How do you deal with a girl who flirts with you but only wants to be friends?

August 4, 2010 4:56pm CST
Well I have know this girl for quite some time and it has been all "Ross and Rachel" with us. Well we do spend a lot of time together and well to a degree she flirts a lot and believe me I do like her but she's with another guy and I dont want to make her split up with him. Its like she is waiting for her to ask her out but I dont wanna go thorugh the whole Ross and Rachel story all over again. Any help please?
6 responses
• Canada
6 Aug 10
If this girl is in a relationship with another guy but flirting with you, I'd be careful. She might just be the type of person that flirts because she likes the attention she gets for doing it. It's disrespectful to her boyfriend that she's flirting with you - and it's unfair of her to be flirting with you when she knows she is not available. If they are having problems (even though you might not be aware of them), she needs to either fix or end that relationship before doing anything to purposely attract your attention. A bit of flirting once in awhile can just be harmless fun between you... but if she is flirting with you constantly, ask her why or tell her to knock it off... or let her flirt all she likes... whatever you are comfortable with. But, in my opinion, don't try to go anywhere with it until she is free and not with another guy. Just seems like far too much potential for everyone involved to get hurt.
• Saudi Arabia
5 Aug 10
For me if the girl makes flirt with you then try to make flirt with her also.Dont expect something be a man dude.Sometimes we are the one setting our self in the situation that can make our self feel something rather than taking the other path of enjoying what you have right now.For now a days there a lot of situation like this falling to the situation like this.And remember Flirt is flirt dont make your self use by this situation.Try to be a man, if she enjoy your company so be it in the other side try also to enjoy her company.Dont expect something that can hurt you at the end.
@diamania (7011)
• Netherlands
4 Aug 10
There must be a reason for her to flirt with you. Maybe things aren't so Ross and Rachel between her and her boyfriend. Just play the game with her, be challenging, it won't do you damage.
• China
5 Aug 10
Tell her you thought, and then let it be...
• South Korea
4 Aug 10
sometimes you can just misunderstood the situation...lol but if theres really something... i know you were not born yesterday to feel it...its just that sometimes theres a lot of girls who like to flirt just because of nothing...or maybe she wanna be close to you,,,lol anyway hope you will know the right thing to do:)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
It is rather a complicated situation coz you just might end up having a fight with her boyfriend. But if you think that their relationship is nowhere near destruction, then I suggest that you be the one to make the move of avoiding her completely.