my boyfriend dumped me unexpectedly , i don't know what to do now

Take it positively! It must be hard now but take it as an opportunity to meet a new guy. If he has a problem with that guy who had dinner at your apartment then that's okay as long as you know that's nothing's going around between the two of you. Anyway, good luck!

I think, you should have your bf , that you are going to have dinner with other man in your apartment in prior, so he would not have worried or felt jealous or left the place, if u have told him in advance about that incident , he would appreciate that .. But u did not do that ...Why is it so? If it's actual Love, u should share everything to him..There should not be any privacy in between true lovers.. If u have told him, there is no room for doubt-scene.. Every men in this world would surely have left the place if they see a man having dinner with his girl friend without any knowledge or information being given to him telling that such dinner or meet is going to take place!!!!! So, u wont say anything to him if u see a girl with him in his apartment? u would not doubt him? u would not question him?

I am sorry to hear that. Perhaps give him a few days to calm down. Perhaps he loves you so much, so he will be jealous. After several days, you can go to see him and explain this to him. I hope he will understand. I love China

hello dear... you know your boyfriend is a jealous guy, his crazy when his jealous so don't make him jealous.. you know what I mean...you have to tell him before you do anything that probably you think it could ruin your relationship.. (just like he saw a guy having a dinner at your flat) Anyway, his love is selfish. if you can't stand him and there's no way out to make some changes then leave. though it hurts at first but it will fade sooner or later than to swallow his unbearable attitude.

I think it is a painful situation for you,what I mean is if he really love and cares for you he should have understand.......For me it is fine to break up because he is very jealous person,as there is saying "JEALOUS PERSON WILL NEVER SUCCESS"........And I always believe in saying "ONE GOES THOUSAND COMES"...........Hope you will get better person than him....

i wonder who the man ate with you in your apartment? Maybe he is a man is be attractive by you? and your guy knew that. Maybe he saw that funny dinner and he felt he could lost you because that wretched man, so he was so angry and he didn't want to listen what you say, it really realize that situation. i thinks you suold wait for him, when he calm himself, you come with a cake or the thing he like and apology. He love you so much, so he will forgive you, but you shuold limit to meet another guy, because your guy is so jealous.Good luck to you!

So be it if he doesn't accept your truthful explanations. I think you should no longer issue any explanations. Men when pursued will keep running. So you should keep your silence for now and see what is his next move. Accept him if he comes back but if he doesn't comes back, he was and never is yours in the first place. Stop worrying, love hiccup like this is very normal. A woman is expected to kiss many toads before meeting the real frog.

You say he loved you, but it doesn't sound like it. Jealousy is selfishness. It sounds like he is in love with how you make him feel when you do as he says. That's not love. And when you do something he doesn't like...oop I don't love you, bye. Of course it also depends on what this other guy was doing. If you are doing something that specifically hurts him, and you know it, that's on you, not him. But since you says he's been jealous before, I wager that is more likely the case.

Hi hongacha, If you knew that your boyfriend was jealous, what possessed you to entertain another guy in your apartment without him. Was your guess your cousin from out of town or ugly as a troll? Why wouldn't you boyfriend feel outraged? And, why are you surprised at his reaction? I gotta tell, I think your boyfriend's reaction is quite natural. For a moment, just walk in your boyfriend's shoes. Had you come to his apartment where he was entertaining a beautiful young lady without you or hadn't told you about his plans (truth) what would you have done? Would that have been okay with you? You would not have had a jealous thought in your head? (truth). I for one, thinks that you didn't think about the consequences from your action. Now you may have lost your boyfriend because of it. If your guess and you don't have any romantic connections, then you should try to explain your decision to have him over for dinner to your boyfriend. I hope he is willing to listen. Good Luck

Good day to you, It is really painful to be in this situation. However, there are times, we cannot really explain why those things are happening to our life. Perhaps for us to be more mature. I know that I am not in the position to tell this things but as a sort of a friendly advise, maybe its about time for you to move on towards the next level of your life. Though, you love your boyfriend that much, still, you must show to him that you can stand on your own though he is not at your side. And maybe, it is also best if you can also show to him that you are a faithful person. That, you are a one-woman-man. In this little way, perhaps, he shall realize that what has he done is wrong.

you must talk with him and say that that guy is not your love. he was in your house bcs he is your friend and that if you loved that guy you would be with him instead of being with your bf. he must understand that if you are with him is bcs you love him but also you have the right to have friends boys too. he needs to understand you^^ anyway dont let him go is for sure that he loves you and was so jealous. talk with him and im sure things will be great again^^

time heals almost everything...slow down.... keep yourself busy..:)

Let me get this straight. Your boyfriend of one year that is naturally jealous, saw a guy having dinner at you apartment, freaked out and left and later dumped you and you don't understand and cannot stand his behavior? Maybe i am missing something. What would you have done if you saw a woman eating dinner in his apartment? Maybe you should not have accepted a relationship with a jealous guy in the first place.

Two years later I had first boyfriend,we have loved each other like you,he always used to care me,show his true love to me,but there is saying if there is "true love there will be jealous".One day my old friend called me I had spent around 10 mins only in cell,he got angry to me,even than I begged him sorry but he won't listened to.Even I explained to him,he never and he ask me for breakup time and again. we got break up.

Hi Hongocha, Welcome to Mylot!! Well, jealousy can kill any potentially good relationship and especially if there is no call for it. It is really hard to answer this not knowing you but I have to ask...why was a guy having dinner at your apartment? I have guy friends and I won't give them up because they are all very innocent friendships but also friendships that I value very much. That being said, whenever I am dating a guy, I make sure that he is aware of and included in these friendships to avoid any misunderstandings. Out of respect, I would not have any one of these guy-friends over to dinner without also inviting my boyfriend or at least letting him know that I was having a friend for dinner and it was a guy. I would not want him to walk in unexpectedly and get any wrong ideas. I'm just trying to see a clearer picture of your situation because your post was really short and vague.

But what if his jealousy is founded on something that you just don't realize? Just think of it this way, if it was the other way around, wouldn't you be jealous?.. That's what I always do when my boyfriend gets jealous, and more often than not, I end up agreeing with him.. I think you should let his anger pass, and maybe in a day or two, talk to him, and work things out, I'm sure that you can fix your problem with a good talk.

so why did you let someone have dinner with you in your apartment, of course he will react and its not jealousy coz its pretty obvious though your not doing anything with that guy but for the fact that you have bf and you let someone stay with you during dinner unless your having dinner outside with other friends. if you have bf then as gf its your responsibility to avoid doing things that will ruin your relationship. its actually your fault and his just reacting according to what he think is right and not because his and if his angry then of course he have right. now heres the scenario what if you saw him someone inside his apartment what will you think then.

Then he probably dumped you because of that whole jealousy thing when he sw that guy eating dinner at your place. It's better if yu talk things out to try and get back with him since you love him so much, but if that doesn't work out then it's probably just best to try and find somebody else. Like people always say theirs many fissh in the sea their all different. You know different personalities and such so go find the right one for you.

Well what is the story behind the guy that is having dinner at your apartment? And of course who is that for you? If that is your friend then there are really other people that are really jealous in almost everything even to the extent that is not worth to think about. Unless if you are a kind of person that is always attached with anybody especially to guys even though you don't have any interest with them.

I think the reason why he freaked out is that you didn't tell him that you have a guy visitor. If you just informed him ahead of time, then he might understand on what was going on.Aside from that, there is an issue of trust. If he trust you and love you that much, he will listen and don't let his anger ruled out.Anyway, you can find another man.Explore the world and be happy.