Is that morally wrong?

United States
July 30, 2010 3:14pm CST
You might see that in those romantic movies a lot, but is it morally wrong? Or there is no right or wrong when you fall in love. Hypothetically, a married woman fall in love with another guy she encountered. They met and they have an affair. They both love each very much. But that lady committed adultery already, don't you think? Legally, she is wrong. Her husband loves her a lot too, but in comparison with another guy, she loves more of another guy. Divorce is an inevitable route. But morally, is that woman wrong? Or, should she file a divorce before she can have an affair with this guy?
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• Canada
31 Jul 10
Aa a train rattling off, there seem were some beautiful "illusion" come on the scene, which rippled over the bottom of your heart. then, what you can do? either get off on the next station, or left the scene as one parts of your memory , going on your life journey. but, the only thing I could make sure, never try to jump off the train to hug your dream !,obviously, it is on fire.
@sunilpaul (173)
• India
31 Jul 10
A relationship is successful or is a bliss as long as both the parties ENJOY each other...when the ceases to exist.. then one of the person is to be blamed...and that particular person tries to retain the relationship with "hopes" whereas the other party does a little "scouting"...THERE is an element of "sin" in that but then it's only biological.....one has to seek the "pleasures" in life rather than...well...hope for the impossible...yes it's immoral.....so is this life!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi Kingparker, Moral values differ from one person to the next depending on culture, upbringing and personal beliefs. For example, I personally don't see anything morally wrong with a man and a woman who love each other, living together without being married. Someone else would think it was sinful. Adultery is illegal in many places but at least in the U.S, it is almost never enforced. In my opinion, a person should file for divorce before having an affair but reality is that many don't and people have affairs and cheat all the time.
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
For me it is morally wrong to have an affair with another guy if you are still tied up with someone else. Maybe if she loves the other guy, she must file a divorce or annulment first with her husband. I guess that would be more acceptable in the eyes of people and with God.
@rangasri (45)
31 Jul 10
the originality or I can say the origin of real love and relationship does not bind the movie stories. the movie makers are breaking their minds in various ways to find place to earn money . they did not care about the relationship or reality or any ethics or what is being practiced in real life. they do it just for money making and you wont find such a situation . further, the moral you are speaking in this discussion is very high sensitive. one cannot digest the relationship being discussed here if it happens in his life. the discribed situation of the said movie is only for that three hours only and during this time any damn thing may occur , like as u questioned she may file a divorce like that
@gfyy1990 (25)
• China
31 Jul 10
I think the woman is absolutely wrong~~~no matter morally or legally.In this case,love is just an excuse,she has her family,her husband her child,how should she “fall in love”with another man?morally,she has duty to keep the love with her husband;legally,she has responsibility to be loyal to their marriage.If there is something wrong between she and her husband,she just need to solve it,not betray.
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
31 Jul 10
No one ever FALLS in LOVE they fall into or choose rather to give in to LUST and it is wrong. It hurts many people. The other spouse, children if there are any, parents, siblings and life is never the same or any of them. Children are huge victims of adultery. People make a commitment and should live by it. The ONLY time a person should get a divorce is in an abusive situation where they and children are being abused all the time.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
i agree with you that it is morally wrong to have an affair when one is still standing. marriage is for a lifetime as it stands. any affair outside marriage is wrong to the institution of marriage. it is wrong to one´s partner who is committed to the marriage and unknowing of the affair. it can not be corrected anymore once it is committed. a divorce can lessen the guilt feeling, but one has to live with the guilt it has done.
@bubulizzz (508)
• Latvia
31 Jul 10
I think that life is full of surprises and you can never no what will happen next. We fall in love and in that moment we think that will last all the life, but we are very inconsiderate. We get married and live happy for some time. But than starts some problems, what is related with daily life - about money and social issues. And then we meet other person and in these relationships isn't these problems and so we fall in love again and the next circle has started. I think that these situations happen because we don't think further, we jump in life without any considerations and that's why happen such morally bad things. If the person, when love come to him, would think twice before get married and would take time to live with someone and to manage all possible problems, adultery would be possible less.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
It is morally wrong. Granting that she loved that other guy more than her husband,still the fact is she very much married to her husband. If she feels she doesn't love her husband anymore she should seek legal action first before committing a sin. Loving someone more and realizing she doesn't love her husband is not an excuse to commit adultery.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Yes it is not just morally wrong it is wrong completely. People really should end realtionships or really try to work things out before they resort to be unfaithful. Many people give the excuse that they were lacking attention or no longer in love with their significant other, therefore feel the need to be comforted elsewhere, which boils down to the same thing. Let go then before you start another. Unfortunatley not everyone thinks and or feels the same.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
31 Jul 10
It's totally wrong. It isn't fair to betray someone just because we fall in love to someone else, that's selfish, it's to think in our selves first wich is always okay except when we are going to hurt someone else, that's the time to think in what others wants first because the one who betray or has the chance to is the one moving on, having fun while the other don't have a choice while doesn't know about anything. It's not wrong to fall in love to someone else, as I don't know why the hell that happens without our permission (I think everyone wants to have control of their hearts once in life) but having an affair, betray someone it's always a choice, we can always stop that. Most of people that betray are cowards that are willing to see how it goes with someone else before messing something that is good and confortable, the brave ones end up what they have before to go to the next adventure.
• Jamaica
31 Jul 10
Everything about this is wrong, I understand that it happens everyday and I think that is a part of the problem. People are losing their morals because they are too busy looking around and watching other people behave with lack of self control.I think when it comes to Divorce it is always better to go that route then to live a lie or make other people live in Misery because you can't stay committed.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
as a Christian.., I believe that is morally wrong.. The divorce itself is morally wrong already even if it's legally allowed. It is written in the Bible that you have to stay together as husband and wife 'til the end. But due to inevitable circumstances., a married person fell in love with somebody else, maybe that act of falling inlove is not wrong but considering that you are already married and if you indulge on that emotion, that's the time that you made the big mistake..=(