Staying in an unhappy marriage for kids' sake or your own happiness?

It's a very difficult situation and it depends on many factors. The first may be the reason why you lost that love for your husband. Did you simply fell out of love or you found someone else? Is the feeling mutual between you and your husband? Does your children know about this estrangement? If so, how did they react? I have friends who quarreled a lot in front of their child that the child accepts its better for them to separate. There are those which you need to exert more time and effort for the children to understand the separation. Of course in most cases, the kids doesn't want their parents to separate. Whatever you decision will be, please consider the possible consequences. Consider your kids' feelings.

Have you tried marriage counseling? Your situation is really on the tough end since you can't decide immediately especially you have kids to consider. Does your husband know about it? I think you should try to work it out to see if it can still be revived, try counseling too, talk things with your husband, but if it still doesn't work, then I don't think it will be healthy for your children to be in a loveless home, plus you should be fair to yourself and to your husband if you can't really be happy with each other anymore, then you both deserve to be happy, may it be on your own or with someone else...just put things in the right place before doing so...God bless

Please don't stay in an unhappy relationship "for the sake of the kids". Children are SO much stronger than anyone gives them credit for - and when parents are unhappy, children are unhappy. Whether they express it or not, children live in the home every day and they see and hear things. Children absorb the negativity that takes place in a home where their parents are living unhappily and sometimes feel that whatever problems exist are their fault. It's not fair to burden children with an unhappy home. You have options - you can get counselling and see if you can work out your issues, your husband should perhaps get a full medical check up to ensure that he has no health issues that are affecting him (since you mention he is not holding a job and such), or you can decide that the marriage is not going to work and make positive steps to move forward as co-parents who are no longer spouses. If you are considering staying for the financial help of putting your children through school, this can be dealt with in a child support agreement. You can work together to set up something that will ensure your children have what they need. Ultimately, everyone deserves to be happy - including YOU. If you are unhappy, trust me - your children will be too. I hope you find the resolution that works for all of you and I wish you all the best :)