Love on the Rebound

Philippines
July 27, 2010 9:35am CST
In every relationship, people go through different odd situation. And most of the time, one loves more than the other. It is because of several reasons, sometimes, it is because the other just entered it for a rebound, while the other grabbed the opportunity to show their love to the one that is needing it... There's a song which lyrics said, "Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you, or are you coming back to the one you love?" Have you ever been in such dilemma? If you are face with that kind of situation, what will you do?
7 responses
• United Arab Emirates
27 Jul 10
I really dont know...I have been in love since the last 6 years. And i know that she also loves me, but in the past few days i have been seeing ups and downs in the relationship. I know that things will go fine i just need to give it some time.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
well, I hope things will be alright for the two of you. it's only normal that relationships experience flaws at one point.
• Jamaica
27 Jul 10
I think that everybody has been in a relationship at some point that was on the rebound. The think that it happens because on loneliness and also not wanting to deal with the pain of the heartbreak. I think the best thing to do if a person is in that situation is wait a few months before you jump into something new. Think about what worked or didn't work in your last relationship and what you would like to do differently in a new relationship. Keep these things in mind when you decide to date and think about what you won't allow to happen again.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
well said. =) and yes, better to be in a relationship just when you know you really love that person and not just because of needing...
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Oh! It's tough. Luckily, I haven't been in this situation before and I hope it won't happen to me. But if I will to choose probably I will stay with the one who loves me. Why? Simply because I know that I will be happy on that person rather than trying to push myself into someone who don't like me. They said it's easy to love somebody if that person makes you happy. So maybe I will learn to love him back as well. My life will be miserable if I will keep on coming back to the old relationship which I think I will not grow. Life is beautiful, there are a lot of opportunity so why not stay with people that makes you happy.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
You have a strong point there, especially to us females. An aunt once told me that it is better to be with someone who loves you more than the one you love more, because if he is the one who loves you more, he will not lose interest in making you fall for him everyday. =)
@rosebinas (181)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
There are instances when some people get into a relationship just for the heck of having one. Some are gravitated more to get into one because of security reasons, and to some, they just let someone in to ease the pain of a previous relationship that went crazy over another love thing. To make the long story short, it is because of our crazy selfish reasons that many of us end up confused and imprisoned within the four walls of dilemma.
@mullj9 (15)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I've definitely been in that situation and its so tough. But plain and simple is no matter how much you love somebody if they only like you rather than love you in return its not going to work. You have to search until you find the person that you love and they love you equally in return.
@ptower76 (1618)
• United States
27 Jul 10
When you enter a relationship because your on the rebound, most of the time it is destined to failure. You have not given yourself time to grieve for the first loss. Since according to experts 50 percent of relationships fail, we either have or will at some point in life experience a breakup. I certainly have. I personally will not enter in a relationship with a woman that is on the rebound because I will think that she is only with me to replace the hole her ex left in her heart. You must first deal with a loss before you can move on. And we should move forward not backwards. Most of the people i know that have gone back to ex have eventually broken up. So if you are on the rebound, perhaps you should stop bouncing around and take a look at where you are, where your going, and where you have come from before entering headlong into another relationship.
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I have experienced that situation wherein I dated someone for a rebound. I broke up with my ex of almost 6 years.. and here comes this guy who loved and dated me even if I just got out of a 6 year relationship.. I only dated the new guy for 6 months because its just too unfair for him to have me. I do love him already but I still love my ex. No matter how hard I tried to make the relationship work, I was just unhappy for forcing myself to be with someone else when the truth is I still want to be with the one I truly love. As the song goes........ "Someone's gonna cry when they know they've lost you. Someone's gonna thank the stars above. " So I broke up with the one who loves me and came back to the one I love. P.S: That decision turned out to be a mistake. Long story. Closed chapter. :)