I am in love with my teacher .Please help me

@rtsh_gup (185)
India
July 30, 2010 10:35pm CST
I know it's a crime to fall in love with a teacher however I am not able to get him off my head.It was 2 years ago that I last saw him.He was a nice guy,a perfect gentleman,a girl like me who would be fortunate to,have him as a life partner.The only problem was he was my teacher and was married.I didn't know when did I fall for him,and when I realized it was too late.My friends would laugh when I talk about him,they would joke and tell me that I will forget him in future.It's been 2 years now and although I haven't seen him,I still cannot get over him.I tried a lot to forget him but in vain. Am I the only one going through this? I really need help.Please advice.
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38 responses
• India
31 Jul 10
I think it is natural and every one can fall in love with any one.So it is not good to be in some ones shoe better to leave him and go for another guy because you know he is married and why you want to crate problem between them.Let them stay peacefully throughout their life.You can't be with him and you will never get love and care from him and that may be for short period of time.Friend you will get more better then him you are still young and there is lot to go ahead.So try to ignore him day by day that will solve your problem.You think for future not for present.
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• India
31 Jul 10
Well I don't think that falling in love with a teacher is not a crime,because we never know when and how we fall in love with someone.It is very hard for all of us to face such situation.And I think that it must be your previous generation lover that you are loving today.As a saying goes love cant be created nor be destroyed but it just happens.so please do love but don't accept back love from him after all he is married man.And it will be better if you control your mind and it is not that you should show your feelings to all.
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@rose005 (254)
• India
31 Jul 10
Grow up please, my dear rtsh_gup. I understand your feelings but you are again creating another problem too. Ya love can be happened with anyone at anytime but you think about him also. You said he is married right? Than I think he must have kids too. So leave him happily with his family. Don't think about him anymore, this will lead your life unhappy always. You want your love should be happy right? and nobody wants their love being in problem so forget him you will get better then him at least which is not married. Forgive me if I am not being rude with you, but if you think carefully than its my advice.
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@will_win (222)
• India
31 Jul 10
I do agree with you........Life is so mysterious and love is the one of the most mysterious in our life.It is just childish love and we don't know what is love and we misread our new feeling and that time we are not able to recognize our feelings towards teacher........by the time passes it will forget and leaves only memories.
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@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
31 Jul 10
Hey!......... I have a big problems.I am truly and madly in love with my teacher.He is smart,mature,good looking and as well as they have interesting life .i know ,you are all going to say ;no,no it's a crush' but its so much more than that............trust me.I fell head over heels over him when we first started talking.I can't tell him any thing,he knows everything about me.But the problems is.....he is married with kids.And i know,it would be wrong to do anything with him,but i want him so badly.I guess i should realize that what is meant to be will be,but i don't want to wait anymore.He is older than me,a lot older,but i don't ever care.Being love with teacher that really hurts.
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@pirate451 (152)
• India
31 Jul 10
NO,I don't that only you are going through this,most of the student of college use to fall in love with teachers and some they have relation with teacher and student,it's crime but they are not give a dam for that.Your says that teacher is marriage and how can you be life partner with him,It's doesn't looked good because first one is he married guy and secondly he is teacher how can you,is not look good in society and people will what not things to you,Is better to forget that one and go for another because you didn't leave in relation know.If you are good than not that person only their for you and is many boys who nice guy,a perfect gentleman in your life.Is better to not make problem between his wife and him....Think while............!!!!! and do such a things.
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
1 Aug 10
It happens my friend. Since you think this relation would never get materialized do not you think it is better to put him off? I would rather call it an infatuation. Besides you have not mentioned the age difference. But know one thing, it could be your teacher or somebody else's but we marry a student. And hence a student and a teacher becomes a couple.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 Jul 10
Good thing I was not able to admire any guy that is already married to the extent that I would be falling in love. I disagree to the fact that it is a crime to fall in love with a teacher because there is no such rules on how to control of being fallen in love. You just disobeyed the law if ever that is rules and regulation in school that teachers must not have an affair with students. It could be already a crime if you flirted with a married man to the extent that he wants to have commitment with you. It is not easy to get over to the guy that you have fallen in love.
• China
1 Aug 10
It's time to start a new relationship, Although there is no replacement for that teacher,but new relationship can reduce that feelings. One day you'll relize that 2 years of one-sided love just like a dream, so sweet but just a dream.
@ayuhaki (41)
• China
31 Jul 10
I understand your feeling. But why did you dream to be partner with him at the beginning. does he know you lave him? how he told you? remember he is married no matter how perfect he is. Maybe you don't agree with me, you are falling love. In a word, you can love any gentleman but not married. you love the wrong person. Good lock for you to go out from him.
@Iequate2 (280)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Sounds like infatuation. Nonetheless, if you are 21 or older, and he is not married. I would think it would okay to call him, and go to lunch. Some results would be: ** He is not interested. ** You will observe in him another setting, and say to yourself, what was I thinking (lol). ** Or it will be the beginning of a new friendship that leads to romance. If he is married, then you must move on. You can love again!! For certain.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
31 Jul 10
Crime but don't you think you can't fall in love with him.Its not that only bachelor and spinster can have the feeling,it can even have with the person who is married.Don't you know that love can happen with any body,any where with any reason.Its better to stop going forward rather than falling in love with whom you can't find the way.Its better to try for another one,as said"guys are like stars and you may get better one than him.Forget him though its very difficult to do that at once.Good luck for your life.
• Canada
31 Jul 10
Sounds like you have quite a thing for this guy. but the guy is married. even tho people are married your still attracted to them. but what you really should focus on is moving on and finding someone else. you dont want to be someone who splits up other peoples families. not saying you would do that, but thats the idea. you should get to the bottom of this fast, go up to him and ask him if everything is going ok with his marriage.. who knows maybe there about to divorce.. serious why not.. tlak to him 1 on 1 after class. now im assuming your in college or something. what i picture is your a girl around 20-24 years old who likes their college or university teacher. if your only in grade 8 or a junior in highschool then i deffintley think you should let it go lol. but hey if you 18 and your in grade 12 and up go for it whats the worst thing that can happen.
• United States
1 Aug 10
i think you have to switch the class because it will get worst, i have the same problems to. it will be better if you told your friends they will tell you what to do.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I think it's pretty normal to admire a teacher, I myself felt the same way when I was still in college, but I had to discard it in my head because it's such a foolish thing to be in love with a man who is not free anymore. Sooner or later you'll forget him too just not try to think about him too often try to get busy yourself with many tasks and fight your emotion just remember that he is not free anymore.God prepares someone great so just wait for that special gift from God.
• United States
31 Jul 10
He's married. He's a teacher. He may have children. You have no right to him even if he was not your teacher. He belongs with the family he already has and you do not have the right to break up his family for selfish reasons. Whether it's love, a crush or lust, it makes no difference, he is not and should not be your boyfriend or husband. He has a wife. Drop it and get on with your life. Come back in twenty years and look at him...he may not look or sound anything like you remembered. Even after I married,though I adored the man I married, I felt that my very first love should have been my husband. Ten years later, I saw him. He had gone through four wives and was on the fifth. Turned out he was a wife beater. His lush black hair was scraggly gray wisps and he wasn't even 35 yet! The man I actually married was kind and wonderful, always thinking of me and our children. He worked hard to provide a home for us. He retained his glorious head of blond hair and at the age of 62 STILL has it - not a gray hair in sight. He was generous and loving. The best thing of all? We found we wanted to spend time with each other more than anyone else. I'm so glad it did not work out with the first person. What a slug he turned out to be.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
It is normal to love and admire the teacher but only for that. You know that he is married then you just attracted what you likes to him.I know if you see what you likes in a man then you fall in love with him. I guess he possess the qualifications and attributes of your ideal man. Now that you know he has a family then make him as your inspiration to man soon you would choose. There is the problem of that feeling because you are not mean for each other. I know yo can have a lover or suitor soon whom same as he is. I also admire male teacher but I always think that I am younger than him so I have no right to fall in love w/ him.
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Just think that he is already married and it is a sin to be in love to a married man. Please keep yourself busy and pray to GOD to help you forget that man. It is not easy but you should forget the man and think that he is married and it is not right to fall in love with a married man. Only you can help yourself and your determination to forget this wrong man for you. Always pray to GOD.
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
Hi, well it's really too late for you to love him; your friends are right, you better forget him and turn your attention to single guys. Don't make your life miserable being linked to a married man. Ask yourself is it really love or an ego? Why not attend some occasions wherein you'll meet some single guys?
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
31 Jul 10
I for one happen to think that love is wonderful and should be pursued wherever it pops up. Is there anyway you can reach him ? Try sending him a greeting on his birthday.