Why does Girls care about Friends more than anything??

Malaysia
August 3, 2010 3:43am CST
When i mean more than anything, i mean why do they care about friends more than a relationship, more than starting a relationship? Recently a girl i know for 3 years , whom i like, and she liked me. But she told me this : Listen, i love you as a friend, and i don't want to ruin anything or our friendship. So i told her, listen, i need a relationship, i want get married and i want to have a son and etc. Because this girl and i used to kind of "mess" round but just as friends. So i m just sick of girls caring about friends only. Guys..please give me some opinion and advices.
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14 responses
• India
3 Aug 10
girl are more emotional than man, but it's clear that she is not sure for serious relationship with you , and try to prove one time for you seriously love , if she seems like ignore or dont give important .. than forget her
• Malaysia
4 Aug 10
YES..i agree with you.. Anyway..thanks for your advice..
@BStuff (495)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Hoes over Bros but seriously girls say they don't want ot ruin your friendship but it really means I don't want a relationship with you. I don't have strong enough feelings to settle for you. No offense, it sounds liek shes just trying to be polite. I'd move onto another girl to try to marry and have a child with. Good luck.
• Malaysia
4 Aug 10
Thanks for your advices..haha
@hushi22 (4928)
3 Aug 10
i don't think all girls are like that. i care me about my family and boyfriend than friends.
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
I think you're a nice girl, as least you know which one is important for you. Thanks for your opinion^^
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
Albert, obviously she is not the girl for you. For she like you as a friend, and nothing else. I know she want also to get married and have kids but not with you. For her your just a friend. If I were you find some other girls who can love you back the way you love her.
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
Ya, i also think that she is not serious with me. I will settle this with her later. Thanks for your opinion.
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
3 Aug 10
Hi buddy, not all the girls are the same. I'm very clear between friends and closer than fiends. As I can see from what she said to you, she just considered you as one of her friends. She hasn't been ready for a real relationship with you yet. Just have a talk with her and find out if her feeling for you is friendship or more than that. Then you could make your own decision. Good luck!
• Malaysia
4 Aug 10
If she treat me as friends, when valentine, she shouldn't go out date with me, shouldn't do some "couple things" with me... She is confusing me..
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
I'm a girl and I can understand where you're coming from.You're predicament is not far from any of my sisters'situation.I mean, a girl could envision herself with her boyfriend to be her husband and be with him forever then out of the blue the guys cheats and the relationship as well as the dream is over.Girls nowadays are more equipped with the thought of not committing oneself if they are unsure of.Honestly, majority of my girl friends have this preconceived notion that sooner or later guys would cheat and leave them brokenhearted beyond repairs.Armed with that,no girl would like to subject herself to such predicament.We'd rather stop any feelings we have just to save ourself from being subjected to a love lost.As friends,nothing is expected much.Emotional deposit is lesser.Maybe she still afraid to stake her heart to you.She needs time and a great deal of effort coming from you.Convince her and make your intentions apparent but not strangling.Try develop more meaningful endeavors with her and try also to focus on small details.I can assure you,girls may look different outside but still girls are girls.we love be worshipped??we love being taken cared of,being constantly wooed and we love being loved.
• Malaysia
4 Aug 10
Thanks for your advices^^
• Indonesia
3 Aug 10
Maybe she's just not into you? Because some girls (and boys) like to toy around their closest friends and one side might think he/she like him/her, but apparently he was just perceived as close friends and nothing more. I recently watched movie called (500) Days of Summer, it explains a guy that so crazy in love with her girlfriend that when she broke up their relationship, he still imagine this girl would come back to her. Apparently, this girl was just not sure about him to continue their relationship to the next step, so she broke up and when he met her she got married to another guy. It happened in life and I wish the best of luck for you bro, maybe things would get better between you two, the girl just need some time to decide...
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
Yes, i also think that she maybe just not into me. Personally, i think she prefer fooling around with her close friend than having a date with me. = = ''
• United States
3 Aug 10
Females connect in relationships on a deep level. The majority of the time they would rather keep a friend then have a boyfriend. Why? Simple if the relationship goes bad they may never get their friend back and that's something that don't want to risk losing. I know you felt strongly for the girl but apparently she's not ready to give you up as being her friend. Friendships and relationships can get messy but relationships are a different level of messy. Albert1989 you can either wait and see if she changes her mind or just move on and keep her as a friend.
@nuj_kmr (171)
• India
3 Aug 10
Yes I agree with your point girls care about friends more than anything because girls consider the best friend and when they go out of home they go together and they needs the friends and where as guys can go single.They are afraid for non living and they mind is soft .
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
But, beside than friends, girls also should think of their lover's feeling. Don't ignored their lover because of their friends. It is unfair to the man.
@rtsh_gup (185)
• India
3 Aug 10
What I think is girl is much better in understanding than boys...In each and every situation girls can be best problem solver...girl as a friend they sacrifice their precious time and come to help us when we are in problems......
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
If girl is much more understanding than boys, then, she should understand my feeling too when she said like that. For me, i think that not only girls will sacrifice their time,money or energy to help their friends, but man did that too.
@will_win (222)
• India
3 Aug 10
Ya it's really true that girls care about their friends more than anything because girls heart is like very smooth and soft.I do have two friends (girls) they are very helpful when we are in need of anything.If friends are girls then definitely you are going to be a good person in your life..As a friends girls proves better than boys.
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
Yup, many girls only care about their friends and they're good in friendship. I admit that. Maybe i should settle this problem between me and she. I really tired of that.
3 Aug 10
It is the sister code "Sisters over Misters" and people tend to panic if someone starts talking about marriage and kids that topic is best left untouched. And friends are always there for you no matter what. You seem to be a bit desperate from your choice of words. Let time take its course and you will find someone.
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
No, she told me that SHE ONLY LOVE ME AS FRIEND before i told her that, i want to get marriage and i want a complete family. I really don't know what she think in her mind.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I think some girl thinks that, boyfriends may leave you once they find someone else, but friends will never leave when you down, lonely, or your boyfriend leaves you. And maybe, the girl that you like was so afraid that once your in a relationship everything my change suddenly. Sometimes, someone would choose to be friends with someone rather than to have a relationship with him/her because he/she might destroy or the other might destroy the relationship. And once you have destroyed it, your relationship as friends will never be the same.
• Vietnam
4 Aug 10
Are you sure about that? I sorry but I don't understand your feeling now, I have to say that but girls I know, most of my friends who have a boyfriend , they love their men than everything, trust me!. In your situation, I think that it just a simple answer 'She doesn't love you'ok?