You Never Take Me Anywhere!

Partners should always spend quality time together, sweetie. They should always make a point to go out at least once a week and as you have said a park or museum or even the beach if you are close to one is the best places to spend time together. You cannot always sit at home and do boring things together. That tend to make things a bit akward after a while. He should really get his butt in gear and take you places. TATA.

I think it is very important to spend some time together having fun. Me and my b/f don't get to go and do as much as we would like but there are a lot of reasons for that. Money, work, children, and school...we are very busy. We do sometimes just take off without nothing much in mind but going.

I guess the problem is in many relationships is that the partners may want different things out of life. We tend to be that way, but compromise. Sharing your feelings is important to get things sorted out. _Derek

There are times I wanted to get out too like go to the beach or something. Instead, he brings me to his home where all his nieces were really adorable but they're "KIDS!" And KIDS, they can be really noisy, and hyperactive. And while at it, he watched pirated DVDs that I just couldn't appreciate. Either there are heads of the movie watchers poking on the screen or where the view of the movie was totally lopsided. I wonder how he could put up with that!

I feel for you, Phaedra. Coz that is exactly how I feel towards my husband. We've been together for 16 yrs now and it is sad to say that after getting married, he has somehow changed. He has more time with this friends. Even to the extent of really, being with them the whole day. I t pains me to think that I am no longer that important to him, but he would always say that money is the issue that's why he refuses to go out. But, just like you, i know places where we could just stroll and just have fun being with each other and not necessarily spend that much.

Hello, It's a problem if you and your partner don't have a quality time.. To get out and have some fun is like refilling oxygen in your lungs. It can keep you both happy. Hope you both can work it out. My hubby is very good in that sense that he like to go out and eat out, or just even take a walk to the beach and have a drink or take me places that are nice and fun!!! take care

In these hard times I'm sure people can relate, I know I can. We hardly go out and I have kids too and they're getting stir crazy during the summer. The thing about going out on dates and things is that you use gas and it's not cheap. You can still have fun while staying in too. But you should discuss this with your partner and see what you guys and come up with for date nights. You don't have to always go out, if you have a nice rooftop or backyard or balcony you can always do a candle lit dinner or something like that. quality time isn't about the area but about what you're doing with each other. watching tv or a movie with my husband does make me feel like we're spending quality time because if its just the two of us we always cuddle on the floor and we always talk during and afterwords.

Hi, Phaedra_Scythe. I know what you are talking about. I have been married to my husband for 9 years and we hardly go out like we used to. But at home, he does show me affection. He is so focused on trying to bring some income into outr household so that he can pay the bills on time. I am 31 and I still don't have my driver's license yet. I really want to have it. I can drive really well. I have been driving for 11 years now. My husband takes the car to work and whatever he needs to do. I am mostly at home with our three kids. I am sure that when things gets back onto track, financially, he will spend more quality time with me and our children. When we first met, we used to eat out a lot. We went to the park a lot. I used to be gone all of the time. Even his own mom used to get jealous because we would be gone so much. You see, her husband does not take her to the park or anywhere, just to get some air from being in the house so long. My relationship is nothing like my in-law's relationship. When I notice that I don't spend enough time with my husband, I will bring this concern to him. You can do the same with your husband too. Watch his response. I hope that he can start spending more time with you. No woman does not want to be trapped in the house all of the time.

I had a very long relationship with a man and I was married to him for 2 years of that 12 yr or more relationship. He didn't want to spend quality time with me and my 2 boys. It was very difficult to get him to do anything. Activities were limited to out for coffee, out to eat and out to a bar. Sometimes out trail walking. Express how important going out and enjoying life is to your husband and tell him if he won't do fun things with you then you will be looking for a girlfriend to go do those fun activities with. Life is short enjoy it!

Hello there. You can also go out for a picnic, right? Prepare foods that you both like and perhaps you can also bring your favorite board game and while your playing you can open up to him your feelings about your status or any issues that made a gap between you and your partner. It is the perfect time to relax and tackle everything.

I feel your pain! I have this discussion with my husband all the time. Some things do NOT cost money and I tell him that all the time. He can take me to the park and we can push each other on the swings, we can have a picnic somewhere and bring all our own food, we can go for romantic walks together and we can go to a lake or something. It doesn't always cost a lot of money to have some romance... It drives me crazy sometimes too. I think it's very important to have some time together alone.

It's the same with me and my boyfriend, but he has health problems and this is why we don't go out. I miss my time outside really much. I feel thirst of new hobbies or just hanging out somewhere, to see how other people live. To feel myself as person. I know that my boyfriend wanted to spend this summer with a lot of emotions, but unfortunately he can't go out. He has bad stones in his kidneys and if he makes some steps, he feel very bad pain. This is why i don't say him anything, i don't want him to feel guilty, but i know what are u talking about. May be if u make some plan for your free time, i mean walks, picnic or museum and you share your plans with him, he will want to join you? :) I know that u want to have good moments with him, but may be he will be interested, if he knows that time will be spent with you? :) Hugs and great wishes for future, from me. :)

I feel so guilty, your discussion reminds me my girlfriend. We've been together for 4 years. I love her so much but spending quality time for each of us is always an issue. Due to my hectic working schedule I can't find time to spent with her even holidays. I knew that understand my situation but I can feel deep inside her that she's misses the times when we go out for a date and the times when we go out of town. :(

yes...quality time together is definitely important to maintain the sparks of a relationship...me and my boyfriend has been together for 4 yrs now...and sometimes i do have the same issues as you have with your boyfriend too...money is definitely an issue with us too... we cannot deny it..it gets boring sometimes..if you stay at home all the time... it's nice to go out sometimes if there is an option where in we don't have to spend a lot... what i usually do..is i tell my boyfriend how i feel about our situation..i want to be honest with him so i always tell him upfront of how i felt...sometimes..., he'll give in but there are times that he's not in the mood and would tell me that i'm like a baby who demands to her daddy things like that... but i would just laugh it off... do you tell your partner how you feel about this?? i think it's better if he knows how you feel so that he will do something about it..=) have a great day...

oh well, maybe that's how life goes. I am with my partner for nearly 11 years and the only place that he'd taken me recently was at the mall to find a new gadget that he is longer to buy. I don't know if all men are like that but just like you, i wanted to go to a place where i can feel his undivided attention. I just want to put all my worries aside for one day and be reminded of the reason why i am with te man that i am today... haizt.....

Yes, it is very important to be able to do things with your partner, like go out...even if it is to a park or museum. Gas money is an issue all the time for me and my family, but we take walks quite often. It's fun to have bbq's, go to potlucks, and get together with the fsmily. I love doingthings like that, and the cost is very little. Spending time together keeps the relationship alive, and healthy :)

Hi, Phaedra_Scythe.;-) Having quality time together with your partner keeps the relationship going strong, indeed. Though, my husband and I had issues, we still do, but he'd still take me out at least every month. Not to fancy resto or events but just mere doing the grocery together or enjoying fast food. This is maybe the reason why we are still together despit of what we have been through. Money is also an issue because he is the one paying for everything because I'm a full time wife. Re your husband, why don't you express your wishes to him.Men are really slow guessing what women need so therefore they need to be told straight faced.Especially your husband who is busy making both ends meet for all of you, that every end of the day he just want to have peace and quiet with you. Enjoying the comfort of your home with you around.:-) So, tell him, dear. Do not whine unless he tells you HE HAS NO PLAN TO TAKE YOU OUT SOMEWHERE, EVER. I doubt if he will refuse you, so cheer up.:-)

My mom is like this she always gets mad at my dad because he never takes her anywhere and she wants to go to dances with him and stuff, but he never wants to because he always says that he's tired and wants to go to sleep. Still he now takes my mom to the mall on the weekends so that she wont get so mad at him, but this weekened my dad didn't take my mom to the mall so I don't know what is going to happen here hopely nothing bad though, but it means a lot to my mom that my dad needs to take her to places so that she wont be bored in the house all the time. It's a good thing that my aunts wedding is coming up so that they can have some fun together and just dance the night away and eat together and all that fun stuff that couples love to do well msrried couples.