A Divorced Friend Wants To Know Why Married Women Flash Their Rings

United States
August 3, 2010 3:05pm CST
This is one of the funniest questions I've ever been asked. I have this one friend who's recenlty divorced and is back into the dating scene. He said: "You know what's funny? Every time I'm at a restaurant and happen to look around and see an attractive woman talking with her friends and she noticed I glanced over at her,it takes a few seconds before she straightens out her hair with her left hand and shows me that she already has a ring on her finger." I laughed. He asked: "Is this some sort of embedded primitive behavior that modern women use to send out signals that they're already taken?" I said: "I wonder what they did back in the Cave Age. Did cave women throw rocks at single males who looked at them?" What do you think of this and other non-verbal signals that people use to show unavailability?
9 responses
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 10
I guess your friend is attracted to unattainable ladies. Maybe because all the available ladies are too obvious. Well, those unavailable ladies thought by giving some signs they would save time (the men would not approach them), and they need not to explain their status when some men approach.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 10
A hunter, I see.
• United States
4 Aug 10
I think he's bored and looking around. I told him not to look and that it's best if he's looked at. But he says he's not much to look at so he does the looking.
• United States
4 Aug 10
lol because they proud of being married!
• United States
4 Aug 10
And her husband works at the same restaurant?!
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Hello tweetbird! I like your discussion, it really made me laugh!hahahaha. Actually I am still single but often throw signals to "spying" men that I don't like him, not that I am unavailable because I have no boyfriend, but the fact that I don't like the "naughty" stare or I don't feel that particular guy in general, I will right away send a signal of my disinterest by darting my gaze towards other direction, frown my head and show a hostile facial expression that send men away. As for the experience of your friend, I think it depends on the signal your friend is sending to women, if your friend showed a "flirting" look and happens to a married women, maybe that's the reason why women immediately gave hint that she is already married, but on the other hand, maybe the circumstance of revealing wedding ring is just a coincidence like it just happen that the women really want to fix something on their hair unknowingly displaying their precious rings...hmmm..this is just a wild opinion.LOL!
• United States
4 Aug 10
I think that if a woman (married or otherwise) is not interested in being glanced at, she has the right to put spying eyes in their place and vice-versa. LOL.
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
Women only do that stuff when the guy isn't their type lolz...if am the guy i will also flash my ring so she'll be taken aback. Seriously, some women just want to showoff but in reality they want to be chase.... this doesn't include me,ok! hehehe coz am the one who chase! lolz
• United States
4 Aug 10
Do you think George Clooney would get the ring flash or the ring removed? LOL.
• United States
4 Aug 10
I believe women intentionally flash their rings mainly to show them off. As if it were a great prize and or merit. I also believer women do so to show off, sorry I am a woman and have not had that luxury of doing so but if I was to get a really gigantic one, LOL this would be my reasons for doing so. hehehe...
• United States
4 Aug 10
In some countries, wedding rings are just a thin little band of gold that can barely be spotted from a distance. I wonder how they manage spying eyes.
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
I think it's a good way of telling somebody that they are not available anymore and don't want to entertain somebody else. Don't you think that women nowadays are not flirt because sometimes they will keep their rings just to keep that they are already taken and that they are free to see somebody. Well I guess that's one of the reasons why we are wearing a wedding ring, it's a symbol that we are already happy with a certain person and that we should be proud to show to other people.
• United States
4 Aug 10
I think you're right. I've heard that many restaurant waitresses wear rings just to keep flirtatious men/women off their backs.
@Galena (9110)
3 Aug 10
I really don't think that it's something married women do. although I have noticed similar when there is an engagement ring but no wedding ring. that's something people want other people to notice, probably because they just love their sparkly new ring and what it symbolises. but I think the more likely situation is that because she's recently divorced she is subconsciously checking to see if other women are still married, rather than them trying to show off that they are.
• United States
4 Aug 10
It's probably a reaction to "Whatcha lookin' at?"
@Bellapop (1279)
18 Aug 10
Nooooo, I think that was just a coincidence, or else yes, some people do get a bit paranoid about being chased by others when they are already taken. Men actually do it too, it's happened to me before when I just looked at a man, sure he was pretty attractive, but I wasn't even thinking of anything else, he just seemed nice to look at and I must have given some wrong signal, but of course nothing could have happen, what did he think I was going to do, and he started flashing his wedding ring at me, I was a bit shocked and insulted at the time, but then thought it was probably a coincidence, but now you've brought the subject up and that it happens to others, I'm pretty curious and wondering why....I think it's the wrong response to give out when someone is admiring you, after all you should feel flattered if someone finds you attractive, plus they are only looking and not jumping at you or pestering you for a date, so i think it's pretty rude for married people to flash their rings at you. People will definitely notice if you have a ring, because if they are looking fir things to go further they would look for your ring anyway. Surely it can't hurt for someone just to admire you from afar....
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
3 Aug 10
I think women do that on purpose to show you that their taken and to not waste your time and others it's just a coincidence and really don't care what you do. The way things are today married women don't care with a ring on or not really! We're funny that way, we send all the non verbal signals and expect you to know exactly what we're thinking and get mad and offended when you don't. lol
• United States
4 Aug 10
I think there is truth in what you said. My friend is reading these replies. They've been great, by the way.