Should i help him?
By cindyhxf
@cindyhxf (1446)
China
August 7, 2010 11:59pm CST
Hi dear lotters,
one of my friend sent me message by phone and said he was robbed .he was in police office and needed my help.i felt a little strange that we just met one time,he is a mamager of a company,i think he has many closed friend and we just contact at work.i understand him and i heard many these cases some bad guy use other phone and cheat their friends .i worried about that,and sent back message and asked my friend call me and i can make sure his voice.he said,ok,i will call later.after ten minutes,two strange phone number called my phone,i thought they are not my friend
s phone,i was sure they are cheat. at that time,i turned off because it is midnight.
the next mornight,my friend sent me message by MSN,he said why i didn't help him? i asked why you didn't call me is it really you ?why you don't asked your closed friend or workmaters to lend you money. he said most of his closed friends are in other city ,he really needs my help.i said i don't believe you too much.he came this city several years as i knew.why he just asked me to lend money?
thanks for your idea
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8 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Aug 10
I think you were right, when you could not confirm or was not sure that it was actually 'he', who was asking for your help, it was not possible for you help. Moreover, your friend should understand that it was not obligatory on your part to help him till you are very very close.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
22 Sep 10
Hi. cindyhxf. Maybe he trusts you. I still think that it is very odd that he needs your help all of a suddenly. He may very well be in trouble. Before I would help him out I would have to ask him more questions. And I would need to be able to trust him too.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
I also find it strange that this casual friend of yours choose you to ask for help.
Maybe he is really telling you the truth and the best thing to do is if you really want to help him maybe you can check in police station first if there was a real incident reported about him being robbed the other night.
Regarding the kind of help he needed...if it concerns about money then that might be a big problem if you don't have. But you can always help him in some small ways.
Just don't trust that much he could be lying to you.
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
8 Aug 10
i said to him can i just lend you 100CY,he said no,he needs more.but today i make sure it is him,anyway,i am not his best friend.i lent some money before,but they didn't give me back till now.i didn't want to lend too much .he has much more relative and best friends i think.they could help him.why just asked me?
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Yeah I don't think that it would be a very good idea to lend him money because his story does seem fishy. Still he can always go to his family why ask you if the two of you are not even best friends. Anyway do what you think is right. Still if I were in your situation I would not lend out the money. Good luck.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
If I were in your situation I would have done the same thing. I am cautious in helping other people whom I really don't know. Especially if involves situations like that. Back in college a friend of mine was implicated just because he accompanied his classmate who happened to be an extortionist in meeting a someone. Although the case was dropped it was still embarrassing for him. That is why I am also careful in helping people who aren't that close to me.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Aug 10
hi cindybxf I also find it odd that he would ask you who is just really only an acquaintance for money if he has relatives and other friends. I
do not think I would help him with money if its a goodly sum as it is
unusual to ask someone he does not really know. Also how do you know he is in the police office, he could be making all this up. I think I would tell him I am sorry but I am just out of money.Usually people who have been robbed will call their closest relative. no I would bypass this myself.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Too many holes in his story! That's what I think anyway. I think it makes it difficult that you just met him and now he wants money? Uh-uh! No way! And what does he need money for? He was robbed he doesn't need to pay a fine. I am sorry, I would tell him I didn't know him well enough to give him money yet.
