Born just to give advice? How about myself?? :'(

Well I suggest you can wait for the right one, maybe someday a person going to ask for your advice would be the one you are looking for wouldn't that be a romantic way to find your true love. But if you have someone already love you can be close to that person and express your feelings silently until he fell for you. and one thing its really not good to have a problem that a couple have its really mind blowing and if its like the one happen to your friends, being cheated its really hurt and it might result to a broken trust, so don't just wish for it its might be granted and wish you didn't wish for it. Just look at the bright side you can help others because of your status now maybe its part of the plan of our creator to your life. I think you notice what's in the look of you friends faces do you want to be like them ? I suggest to go out with your friends and enjoy your single life before you get committed I know you where single for 5 years but what did you do in that 5 years? did you enjoy it or not? or in that 5 years of being single you always wishing for someone to be beside you? I think its not a way of enjoying your single life. maybe when you are ready for the responsibility of a commitment that is the time for you to have your own relationship.

Not being in a relationship can be depressing and what is interesting is that those that have not experienced it for any length of time really don't understand. I laugh sometimes when i think of all the people i know that leave one relationship and quickly enter into another without spending time to do self introspection about why the relationship did not last. Many times what we want is a lot different then what we actually do. we can realize this by examining the end result of our actions or inactions. You are sad about not being in a relationship but what are you doing to find one? Are you closing the door on opportunities without realizing? Can it be that you have some phobias or fears about relationships? You know many people will not take the chance of being hurt. What are you doing to reinforce your lonliness? Look within, the answer may have been there all the time. And like others, go to your friends and ask advice too. Who knows, they may know the person that is your future soulmate.

Iam in the same boat that you are. Im single but so many couple are asking me for advise. Sometimes i just feel like telling them. "Im alone and your asking me for advise?" "If i had all the answers would i be alone?" I believe that sometiems we absorb their problems. Kind of like a healer does. But at least we are helping someone with their problems. Sometimes just them couseling with someone helps them how to deal with it themselves. They will hear each other better with a witness to hear them.

Since they cheated on each other it is easier. Tell the boy who cheated, " Don't ever cheat again. Apologize and ask for forgiveness." Say the same thing to the girl. When they forgive each other, shake hand and patch up and be friends again. Be happy again.

So what if you don't have a bf for 5 years it doesn't mean you will never have one...hehehehe...be thankful because what's good does it make if they will make you cry anyway, and if you will tell me that's ok just to make you feel there is someone for you I think you are not ready for that kind of relationship,,,anyway be thankful because God is giving you time to prepare yourself for the perfect destiny only for you, but God wants you to be prepare so that when He gave the longings of your heart you know how to take good care of it with love that base on commitment, because if you don't I'll guess you'll spoiled it and you'll cry a river. So prepare and always remember you attract who you are so lets settle things in your life and deal with it so when the prince of your destiny appeared you know that you are ready to face another chapter of your life with someone besides you. Its hard to be in relationship when individually you are not both ready for the time and things you need now to deal with together. Isn't wonderful to wait patiently for God's timing while your preparing for that Man to comes along in your life...Isn't that sweet? God is really preparing for that someone where the other part of your happiness is with him. God Bless you. Cheer up! You are a very special and wonderfully love by our God.

ohh dont cry :( me too sometimes i feel that way. you know i really wanted to be friends with a guy, a chinese guy that comes to cafe where i work but i never have courage to ask his number. is like like that i can never even have a guy interested in me. me also i think i just was born to see others happy or with love probs and i help and i have no bf. but what comforts me is that we all have someone destined for us so sooner or later i will find him. think this way also bcs we all were born to love and be loved. it sometimes takes too long but it happens. dont cry, cheer up, dress up and if you look happy for sure a guy will fall for you^^ i heard that guys like happy girls ^^ dont cry^^ for sure a guy will love you also maybe there is a guy that likes you and didnt say. dont cry more and go out meet new guyss^^ for sure they will look at you bcs you are pretty and are sweet^^

himhekhies16 sometimes a person when he or she feels so alone tends to think only of his or her sad plight and the more he or she dwells on it the bigger it seems to grow. alone, no relationship yet you have forgotten your own parents, your own friends.You still have lots of time to find someone to love and be loved by. the one poster here reminds you of God which is good of cou rse. But also when I got down in the dumps I p;icked myself up and went and volunteered at my local hospital from that I got a job working as a nurses aide. when you are helping others you do not have a lot of time to be sorry for yourself. And eventually while working as an aide I met Mr. Right and we fell in love at first sight.We were both hospital workers so we had that in common and lots of other things in common, six weeks later we got married. we were so comfortable with each other we could talk for hours and feel as if we had known each other all our lives. We had 33 h otyears of a great marriage ev en with ups and down as we always loved each other. You will meet the right guy one day soon and it will be so great so look forward to that and keep an eye out for him.

Now I feel sad for you...It is wonderful that people come to you for advice, it must mean that you are a kind and understanding person and at your young age that is a gift. You are still so very young and you are going to have so many opportunities to meet someone special! In the meantime you should feel proud of the special person you are. If you focus on doing the things you love to do, caring for yourself and forget about a potential partner and be happy I am willing to bet that you will be with somebody special before you know it! Good luck to you!

Did you cried because you were single for 5 years. You know this does not mean that you will not find anyone that fits you. You should live your life meanwhile and one day you will find someone. It will come naturally. Most of the time it happens when you least expect it. Like it happened to me and my girlfriend. Well good luck and stop crying.

Hi mhekhies16, After being without a partner for five years, I would imagine that you feel lonely, especially when you see your friends together as couples, even if they are fighting. Is there a special reason why you have not dated in five years? Is this by your personal choice? If the answer is yes, then you have your own solutions to your loneliness. You've got to put yourself back in the dating arena. Being a couple's counselor is not a bad career. If you are really good at it, this maybe one of your callings. However, I don't think you were meant to be single for ever. I was unattached for eight years and then the most wonderful man came into my life. I experience the most wonderful life with him. So don't give up, and in the meantime do something to enhance your life.

I am so touched after reading your post. No one is free of problems. All have them in some form or the other. Make the most of what you already have. People come to you with their problems with their advice because they trust you. You must draw a solace out of this.

You deserve a LOT of advice and a lot of help. I've been helping women find someone to love. Would you like me to help you as well ?

Don't be sad mhekhies, maybe you don't have your prince charming yet. God is still polishing the person that is meant for you. Love comes in unexpected time and place. Me either I also felt that way before, I even wanted to be a nun because I don't have any boyfriend for a long time but look at me now I am happy with my first boyfriend and we are together for 5 years. I even prayed for it every night that God will give me the person that I deserved. It's just a matter of waiting, they said there is a great reward for people who knows how to wait. Being single is also a calling, try to enjoy what you have right now. Remember not all people who are in a relationship are happy. Enjoy life and wait for mr. right .:)

I think you look good..I think many guys are courting you right now but they're not your type. Even though you don't really like them, just give them a chance. I am sure that time will come that you will learn to like and love them, And you won't be lonely anymore. You will be more happy with your life because you have a partner to share your ups and downs in life!

ONe t hing ya have to get over being alone which you arent if you have family. ya just havent got a partner my dughter says that when ya stop looking then someone will fall in place with you . My soul mate did and so did hers.

I don't believe that anyone is born to give advice. Some people are just better at giving it out. Those who are good advice givers just seem to get involved in everyone's issues. They may not even intend to, but it happens. When someone is good at giving advice, it just feels like you were born doing it.

Don't be sad. Everyone has got to have someone to love. Don't worry.

I suddenly look at your profile and you are just 22 years old. You know what girl? I had my first boyfriend when I was 23 years old already. Having relationship is not something that you should search but it will suddenly came as long as you are matured enough to commit yourself into relationship. I think you must enjoy being single since it is not a big joke when you are committed. Actually I am wondering if how can you be able to give advise in relationship wherein you haven't experienced that? Do you think it is really easy for you to give advise? How do you believe that you are also credible enough that the couple should ask and advise from you? What are your basis? Because one way or another when you are in relationship you will be challenge as well. You don't know maybe that would be more challenging compare to your friends that you give an advise.

I can relate to you friend. I have been single almost all my life. Except for a week when I was 12 years old when I had a boyfriend. But I don't consider that anything serious since I was just a kid then. Then my next relationship was with my current boyfriend. I was 31 years old when he became my boyfriend. So that's 19 years or singlehood. So all that time I watched as my best friend changed boyfriends, my friends got hurt by their boyfriends and such. They usually came to me for advice because they say I am rational and sensible. Unlike them, I'm not jaded by emotions when I look at a problem. I also felt what you felt. Until I reached my 30th birthday. I said to my self, I have got to love myself more. Take care of myself and be happy even if I was by myself. I changed my point of view. I didn't feel alone anymore. But, as fate would have it, I was gifted with a wonderful guy. All I'm saying is that enjoy your life. You're young. Do what makes you feel good and what will improve your life. Since you don't have a guy now, focus on yourself. Make yourself happy and successful. You deserve to be happy. Don't let someone else be the source of your happiness. Otherwise, it will always be attached to another person and not yourself. Smile friend!

Hi mhekhies, I think you should socialize with friends too for you to have one, I mean for you to start a relationship with somebody. I know time will come you experience that too and expect bundles of relationship problems coming through... Good luck.