"you cannot give to others what you don't have"
By jermane
@jermane (1)
Philippines
July 31, 2010 6:07am CST
It all begins with you. The center of the universe begins and ends with you. You are the source of everything you experience. You are foundation and common denominator to all aspects of your life, including your environment,your relationships and belief system. "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure". it is only when you can honor and love yourself first, that the relationship can be a truly loving one. when each persons comes in the relationship whole, the relationship becomes an enhancement of your life, not life itself. You can't fully love another unless you love yourself FIRST. If you don't love yourself first you have no love to GIVE. If you truly put yourself in love. nurture yourself, honor what you want,and make your happiness the no. 1 priority, you are better equipped to love others. LOVE DEEPER. we love others to the degree we love ourselves. Part of loving one's self is accepting who we really are. by that way, loving yourself can make you love others more!!!
11 responses
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
10 Jan 16
As the song states, learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
There is really truth in that statement of yours. Most certainly, we can only offer what we have to the people around us. No matter how much more we wanted to give those people we love the best, and everything of what we could think of, we always end up giving them what we only have in our hands. If we are talking about love, a feeling that we give to our family - i think there is more than enough. after all the way we show our affections, and feelings are different and we are all overflowing with love that the only reason we are not giving them is the thought that it may run out!!!
I think though that love is never lost, it never runs out. I think we all have more than enough to give - if we wanted to.
@cobrayogesh (174)
• India
1 Aug 10
Teenagers and young kids cannot recognize philosophical things like love yourself but they show abundant love to whom all they love with promises they cant keep and lies that they never imagined in their dreams. i was there once too but finally what i found it life is "love yourself" for the giving love process starts with one entity molecular object called human
@kimkim888 (145)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
somehow its true, I always have failed relationship, i just came to realize that I should learn to value myself first before getting into a relationship... Soul searching ... You can't give what you don't have.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
31 Jul 10
Hi jermane!
Love what you said here. Couldn't have agreed more. When we do love ourselves, loving our family, loving our neighbors, friends and even strangers become very much easier. Interesting topic.
And thanks! 
And thanks!
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
this is very familiar to me and i found it funny cause i have used this slogan recently in my profile page before.
but yeah,like i said i believe in this saying cause you cannot give something what you don't have.you are absolutely right with your sayings,my friend!
i guess it's not about loving a certain person.it's all about what you got in yourself to give to others as well. if you learn to love yourself more,it's easier for yu to reach out others and love them as well.it doesn't mean always that it is a special someone.but every person around you.if you loved yourself enough,you ca give love to others in your own little ways.
i just remembered something.a story about a girl and a poor child.
the girl have no money,but then she reached for the child and gave him a hug.
she said i have nothing to give you.
but then the child said,"no,you just gave me a hug! something not everybody can give!"
how it feels great to be loved by someone you never expected to receive love,right?
but yeah,like i said i believe in this saying cause you cannot give something what you don't have.you are absolutely right with your sayings,my friend!
i guess it's not about loving a certain person.it's all about what you got in yourself to give to others as well. if you learn to love yourself more,it's easier for yu to reach out others and love them as well.it doesn't mean always that it is a special someone.but every person around you.if you loved yourself enough,you ca give love to others in your own little ways.
i just remembered something.a story about a girl and a poor child.
the girl have no money,but then she reached for the child and gave him a hug.
she said i have nothing to give you.
but then the child said,"no,you just gave me a hug! something not everybody can give!"
how it feels great to be loved by someone you never expected to receive love,right?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Firstly, Welcome-welcome to myLot! .
You are absolutely correct, we must always love ourselves first before we can even attempt to surmise love for others. One other thought is that we cannot allow our character to change no matter how much we pretend to care for someone.
What we must also remember is that we want reciprocated love for who we are not for who someone else thinks we are.
Thanks for the discussion. and have a wonderful weekend.
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You are absolutely correct, we must always love ourselves first before we can even attempt to surmise love for others. One other thought is that we cannot allow our character to change no matter how much we pretend to care for someone.
What we must also remember is that we want reciprocated love for who we are not for who someone else thinks we are.
Thanks for the discussion. and have a wonderful weekend.
