Well...I Finally Did It..!
By cjsmom
@cjsmom (1423)
United States
August 1, 2010 12:41am CST
I took Clint and a vehicle and am now living at my dad's house in Ca. I got tired of being accused of things I hadn't done & having to apologize over and over for the things I had done to hurt my husband. I never intentionally meant to hurt him in any way, but please...how many times can you apologize to someone before they accept it.
I have an interview to drive city bus on tuesday of next week and Clint starts school on the 23rd. My husband is suppose to send monies for child support, that we had agreed upon my leaving; I'm to use the pittance on food & my share of utilities. My dad isn't charging me any rent. But tomorrow is the 1st and I haven't received the child support as of yet.
He sent me a money order for an agreed upon amount; he would be sending once a month for 6 months, but I've already gone through that with buying food, gas, etc. I'll tell you what, it takes a lot of money just for the basics now-a-days.
I'm 52 years old, and except for a few months driving school bus a few years back, I haven't had a real job since right before CJ was born and he's 12.
Please, my dear friends here at MyLot...Keep Clint & I in your prayers.
5 responses
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
Oh..I hope you and Clint will be fine. Well, there are going to be tough times in life but for a long time you'll get used to it and adapt to the situation. Hope you get a real job that will help you a lot with your expenses.. Life is tough but if ew think positive then I guess it will show. God Bless you.. I will definitely pray for you and your son.. Thanks.. Happy mylotting!
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Aug 10
Hi CJSmom
Its really sad to hear the whole story. Maybe I am too young to understand why people get separated after spending so many years together. But this is a reality and people do get separated. Unfortunate for you that you have to go through all the pains at this age. But as they say - "Lord Blesses people when he takes away something from them", I believe, the whole experience would help you become more strong and more loving momma than anything else.
I can understand the financial and mental crisis that you are facing right now but have faith on yourself and keep telling yourself (when you are low in esteem) - These days are short lived and I would be better off soon.
The first thing that you should do is find yourself a job that can help you. Do you know anything about Virtual Office Assistants? Or Do You Cook better? There are several possibilites. All you have to do is take your time out and find out what you are best at and then try making money using that skill. Keep us informed, maybe we can find some way soon for you.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
2 Aug 10
You are very kind. Thank you so much for the good words from your heart. I drive vehicles very well; especially large ones like school buses. I am praying that God will allow me to work for the city bus system as I have an interview on this coming tuesday. Keep me in your thoughts & prayers. Thank you again, so much...
@narayan2006 (2954)
• India
1 Aug 10
It is really very sad to learn that your are passing through a critical financial crisis. The government and the social security system should be of great support to a older citizen like you, having no alternative for child support. You need to give proper education and training to CJ and make a stable living. I do offer my heartiest prayer to God to give you courage and strength to overcome your problems and show you the right track to find permanent sources of support. Try to find a job somewhere there either in part or full time to meet your basics. If you find any international opportunity through networking,sharing exchange of information and ideas,marketing, export/import,education or any other avenues,you may tie up with some of your close friends in other countries too. May God bless you and CJ for a prosperous future !!
@s2rybot (34)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
hi cjsmom
i can relate my self to wat u are going thru right now. been there, done that thing. and mine wasnt that easy. at least you get some support from ur husband while i dont. for the six years that we've been together he never supported me financially. he doesnt work and he doesnt even help at the house. wen i was 3 months preg with our second child i decided to end it. it wasnt the best timing ever but i couldnt take it any longer. now i am back at my parents house and even though its kinda hard to support 2 kids without a father im coping up. i always think of wats best for my kids and i think leaving that no good husband of mine was the best i have ever decided in my life.i know God will help. we will just have to ask from Him.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
2 Aug 10
You are so right. I still love my husband and we're not planning on divorcing in near future but I couldn't have my son go through any of the disheaval any longer. He deserves to be happy and have his parents be happy no matter the outcome. I applaud you for being the good mother that you are and thinking of your children first. With God's help things will get better for both of us.
@greygoo (795)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
my father left our house last sunday.
i only learned about it yesterday because i live and study in another part of the country.
i know my mom's been waiting for this because she has been suffering from his selfishness for years. and i'm happy for her.
i'm not sure if you're happy about finally being able to break free, but if you are, then i'm very happy for you. i somehow know how it feels to be tied to someone who takes you for granted.
it must be hard for you financially, but don't worry, God provides.
it'll rain when you are thirsty.^__^
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
1 Aug 10
Thank you so much. Yes, I am happy that I left even though I love my husband dearly. I just couldn't take him degrading me any longer. Our son, who is 12 with Autism even knew that something wasn't right because for several months or even close to a year or more he'd ask everyday, "Are you happy, Mommy?" or "Are you happy, Daddy?" Children can sense when things are wrong with a relationship and can tell when their parents are uptight.
My son and I are very happy, even though we don't have any money right now. We don't yell at each other, we say we love each other all day long, and we say they we're happy and really mean it.
