who would you believe more
By aguas_aj
@aguas_aj (498)
Philippines
August 2, 2010 10:04am CST
if you have a long time yaya (yaya from you're still so young) and a wife that doesn't go along. what would you do? if they are having issues that end up, talking to you to choose who is right,who would you believe if what they are telling is contrast to what each other is saying? I don't know why but some yaya's act so rude (not all though) to someone new in the family when they have stayed in the family for so so long.. please share your insight, seeing the person who helped your parents raise you up and your wife not in good terms.
2 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Well,yaya's are more protective than moms ok.
So,you cannot blame your yaya for being rude sometimes since she knows you much much more then your mom.
Plus factor is yaya tend to get jealous with wives as if they feel wives are their greatest rivals (attention and care).
The truth that yaya lives and knows you since birth (some yaya do) give them the courage that they know everything about you more than your wife.
The best thing to do is,live separately without your yaya.
Give your wife her chance to prove that she can be a good wife too.
In reality,wife and mother in law are both queen in the house and a kingdom only recognizes one queen (so it is not possible to live with wife and mom in law under one roof)
Same thing with yaya (yaya who acted like a sub-queen )hehehe.
Kidding aside,it is a treasure to have someone (yaya) who loves and cared us since birth.
Hope you can find the right solution
@aguas_aj (498)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I totally agree with you. Mothers and wives cant live in one kingdom. it would bring disaster in one way or another. I never lived together with my mother in law but i we use to live very near to her, and she does go there evryday living me no privacy at all. She technically decides to a lot of things. anyway for the sub-queen, yah, i agree, you cant live together with the sub-queen and the queen of the other kingdom. But what if they always say bad things about the wife, even if she's far from them already?
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
The sub-queen saying bad things about the wife is due to jealous.
The sub-queen cannot accept that,your not the same anymore.
They (sub-queen)think that you don't love them anymore that makes them jealous and dislike the wife in every way.
Thanks for the BR mark and have a good day always
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
7 Aug 10
well if i liked a guy and my family didnt like him i would ask them why. then i listen to their reasons but if i see that he loves me i will trust him. bcs sometimes when people look at first time they like say i dnt like him but when know him better they see who he really is so i always trust guy i love unless he gives me a big reason to dont trust him. and my family has to accept him^^
