"Important" friends?

@mentalward (14690)
United States
August 7, 2010 10:00am CST
I subscribe to eDiets and they have a daily horoscope with their emails. Sometimes, I'll read them although I don't believe everything (most things) they say. Well, I read today's just because. In my horoscope, it mentioned "important friends". That stopped me dead in my tracks. Important? As if there are unimportant friends? Here's what I read: "You've got plenty of energy -- but it's not all good! That doesn't mean it's a bad day, though, as you should be able to get plenty done and open up a few new conversations with important friends." (From: http://www.ediets.com/astrology/?sign=Aries&horoscope=overview&day=today ) How can one have "important" and "unimportant" friends? Aren't all friends important? I mean, we can know a lot of people but they aren't all friends, right? Some are just aquaintances. Some are co-workers. Some are family. Some are attached in one way or another to our friends. But not everyone we know are considered "friends". Needless to say, I was highly put off by this horoscope. So put off that I intend to write to eDiets and let them know that, wherever they get their horoscopes from, they need to screen them better. I doubt I'll hear back but it's the principle of the thing, you know? I respect eDiets. They've helped me a lot in preparing nutritious, low-calorie and, more importantly, good-tasting meals. I am just upset that they would print something like this because I'm almost positive anyone working for eDiets would not like reading what I read. Maybe I'm making too big a deal of it but I would NEVER call some of my friends "important" even if I never called any "unimportant" simply because it implies that not all of my friends are important to me. Every single person I know whom I can honestly call "friend" is important to me. Maybe it's my English background (as in language, not location) and 20 years as a proofreader but that term, "important friends" just rubs me the wrong way. How do you feel about this? If you were to see something like this in an email, newspaper, magazine, etc., would you have the same thought as I have? I think somebody needs a new editor!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
7 Aug 10
Hi Marti I totally agree with you that was a stupid term to put there I would have had to look twice to as you say all Friends are important and dear to me to so I do not know where that Term has come from to be honest Someone needs to look at what they are writing there How did it go at the Doctor Girl you didn't say Big Hugs
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
7 Aug 10
I answered that on your last post, Gabs. The specialist is sending me for an MRI. A CLOSED MRI. I hate them! I've been in both and I have to say that the open MRI machines are sooooooooooooo much nicer! There's no claustrophobia with them but, with those closed ones, they make you feel like you're a sardine in a can. Have you ever had one? I had two in a closed machine on my right shoulder 12 years ago and one open scan for my liver a few years ago. I MUCH prefer those open ones, even though I'm not claustrophobic. Having the tip of your nose only a few inches away from the top of this machine can be very disturbing. I'll just close my eyes and pretend I'm somewhere else for the duration. They usually take about 45 minutes. I'm meeting the surgeon the next day (next Friday) to go over the scan and discuss the next step. From what he said on Friday, it looks like it's almost a sure thing that I'll be having surgery and they'll most likely be going through the front of my neck so I'll have a scar there. I already have a lot of scars but most of them are hidden by my clothes. Guess I'll be wearing a lot of scarves in my old age, huh? LOL I'll keep you posted once I have more info, probably next Friday. In the meantime, you take care of yourself and Gissi. Is he feeling any better? Are YOU feeling better? I really wish I could hop on a plane and get over there to help you with whatever. Between the two of us, we might make one healthy, whole person.
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
16 Aug 10
I'm with you girl on this one. I have several acquaintances and many friends, BUT...I consider each and every one of them EQUALLY important to me. I also have a phrase which I hold and keep. "I have no enemies, only friends I have yet to meet." Perhaps eDiets might want to start with that in mind? You're welcome to use it in your rebuttal to them...and of course it goes without saying, it's yours to keep for yourself as well. Cheers, my important friend; CDRXO
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Aug 10
"Unimportant friends" sounds like an oxymoron to me!!!
• United States
11 Aug 10
i think its more of not importance but closeness.. i mean your best friend is more important than a casual friend etc.. not that there are unimportant friends but just that some are just more special.. but im just guessing at that
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
8 Aug 10
I agree that it sounds like a strange thing to say; it wasn’t important ‘person’ but important’ friend’. I would hate the idea of labelling my friends as important or as unimportant! I think whoever wrote that didn’t give it enough thought and it is something they should look at more carefully in the future. It may well be worth writing to the site about this silly comment.
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
Maybe not just a new editor but a new CEO too. The CEO should have read and approved this article. Well it kinda implies to me that the person who wrote this feels so superior and famous, but even the fans are important. There wouldn't be any fans if there was just a "FAN". Someone who might be plastic to think that he/she is the perfect creation of this world. I don't want to judge this person cause maybe it's really what he/she meant to say. I believe all friends are important and if they aren't they're just not supposed to be friends anymore.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Hey Marti! Am I important? Just teasing ya! Now on with your discussion, I can see how it would rub one the wrong way however, I don't think it was meant to be taken that way. I think it was just aquitances.... people you know but not that well or don't like. You could have a hundred or thousands of friends that are important to you and have a few that.... well.... to see them would be a day too soon. Even I have a few of those! LOL Shhhhh! Don't tell anybody!! lol
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Hey MW! I definitely see your point and it sounds really ridiculous! As you say, who has "unimportant" friends? That makes no sense whatsoever to me either! It just doesn't fit with the word "friend"! Maybe they should take the time to study the English language before they use a term like that! I would think twice about listening to a site that makes such statements.