How do you teach your children . . .
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
United States
August 4, 2010 2:48pm CST
. . . that it is easier to just do the work they need to do, rather than wasting time and energy concocting ways to get out of said work?
My son is six years old and when he doesn't want to do a particular chore, he will waste so much time and energy coming up with ways to try and get out of doing it, when it would be SO much easier on all of us if he'd just do what he's told to do. My fiance and I always stand firm and make sure he does do what he is required, but it takes so much energy from us to deal with the whining, the dishonesty, the deliberate destruction of his things at times, etc. He decides he doesn't want to do something, he goes to such great lengths to get away with not doing it.
I'm just looking for new ideas and ways to deal with this issue. Thank you!
5 responses
@rosie230 (1696)
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4 Aug 10
Well the way that I deal with things like that with my 9 year old, is to take something he likes away from him, or stop him from doing something that he likes. It does work, and now he knows what will happen so he just does what I ask him, and things get easier. A little punishment is not harsh, they do learn eventually.
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Thank you for your suggestion - I appreciate it! However, we've found that when we try this with our son, a lot of times it just makes him more upset/angry at us, he digs his heels in even harder and becomes even more resistant to doing what we've told him to do. We give him video game/computer time as a reward for good behavior, yet as soon as he's gotten his reward, he's back to trying to do whatever he feels like, or not doing things he's supposed to. We take away his video game/computer time when he's being insolent, but we've found that it generally just makes him even more insolent, because he's not getting what he wants when he wants it. I sometimes wonder if this is normal for a six year old, or something we should be concerned about, because I just don't want him to turn out to be a selfish, lazy, ungrateful adult. I worry so much about this!
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 10
Hi,
It is not easy to handle a little boy at home.
I am a mother of one little boy,my son is 3.5 years old now.
He can be quite stubborn sometimes, he just want to get the things he
want and without further delay.
So what I will do is : talk to him nicely and explain to him,
he may not be understand that much,but slowly he will absord my words.
Then I will try to spent more time with him. We will
read story book,play toys,watch Cartoons(dvd),sing songs together.
ACtually kid need our attention all the time and they may try to make
us get angry just to attract our attention.
So whenever I am free, I will try to spend more time with my son.
Do reward your boy when he does something well. It is a kinda of encouragement
for him. The rewards can be his favourite drink like vitagen,yoghurt or some
healthy snacks.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
4 Aug 10
My daughter is only 3 but my husband and I both stick with if we ask her to do something she has to do it. She is usually pretty good but every once in a while it takes a few trips to the corrner. At three she already knows that if I say no she goes and asks her dad. I usually call up and tell him what I said. When she does it the other way around I was already listening anyway so I know which side I have to take. I know it will probably be a problem later she is a lot like me already and I was such a pain in the butt when I didn't want to do something. I would say take things away from him. I have taken my daughters right to watch tv away when she dosen't listen. With older kids there is more to take away. If he is being distructfull with his things I would defently take them away. I would make him earn back everything that is taken.
