Let's talk about Soulmates...

Philippines
August 10, 2010 7:07pm CST
At this time in your life, have you met your soulmate? Soulmate (acc. to the online urban dictionary) is the one person who can always make you smile, who shares your hopes and dreams, who makes you whole. If you have, what role is he/she playing in your life? Is he/she your lover? Your best friend? Your childhood friend? Your neighbor? Your sibling? (It's possible!) When introduced to the idea of a soulmate, most of us think of "the marriage partner". However, the only person I can consider my soulmate happens to be my best friend, and I can't possibly imagine marrying him. Ever. Why is that? Does that mean that I can never end up with MY soulmate as a lifetime partner now? Can there be more than one soulmate in a lifetime?
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
i met mine after we broke up. lol! i consider her as my soulmate and my best friend. :)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Whoa! Really? LOL! That's a rare one. ;))
• China
11 Aug 10
Like an old chinese word "????" means soulmate is difficult to find..and turely it is really difficult Before I thought soulmate is like best friend,but later one of my best friend changed a little and then our relationship is a little above friendship but still not lover,I think at that time she is really my soulmate,we have a similar family background so we can talk a lot about the pains and happiness..but...after one year she told me she love me..then....everything changed.becouse indeed I don't love her,we talk rare from that time..sign....- - And there is a second time I think I found a soulmate..my first love..For me and she ,we are both Aries and also a similar family background and we work together in Student Union,everyday we see each other and even eat together,we talk everything,so soon we become soulmate..yeah really soulmate..at that time when we are together,others may envy us,if her phone rings,after she hang off,I will definitly know who is telephone her,and so do she..... but long after that I told her my feeling.she tell me she doesn't know if she love me or not..and then late I discover she is not honest to me ...so this time is me choose to stop... So for me the two soulmate are both developed from friend, but how to say,I think for two person if one love another ,then it is easy they become soulmate..like me..indeed the two situation is both becouse of love!..And apart from this..when two person are becoming soulmate .is maybe very very dangerous relationship,cuz one can suddenly realise he/she is love the other one,and if so...if not been well resolved..the soulmate relationship will broke.......
• United States
15 Aug 10
That is a difficult place to be in yes. Having someone that is your soul mate, an emotionally intimate person who you can't imagine being without and then moving from 'friend' to 'more' but worried about wrecking the friendship. Honestly, there are some past relationships with really dear 'best friend/soulmate' that I wish I could have kept only at the friendship level so that after the fleeting love had burned out, it didn't return to being awkward and painful to be near one another.
@Darkwing (21586)
11 Aug 10
I believe we have more than one soulmate. Indeed, we can have many, but we only have one twin soulmate. We possibly won't encounter them every time round, but on occasion we do. I've met a few in this lifetime, including my twin. Some are male, some are female. So... a soulmate can be several things, but it's usually your twin that you partner with. Brightest Blessings.
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
11 Aug 10
I never did believe in soulmates- until I found mine :) As they say you will find love in some of the oddest places. In my case it is an old schoolmate that I have reconnected with after 20 years of not seeing one another and have fallen for each other. Him nor I understand what is happening to us..all we know is we have never felt this way for anyone else before...I thought I once was in love...now I know that I am just experiencing true love for the first time now with him
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
That's so sweet! :)) I'm so happy for you. :))
• Portugal
12 Aug 10
i heard that we have more than one soulmate but about me i prefer to have just one that is my bf when i have one ahah is more romantic for me^^ anyway i didnt meet him or maybe i did but dont know yet ^^ i always have bad luck with guys they say they care but never have time for me. anyway im not lucky at all but one day i will find my soulmate bcs everyone has one ahah^^
• Canada
11 Aug 10
I don't have a soulmate yet. Who knows when you're gonna meet her.
• United States
11 Aug 10
I dont think there is more than one soulmate, i think we are fooled by those we think are our soulmates but really aren't. we all play a character in this world and the character changes often i think we almost always alter ourselves to be kinda or close enough to what the other person wants us to be and htat can be mistaken for being the perfect person but thats not how it works i think its hard to find a soulmate when we're so easiyl influenced.
@colanah (15)
• United States
11 Aug 10
That's a really great question. I believe that I have found my soul mate even if I couldn't imagine him filling that role when we first met and became friends. He's been so different than me in so many ways but through arguments and confiding, through tears and laughter, he's been steadfast and right there. I was truly honored when we moved into a closer relationship even though we both agreed to keep it light and support the other if we ever chose to pursue someone else. Strangely, even though we've tried, we seem to continue to gravitate back to one another and even he's surprised by the degree of spiritual closeness we share after all these years. We're still learning things about one another though we know each other so well. I hope this lasts for a long time and can genuinely say that if we do cease being lovers, we would still be one another's support in life. Also, I think that you can have your soulmate in your life as a support and a spiritual pillar to turn to but that when you find the one that you love, your friend will encourage you and want nothing more than your happiness. Also, why couldn't you imagine the best friend as more? I couldn't imagine it for mine but the years turned the friendship into something else. Then again, some people are destined to be deeply and fully loving towards a dear friend without ever going into the stage of being partners.