That One Bragging Friend
By LaLa Leo
@mrscallands22 (2851)
United States
July 27, 2010 3:33pm CST
Everyone has that one person in their circle that just gloats and brags about everything that they may get... even things that aren't even worth bringing up. I have one friend like that.. it kind of irks me sometimes. Like, every time she goes out to eat or every time he buys something new for herself, she has to either text or call me to tell me about it. It's like her personal news reporter or something.. it's just weird. Like, for instance, she's ready to leave off to go to college and she's been getting scholarships left and right and people are helping her buy her things she'll need in her dorm and everything.. but why tell me everything about it?? Some things are just better left unsaid and unheard. Not to mention the fact that she has two jobs.. she'll come and ask me for money that I never get back. I am unemployed right now and in college... it is nowhere near cool for me, her and her bf to go to the movies and I have to pay for them all. It's not MY date.. but steadily you bragging about buying new phones and such. It seriously and royally pisses me off. On top of that, her mom has never really worked much... giving them not a chance to have a WHOLE lot... but don't make it obvious that you aren't used to having things... because in my opinion, that's what constant and relentless bragging... is representing.
10 responses
@mspitot (3824)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
Yes. Before she moved to a different school, she moved to a different section cause she divided our class by making us fight with each other. We knew it was because of her and so she felt that we are not comfortable with her anymore so she moved to other section or class.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
31 Jul 10
That's crazy... and that's why people shouldn't brag... to prevent things like that from happening. If she didn't brag, perhaps she'd be at the same school.
Thanks for sharing!!
@hotsummer (13919)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
i have that kind of people who borrows money but never bothers to return it and yet they brag they have nice job and when i don't have the job but i am the one who lends them one. i can't understand why they haev to borrow money. they will say that they will pay as soon as they got their salary but when i text them i don't get a reply when i call them i could not reach them any more. i wonder if they changed their number already.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
That's grimey (dirty). Those people that do you like that aren't true friends. They are just out to use you for whatever they can get and then discard you like a used paper towel by changing their contact information. Those people are not dependable, unreliable and not to be trusted. I can understand pondering that may be difficult for you, but just assess whether they are worth having in YOUR life.
Thanks for sharing your experience!!
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
28 Jul 10
Hi mrscallands!
"That One Bragging Friend". It describes perfectly of a colleague of mine. The only reason I tolerate him is because I think he needs help. I think he has issues with inferiority complex. I'm not encouraging him to continue bragging but just being there to help him see himself if that would mean I succeed.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Wow... I had no clue that it was like an actual "condition"... now that makes me feel bad. Maybe I shouldn't have told her about herself like I did a few days ago. But I was tired of her never returning money borrowed from me... that's weird, though. They say that everyone has an OCD... maybe our friends' OCD is bragging lol.
Thanks for sharing!!
@will_win (222)
• India
28 Jul 10
Yes every body does have this kind of friends.One of my friends always teases and what ever she like to say ,she says and we have to solve her problem if not she will gets angry but when it comes our group friends ,she will just ignore it,i think its better not to have friend like this........
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
That's crazy. And I think that you may be right. It seems more stressful to have people like this in your life rather than NORMAL people.
Thanks for sharing!!
@captinjack (787)
• China
28 Jul 10
let me take a wild guess. you don't have a twitter ID ,do you ? someone is really self-centered.he think everybody cares about him.so he reports everything about him.it is normal ,man.just leave those alone.one day they will know what they are.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
No, luckily I don't have a Twitter account. My friends have been trying to convince me to sign up... but I refuse to. Facebook is quite enough... notifying you of EVERYTHING that EVERYONE does... I don't think I could take another social networking site like that.
I know people that do what you described your friend doing on Twitter. He updates his Facebook status every few minutes. "Just waking up"... "Going to work"... so many messages a day it's ridiculous. It's like he couldn't be doing anything else lol.
Thanks for sharing!!
@giridhar123 (1)
• India
28 Jul 10
yes,i agree with you.some friends make friendship just to use us for their use.so be careful
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I agree. There are so many people in the world like this. I think that they may outnumber the ones in the world like me and you!
Thanks for commenting!!
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
28 Jul 10
Yes I have a friend that brags everytime she gets something whatever it may be she just has to brag, but hey I have gotten used to it and now all of us which would be her friends brag too in order to show her that it is getting a bit on our nerves. Don't get me wrong we don't hate her were just trying to give her a little taste of her medice and I really do think that it's working it never really is a good idea to go and brag. Anyway what can we do with our friends right we love them, but sometimes we hate them I guess it's how the whole friend thing works.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
You know what??? "Anyway what can we do with our friends right we love them, but sometimes we hate them I guess it's how the whole friend thing works."
@jennyze (7027)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 10
I don't like the part where you had to pay for them their movies tickets. I think you need to tell her you cannot buy anymore tickets for her nor lend her some money because you don't work.
As for her gloating or bragging, it might has to do with her confidence. She did not have many things, so when she has something she wants to tell it to you. It's like she says: I am not that poor. But yes, her attitude irk us sometimes.
I don't have a friend like this but I had a neighbor who bragged to her neighbors. When she said: I've just bought a new big refrigerator, I said: Oh, you are so rich. I could never afford it. Could you lend me some money so I can buy the one like yours? I really want to be like you.
She stopped bragging (at least to me). Because she does not want me to have the things like what she has.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I agree with you. I shouldn't be lending money to anyone right now since I'm unemployed and attend college full time. I have my daughter to raise. I kind of feel like now that maybe she was taking advantage of me... but it's ok because I let it be known just the other day. Any REAL friend wouldn't accept money from someone who really doesn't have it anyway (even though I am used to having it).
I can understand someone being confident in themselves and being confident in their abilities... but we're not children. That's like going "potty" and then running back and telling everyone so that they can praise you. It's childish, ridiclous and nerve-wracking.
LOL@ what you said to your neighbor!! That is hilarious!! I bet you set her straight and don't have to worry about the snoody comments anymore lol.
Thanks for commenting!!
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
27 Jul 10
This just brought to mind what some of my friends, neighbors and one family member does! One of my friends hears me say something then turns it around and it comes out of her mouth backwards. Shes seen my house and the vehicles we drive. She doesn't have the set up we have but I don't care. I like her, period. She will call and ask me if I want some coupons, a new way to cook and inexpensive rice dish etc. etc. To which I respond that I am all set up or my hubby isn't that much of a rice eater. My children a all grown now and know every drive through for 50 miles. Then when I tell her how I've managed to save some money she says "but just yesterday you were just talking about how much money you have and don't need to do this, you don't need to do that! WHAT? That wasn't me!
I've got a neighbor who comes over just to take inventory of what I got new in the house.
My sister assumed we were loaded. She would always ask how much we paid for something. Then she would never price compare and casually say "You guys got a really good deal on this, or that. WHAT?
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Jul 10
That's ridiculous. I'm surprised that you have put up with that for as long as you have (dependent upon how long that may have been)... but you are truly a good friend. If you can befriend someone regardless of their flaws (such as excessive bragging)... that makes you a great friend. Because my nerves are constantly stomped by my friend that I was referring to... I did voice my opinion the other day... I think it may've hurt her feelings... but I believe in keeping it 100% at all times.. the truth may hurt... but at least it's the truth.
Thanks for sharing your experience!!
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I think you are right, everyone has a friend like this, we can't stand when they do this, but do not for some reason want to let the friendship go. My friend does similar things but always about her house, I just had to get granite countertops even though the ones she had looked perfectly fine to me. Or she says my husband had to get a top of the line car with all the best of everything in it. The funny thing is if you say something to her she will say well we really work hard and deserve it. So kind of funny I have two jobs she does not, but I guess I don't work hard enough, lol.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
27 Jul 10
That is crazy and I understand how you may feel. I just take it in stride and go on. I kind of realized that that's just the way that she is... it isn't that she's trying to be mean or anything... so I'm like whatever. As long as she doesn't step out of line or disrespect me.
Thanks for sharing your experience!!
