can we really be happy for our EX if he has found somebody else?
By darylT
@darylT (85)
Philippines
July 23, 2010 9:14am CST
i have. it was hard at first, knowing that i still have feelings for him. but after several years, i've learned to let go and move on. i know i've done him wrong too so it's best to forgive and forget. it was 20 years after our relationship that we had a serious talk about our past. it was then that i understood what really happened. we've become good friends. his wife has become a friend too.
6 responses
@simonelee (2715)
• China
26 Jul 10
it depends on the situation. If you broke up in pain then you can't be happy if the reasons of that break up is third party, right? If you broke up for unknown reasons it would be not easy to know that he/she already moved on, you can't be happy either. If the two of you end up good but the feelings is still there you still don't want him/her to be with another person, still unhappy. If the relationship ends and you already moved on often you don't care if he/she already found the right one for her/him.
This is what i think and often experienced by everyone.
This is what i think and often experienced by everyone. 
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
Hello,
I believe that we should always be happy for our ex if they have found someone else. We should not wish them to be sad nor miserable. On a personal note, I felt glad to learn that my ex finally got married and had children. He seem very happy with his situation right now and I'm very happy for him too. I moved on and looked at him in a very platonic way now so I don't have any hurt feelings at all. In every heartbreak, time will heal all wounds. And I'm glad to say that I'm now at the point in time when I already made peace with my past.
Cheers,
Honey
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
23 Jul 10
Hello darylT,
I went through what you went through... it is not easy been over two years now.
I wanted him to be happy. We have never talked and he never said sorry. But is it is over. I have now found someone much better and I thought I would never find this person. I was with my ex for 10 years during my 30's and now I am in 40's.
That was hardest part knowing he was with someone esle. But I got throught it.. there is better things to come. I am glad you became good friends. I am not sure I could ever be friends with my ex with the way he handle the ending of the relationship and with me new one I see how selfish my ex was so I am not sure on that issue. But all about Happiness in the end and what God has instore of us.
Thanks and have a great day!
Sincerely unqiue16
@akiadranem (403)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
I don't see why not. But it's also possible if we're not happy with our own present relationship, then we'd feel a bit of regret and possibly longing for that past relationship. But then the key word there is PAST. It's done, and as you say, he must be happy with his wife now. It's good that you've moved on with your life. Be happy.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
24 Jul 10
in the beginning no sure everyone gets sad and hurt^^ unless you fell for other person and left your ex for it sure you dont mind he be happy bcs you love someone else. but sure if he left you bcs of it is different sure we be so sad. we can say i wish you be happy and we want his happiness but we would feel better if that happiness was with us right? anyway i think that if that ex is not the one for us we must not be sad bcs we all have the right person for us we must wait for him and dont cry^^
@romzz05 (572)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
If you really care for someone in the end you can only wish him/her happiness. There will always be sadness if you're not totally over that person but love will always prevail and even if you're not the reason for his happiness you will still feel relieve that at least he found what he is looking for.
