your questions. But when they get to know you and realize that they can benefit from you, they suddenly come up to you and appear nice and friendly and all that.. No way...
Well, Ive known these people from the past, these people are like prominent names in our small town.. they never really cared about me before because its like they cant benefit from me, we were introduced before but always gets ignored when we meet in one place so I stopped smiling or even waving HI coz its too embarassing especially when they dont smile or wave back.
Years after, I landed a homebased job and was kinda stable. Through word of the mouth I guess, they got this information and suddenly started contacting me that they would like me to recommend them.. Like Hello? To think that I'll be the one to train them because no one else will do, and Im not comfortable talking to them, because I know what type of people they are and how sarcastic they were before.. NO WAY.. Sorry to be rude but I dont have time for this USERS... NO TIME AT ALL. Sorry but dont mean to... But just dont prefer to.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
I had some officemates who barely talked to me before. They had their own group and we were acquintances but not really friends. The day I got promoted they asked me to hang out with them and even bought me food. The next day they asked me to approve their leave applications.
I knew their invitation was only because they wanted something from me. Good thing I didn't go out with them
@kaka10 (178)
• South Africa
19 Jul 10
I know exactly what you mean I have been through the same situation, I find it difficult to make friends easy these days as I try and always keep my gaurd up. I was kinda nerdy in highschool and good at accounting and alot of people talked only to me because I could help them with their work. I have the same problem as a grown up but I avoid all people that seem to interested in me so I grew a hard outer shell to protect me
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
I can so relate to you.. That's exactly how I turned out to be.
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
19 Jul 10
I hear you on that one. I took a Criminal Justice class where these group of girls just didn't like me because I didn't fit into their group. Well the only time they talked to me was when they wanted something. I told them "yeah sure" or "okay" but never helped them because they were so fake. I think it's sad when people act like that and just not stay away from you. So sad though that life is like that in all walks of life. No matter where you go you will find people who just use people.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
That is so true. They started making friends with me and started asking favor, or just to include you in their group because it would make them a lot cooler for them I guess. 
But I never really opened my self up with them coz I know they are not real.
But I never really opened my self up with them coz I know they are not real.
@rafaelnadal007 (731)
• India
20 Jul 10
Many people in this world is greedy and they doesn't understand anything else except their profit!! For benefits they can do anything!! If they find you to get advantages for them they will show their fake interesting. They have nothing in their mind but only to achieve something from you somehow in any way which would help them. These peoples are hated almost anywhere when other peoples come to know their true colors. We need not to take advantages from the others and show we are unable to help them when they need from us. This is really wrong and not desired. We should help each others and might ask if we really need something
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
19 Jul 10
People who like "U" when they benefit from you are totally selfish.
[b]Once they gain something from you they will not see UR face at all because,their purpose is solved.
You should just keep this category of people away,and not only that you should also keep an eye on these cunning people.[/b] @jennbart (1325)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
True! I was once an employee of a company whose people are such user friendly! When I was once a trainee and was shadowing on what they are doing, I was not being trained by the old employees. They are just chatting away and I was like a chopped liver there. Then, came the time for going home and almost all of them are waiting for taxi's and buses. I went ahead and walked to the parking. Then after that day, they were all being oh- so friendly now. They asked me where I live and almost all of them lives on the same area as mine and they want to have a carpool with me. I pretended not to hear them.. FAKERS!
@danibel18boon (1)
•
20 Jul 10
A lot of people nowadays are fair-weathered, they are only nice to you when they needed something in return or when they are bored or really lonely. Sometimes these so-called friends are backstabbers and will, sooner or later abandon you when a new and more ideal friend comes around. There's a saying that in your lifetime you could probably count on one hand your TRUE friends. Well, I think we just have to be careful in choosing our friends and also be aware if they are honest and loyal to you, especially when disclosing your deepest and darkest secrets...
