what's the best topic on date with girlfriend?

United States
July 28, 2010 9:08am CST
When I walk with girl classmates on the street always feel nervous,and wanna to find humurs topic to say but cannot utter a word!~I am so upset about this. I am afraid in future when I have a girfriend but have to topic to say~that is very embarrass. My friends,could you tell me what can I do now?Even walk with girls I will feel nevours utter to word.Could you give me some good ideas to solve this distrubed problem? Thank you kindly.
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18 responses
@geojb90 (470)
• Galati, Romania
28 Jul 10
I used to be the same as you. I was thinking about what should I say next so that the conversation doesn't stop. All you have to do is relax and keep thinking about nice things. Don't try to be a macho and impress the lady. Just be yourself and say things that won't bore her. Talk about subjects that she might be interested in and ask her about her experiences. Always look her in the eye. I personally when I have no ideas to talk to a girl about I usually ask her how is she, if she is fine ... stuff like that. If we are out for a walk ask if she is tired and want to sit down. Ask usually things at first then get into the more complex discussions. I usually ask girls what's the relationship between she and her parents to find out with who she talks more, her mother or her father.
@geojb90 (470)
• Galati, Romania
30 Jul 10
Your very welcome! You will while time passes and you will know the girl better you then won't have to worry any more about what to say.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Thanks,your suggest is good idea.I can try that.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Men are too conscious about making an impression to the girl they like. Its sad because I think some girls rather like it when a man would act naturally and not make a big deal about talking about something interesting. It is still best to talk about the girl's interest. And dont talk about you, you and you. Good luck!
• United States
30 Jul 10
OK,I got it appreciate you very much :D
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Just try to be real, be with yourself. Don't be afraid to expressed what you feel, to talk what topic you want to discuss. It's just normal maybe at first because you are not used to it but once you always talk to opposite gender then there will be no problem. Being humorous is cool so that the person which are are talking wont feel bored but don't push to the limits. Don't force yourself to sound funny even though it's not. Don't be afraid just try to be friendly and you will go a long way. Good luck!
• United States
30 Jul 10
Yeah,I should to be humorous!That is good idea!
@krnavtr (285)
• India
29 Jul 10
Topic for the date, hey we go for date with a person to know about them more not for debate. It really sounds funny when heard "topic for date." When we go for date there should not have any topic, because we will feel bore when we have already choosen a topic. If we choose topic to date, then we will find date boring some time. That should happen here, because we go for date with our love ones. No one feel bore when u are with your special person. When i go for date, i go blindly. The best person is my boyfriend, he never make me to feel bore, else a make him feel bore. We talk about all those beautiful moments that going to be happen in our life. He share all the things, that he have done in a day. I do too, he tease each other, make fun, and many more. IF we bring a particular topic to date, it really suck.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Yes,you are right.We shouldn't already have topic for date,but for me that is really nervous utter any words.From your post,I know I should share the real thing around me. thanks kindly.
@AutumnGold (1056)
28 Jul 10
Hello 1xiaoweiwei. If it's your first date together you could try going to see a movie, you don't need to talk when you're watching a movie. Afterwards you can go for a coffee or a meal and talk about the movie, that will ease your nerves and before you know it you'll be comfortable with her. I used to love being taken to the cinema when I was young because I always got to choose what we would watch. Good luck :)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Thank you!But We can't alway watch movie.. so what should I do.
@khulith (38)
28 Jul 10
Just be yourself. Be natural in everything you do, get some confidence for yourself. Don't push yourself to talk if there's really nothing to say. In starting a conversation, you need to know anything about the person you want to talk with, start with the basic questions like about her parents, birthday, likes and dislikes, hobbies, until you know her core of interest.and then be also sensitive with her mood, because maybe at some points she don't want any talker and just a listener. Be anxious also on what you say, make sure she understands it, don't eat your words, you can practice pronunciation at home in your room. Talk with your mother or any girl relative, that you may get to know more things about us.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Thank you very much.I will do like you said.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Sometimes it's difficult to know what topics are best to discuss on a date. I think that the topic of music would be a good choice. Everyone likes some kind of music. it can be a good icebreaker for any situation.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
For me just relax and pray to Jehovah God that he can adjust your feeling and the nervous would take away and feel that she is a person and you are ahead of her because you are a man and the woman is under by the man.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
First and foremost be confident enough not to be obvious that you are nervous being with him. Topic??? Just express what you are thinking. Get to know each other so start it with good stories and experiences. Start a topic that would likely tell who you are, your childhood, likes and dislikes. In this way it'll lead the girl to talk about herself too if she's fell safe and secure to be with you.
• India
29 Jul 10
The good topic is the one about which she likes the most. Try to know what she likes and dislikes and continue talking on that.
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
29 Jul 10
I find it a lot easier to talk to someone I like, if I'm with my friends. You feel more comfortable and be able to enjoy yourself more.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
It depends on the mood of the girl you date. Sometimes there are stories that might make them feel awkward because they are not in the mood to talk about. For example, the girl you date has serious family problem, try not talk about it. As much as possible open a conversion with motivating topic and will lift her emotions. Will make her happy and laugh. I never talk too serious. I make it more natural, the normal way I speak to other person I know is the way I speak to the girl I date. ;)
• India
29 Jul 10
Firstly build up your confidence to talk to girls... make she friends first and then when u get your girlfriend then at least you can start up easily... like about hobbies which she likes and u, what she like to eat and where she want to go for and so on.... Most important, go for date in neat n clean and behave nicely with the girlfriend specially on first date and also in front of near by people.... i know is tough for those rough guys but its important
• United States
29 Jul 10
You just have to learn to be very comfortable and get to know the girl as much as you possibly can and be very nice to her.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Well first and foremost, you really have to be confident. Are you too conscious that's why you get nervous when you're with girls? And try to know the girls you're dating, well I know you won't date a stranger.. If you know her, then you'll have the slightest idea what to talk about when with her.. And also, don't worry, when you already got a girlfriend, you'll not be pressured to think of a topic to talk with her.. Because you'll be at ease with her and can talk to her about everything! be blessed! :)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I would say find some things in common first and go from there. Talk about subjects like hiking, walking, sports, favorite teams, or whatever. find out if they like to listen to music or watch television. start small talk then gradually go from there.
@khulith (38)
28 Jul 10
Just be yourself. Be natural in everything you do, get some confidence for yourself. Don't push yourself to talk if there's really nothing to say. In starting a conversation, you need to know anything about the person you want to talk with, start with the basic questions like about her parents, birthday, likes and dislikes, hobbies, until you know her core of interest.and then be also sensitive with her mood, because maybe at some points she don't want any talker and just a listener. Be anxious also on what you say, make sure she understands it, don't eat your words, you can practice pronunciation at home in your room. Talk with your mother or any girl relative, that you may get to know more things about us.
@ashton77 (292)
• India
28 Jul 10
Talk about these topics with girls. 1. Latest happening around the world 2. Talk about a restaurant where you can go and have something 3. Ask do you like sports, if yes what kind of sport and who is her favorite sportsmen. 4. Ask her hobbies, activities she does, actors she likes. Let her speak about herself. 5. Don't try to act like a girl and talk about fashion, they will have a negative idea. I hope these will help you talk with them.