my daughter has been diagnosed with autism

United States
July 28, 2010 7:39pm CST
My daughter is 9 and has just been diagnosed with Autism. It is not at the severe level. But she still has problems with social interactions among other things. She also has a lower than average IQ and will need help with school. So my husband and myself are trying to research the best methods to help her. If anyone knows anything about this, any opionions are welcome.
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@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
29 Jul 10
It's hard when you find out your child is diagnosed with something. I found out my son has something called Leopard Syndrome, very mild case where he is concerned but he has been having so many problems learning. When he goes back to school he is going to get tested for learning disabilities. I have tried to find the answer to why he has always been so different from my other kids. He had heart problems when he was born, needed glasses at almost 2 years old, needs to attend speech therapy at school to help him communicate better, and now being tested for learning disabilities as well. I get frustrated. I run into people who don't understand why he is shorter than average, and his speech isn't that great. He is a charmer to people but as he gets older it brings more attention to himself. The only thing I can suggest is you know your child more than anyone. Don't get just one opinion but several. You don't know how many times I just felt what I was told wasn't right and sure enough I find out there are other alternatives. I am ready to accept the fact if he gets transferred to another school that has the capability to help him, although his siblings might be in another school. You just have to do what is best for your child.
• United States
29 Jul 10
Thank you for that post. My situation sounds very similar to yours. I could not understand why she was so different from everyone else and she could not make friends. We are also going to be tested for learning disabilities when school starts. Like your child, she is a charmer to people, but as she gets older, you can tell that it is not normal. We are also going to put her into a speech therapy program. God bless.
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Well I'm kind of new to this whole thing myself. I just remember my son being so different, and me feeling that I wasn't doing my parenting as good. I think of it as a journey trying to figure out the puzzle. I appreciate everything the school has done to help but still as I mentioned as he gets older he even notices all the differences. I get frustrated with him at times because he can be good in other areas of life but when it comes to learning he just can't do it. Sometimes it's good to know what you are dealing with but then you look at your child only to realize that one day they will be adults. Can they live with their disability? Just take the help you are offered. I found doctor's in my area just told me "That is just the way he is..." "Everything is ok...." but no it wasn't. I participated in a reality show that a producer was filming who took me to specialist who helped me ask the right questions to doctors. They told me the tests he needed, possible difficulties, I had to go to the school and talk to several people. His own teacher didn't even know or mention the problems he had since she had a big classroom. I told her you really have to observe him to realize "he's not getting it..."
• United States
29 Jul 10
My little sister has Dyslexia and has trouble in school but she has an IEP (Individualized Education Program) which makes the schools give her help where its needed. I hope that helps you in some way.
• United States
29 Jul 10
Thank you. Yes, that is what we were told that she needed, so as soon as school starts, then we are going to talk to the counselor.
• United States
20 Aug 10
The IEP is important, as it will set goals for your daughter to acheive each year. The teachers and therapists will be responsible to reaching those goals and reporting on their progress throughout the year. Since you mentioned that she already has a low IQ I would of thought they would already have this in place for your daughter. Be sure to talk to school counselors and principals to ensure your daughter will get hew own IEP.
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Your daughter is 9 & your just now finding out she has Autism? Usually you can tell from a very young age if a child has Autism... Did your daughter get diagnosed with Aspergers?
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 10
My child is also suspected autism. I was very sad and confused. I do not know what i should do. I then consulting to people who understand about autism. I need to do is choose the right school and make my child independent and focus. My child is now 7 years old. Now my child schools in special schools. My child now has a lot of progress. All you have to do is choose the right school. So your child can be treated with care.
• United States
29 Jul 10
What kind of school do you have your child in and how did you choose it? Is it expensive?
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 10
I choose the school that realy deal with children special needs. I chose this school from the advice of a psychologist, then i am loking for information on the internet. The cost is more expensive than regular schools.
• Philippines
21 Oct 10
i have a nephew who'd been diagnosed with Autism. He's turning 3 next week and he had improved a lot when my cousin started to enroll him at a therapy. His meltdowns were not yet removed but he started to interact to us by saying hi, hello and good bye.. I suggest though that you should take her to a neurodevelopmental pediatrician and ask for some therapies available and suited for your kid.
• United States
20 Aug 10
The best thing to do is tap in to your local resources. Find places or programs that offer therapy. My son has autism and gets physical therapy, speech therapy, and occupational therapy. The school will have a lot of resources you can ask around to see what's available. I would also look into any local support groups that focus on parents with special needs children or even specifically parents of children with Autism as your community will know of a lot more resources available around your area and can also help with just teaching you better ways to deal with certain situations. Good luck on your journey and and your daughter's journey of becoming the best she is able to be!
• United States
22 Aug 10
Thank you. We are currently in the process of getting her speech and occupational therapy and school starts on Monday, so I will be visiting with them.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
30 Jul 10
Hi sweetie. My godson was born with autism. A special school is very helpful as they get very good therapy. Try to go for a school with animals. They have a very calming affect on the children and it seems they interact better with people when they had some fun with animals. Strange, but it really is very helfull. You have to be very patient and caring as they seem to catch any mood changes very fast and then they get irritated easily. You can also try and teach her at home after school. Play games with her while teaching. Just love her as always and give more attention, okay. TATA.