do parents love one child more then the other

United States
July 30, 2010 8:47pm CST
we have a 4yr son and we have been talking about having another child. i don't we should because i love my son so much he is my world and i am afraid if we have another child that i will not love the other one so much or i am going to have a favorite child. i asked my parents if they love my sister more then me or the other way around. do parents love one more then the other or have a favorite child when they have more then child?
6 responses
• United States
2 Aug 10
I am the oldest in the family. I have a younger brother, with whom I have become very close to since he was born. I would not think it possible for a parent to love one child more than the other. I simply do not think there is a possibility. However, it may occur that one child is better accustomed to a particular parent and vice versa. For example, my brother is very close to my mom and I am very close to my dad; this is because we both share a great deal of similarities to those respective parents. However, just because we get along better with one, does not mean parents love that child any more or less. I never felt unloved by my parents when my little brother arrived. Instead, I was so happy that I got a new person to play with and grow up with.
• United States
2 Aug 10
hello haukmoon thank you for your help. what is the age difference between you and your little brother
• United States
2 Aug 10
hi kristinad my brother and I are 17 months apart. :)
@renzmago (64)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
for me parents are balance for all kids they have.. its just that sometimes a kid things that her brother or sister is much getting attention than him.. the solution is have a open forum to know the inside feelings of your kids.. if you want to have a child again wait unti ur son wants a baby bro or sis this makes the kid enjoy the newly born and even forget about jelousy
• United States
2 Aug 10
hello renzmago i have a question how long do you wait for that?
• Jamaica
31 Jul 10
I think that some do but that is very wrong. I have three children and I love them equally. I think that because they are different ages and such I have a different bond with each one. My oldest is 17 he is extra special to me because he is my first born. My middle is 15 and she is extra special to me because she is my only girl. Then I have my youngest that is 8 and he is special to me because he is my youngest and last child. No matter what I would give anything for any of them in a heartbeat and would never love one more then the other.
• United States
31 Jul 10
i am so afraid that if i have another one that my son is going to get jealous and feel that my second child is more important then he is and i don't wont that to happen like i said before he is my world
@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I am also a mother and i had 3 kids. I can say yes,i got fave with my kids. Maybe not to the extent that i love my youngest son above them 3. It is just i was giving him most attention becoz he is the youngest and that he needs more care than the older two. Loving our kids cannot be measured and i don't believed that we get to love more or select whom to love more among our kids. Our kids are our very own and no one can love them as much as we do.
• Indonesia
31 Jul 10
You don't be affraid about it.I have two children and I love her so much. Yaunger children may need more attention but that does not mean other do not care
• United States
31 Jul 10
My parents said that they didn't and there were 5 of us. We were treated differently because each of us had our own unique personalities. I think it is possible to love your kids equally. It is true that some parents favor one child over another. They should try not to because it is hurtful to the child.