Too bossy girl
By Suggar
@Suggar (3606)
Bulgaria
July 22, 2010 3:59pm CST
Me and my bf rented place 1 month ago. We live alone now.
We are together from 7 months now. Last months i was so given up to our problems and the things we had to do. Every time we had to pay some bill or to do something together, my bf was giving me the last word about the way we have to do it. He is so good person and so quick-witted, he wanted to make me happy. But i learned to be the person who will say how something have to be done, what way we will spend our money, what will we do, what will we eat and everything like that.
I was little bossy before i met him. But now i can see that i'm more bossy than before. And really don't feel very good with that. It's like i don't give him to have his own opinion, his own viewpoint, i want always to be my way ...
I feel like i squash him. He is a great guy and i love him the way he is, but i become so bossy that now i don't know what to expect if he has to make something the way he feels it. That's why i feel little insecure. I know that he loves me, i know that he would do everything for me, but like everything he will do is a little surprise for me. I don't like that kind of surprises and make him feel like a little child.
I love him, i love every part of him... and now i want we to be 50% and 50% in one 100% relationship, but actually in real life ... it's hard for me to allow it :(
I don't do it because i want to squash him, just it happens in me, and i'm showing it all the time ... :(
Any advices?
4 responses
@wazaaa (185)
• Bulgaria
23 Jul 10
May be he is afraid that if it is up to him you will be little angry with his choices? May I ask who is making the money in your home? If its you than its normal for him to want you to take the decisions for most of the things. If its him.. so he's may be a hidden gay :D However there must be many reasons which can cause those things. May be he is having problems of his own, so he doesn't care so much what are your choices for the little things.
@Bellapop (1279)
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22 Jul 10
It's already really good that you realise that you're too bossy, that is the first step. To want to stop being bossy and be more considerate towards your boyfriend is even better and you're already half way there to being a better person...just keep working at it, and being more aware that you are being too bossy and to try let your boyfriend have his say and point of view in things. Try to compromise more, and just keep remembering that you want to work together as a couple on all matters so both person's opinions count. :)
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
22 Jul 10
Thanks for the motivation :)
I'll try to do that for both of us and i know we will be more happy. That happened because he wanted so much to make me happy and he always allow me to do what i wanted, forgetting about his own needs and wishes. He knows that i'll try to choose the best for both of us and usually he doesn't say what he wants ...
Thanks for the response, i'll try to do my best, Bellapop :)
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
24 Jul 10
stop being bossy. thats the way if you want to be with him. sure he loves you and let you make all the decisions but maybe he can get tired of it. the way you talk seems is always you deciding everything and you dont let him decide things also. for now let him decide also thats the way if you want things to be happy for both. bcs for sure he is not that that happy if you dont respect his point of view and you do always things your way. if you love him you must respect his opinions and follow it also^^ please let things go his way also. sure he loves you and took much already bcs doesnt want to lose you but if he loves you so much be sweet to him also and let him decide things too^^
