decisions decisions
By figurativeme
@figurativeme (1089)
Philippines
August 7, 2010 9:37am CST
This question was thrown at me by a friend...When do you know when to control your temper and hold your tongue back and when do you retort or answer back? I gave her three options and added that the bottom line is, the choice is hers considering her own reality and not anybody else's.
Of course in life, there is no right and wrong answers. Only trial and errors and learning from one's mistakes. But what do you think?
5 responses
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
7 Aug 10
Hi figurativeme,
I think when you get angry, you lose control. You lose control over your rational thinking. You are more likely to do something or say something that you will regret, maybe for the rest of your life.
Ranting and raving isn't necessary to get your point across to someone that you want to "set straight." You don't have to hold back on your words, you just have to know how to control the tongue. Your words can be more profound and to the point if you keep a "cool head." You will say what you mean and mean what you say.
Everyone has a choice as to how they want to handle a situation. Some feel better ranting and raving up in someone's face not making any sense, not even making a point. After all the showboating, they have time to reflect on their behavior, wishing they had said this or that. Oops! Too late now, the fight is over.
Staying cool makes you the winner.
@figurativeme (1089)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
Hi! Thanks for your comment. Staying cool really does make you the winner. I found that out myself several times over though it could be extremely difficult when you are provoked.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Hi figurativenme,
Being provoked and keeping your cool is a tough combination, but you have proven that it can be done. Bravo to you.
@biggbabe (13)
• United States
7 Aug 10
i think that holding your tongue is ultimately the best way to be all of the time,because speaking out of anger or with a fast response always makes you sit back and think that you could have said something better or if you didnt say anything at all you would have been better off.in my opinion we live in a society of talkers and not listeners.the key ingrediant when living in this world is to be extremely quite and dont allow anyone to know your thoughts on subjects,then and only then will you learn other people and their feelings and actions.the person that speaks the least in the room has the most insight on the topic.
@figurativeme (1089)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
Hi! Thanks for your comment. I like what you said of "society of talkers." We would be better off indeed if we listen more and talk less.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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7 Aug 10
I tend to think that we should count to ten,as that way when we say an answer even if we are angry or not then we at least have the chance to think before we speak.I always think before i answer anything that people ask me as i think that way i can not answer it wrong.
@mabey1 (334)
• Romania
7 Aug 10
i think that all depands on the situation. i often were in situation when would have been better to answer back but nothing good came in my mind at that moment , only latter but it was late then. and i happend to me that would have been better if i 've hold my taung. simply you have to jugde when you're in that possition.
