Im suffering, please help me.

Philippines
August 12, 2010 4:25am CST
I'm very sad now, I have no work, no boyfriend, no real friends, and we are suffering from financial problems. Can you help me how to be happy despite these situations? And can you help me what to do? I'm so always bothered. I can't even sleep at night because of those problems. I often cry. I'm so sad. I need your help.
17 responses
@kd_fmay (554)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Hello akiramee! I have nothing to say but let me pray for you..... Dear God, I acknowledge your lordship in my life. I'm humbly come to your throne and asking for Your mercy in the life of akiramee. She's sad now, no work, no boyfriend and had a financial problem. Please meet her needs and show her that You are the only source of true happiness in this world. Sometimes we forget that and we are asking for your forgiveness. Nothing is impossible to You lord. You hear the prayer of your child with a sincere heart and with no doubt. We are thankful that we have big God... too big for our problems. We give thanks because we know that all things work together for our good, and by faith we claim an answered prayer. We ask this God in the mighty name of Jesus, our Saviour. Amen! Believe akiramee and you will receive. I will remember you in my prayers. God bless you! ^_^
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@kd_fmay (554)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Hi OreCookie3! Praise God for that. What do you mean gift of writing? I love reading articles and poems.... I would be glad if you share with me some of yours...
@lolo58 (54)
• United States
12 Aug 10
I am honored and humbled to be a part of family of faith that prays online to help another. kd_fmay - thank you...I think we can all relate that there are times in life we are in total dismay and we tend to lean on ourselves for understanding. Our Lord wants us to lean on him, acknowledge him in all our ways and "HE" will direct our paths.
@kd_fmay (554)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
I really felt like praying for her instead of giving some encouraging words... You're welcome lolo58.... Nice meeting you! God bless!
• India
12 Aug 10
Hi, I completely understand your condition as I've been in a situation like this several times in my life. I used to be sad, depressed. I had break up. I fell into financial crisis. Everything around me seemed to go against me. Since then I started to analyze the meaning and purpose of my life. I became a bit more introspective. I became a seeker. I wanted me to become self reliant, I wanted to be happy independent of my surroundings. After considering on the matter for days, the secret was suddenly revealed to me like a magic. I still don't have a job. Nor do I have a girlfriend or any real friend on whom I can depend on. I still have sickening financial problems. But in spite of all that, I am extremely satisfied and happy. Read this article I've written http://socyberty.com/future/are-we-living-in-the-present/ During most of our lives we either live in the past or dwell in the future, but never try to stick to the present. To become independent of the surroundings is the sole basis of meditation. With constant practice of meditation you will be able to live by your own self. http://socyberty.com/spirituality/how-to-meditate-5/ We should gather up all our strength to face the ultimate. Imagine what will happen if you don't get a job or, don't get a boyfriend of your choice. Will you die? Will you go insane? Wait, you don't know that yet. Do you? Then why making conjectures all the time. It's only hindering your progress. You've set out on a journey. Don't look back every now and then. Let go of your ego. Ego plays a vital role in misleading us. Ego and wisdom can't coexist. http://socyberty.com/advice/how-to-let-go-of-your-ego-and-be-forever-happy/ We don't hurt each other. In reality, my ego hurts me, your ego hurts you. Individually, we are truly indifferent soul. True independence always emerges from the freedom you gain from the slavery of your own senses. http://www.wikinut.com/the-true-meaning-of-independence/uh8lcjbt/c0rm--_m/ Be free. Be happy. Once again, meditate regularly to stay motivated. Meditation brings you humility, self respect, kindness and strength. Meditation slowly but surely, removes all the obstacles from your path. Read http://www.bukisa.com/articles/289625_staying-motivated-through-meditation and you will know how meditation may help you regain your happiness and strength. To be quite frank it is our happiness that is our real strength. I am always here to help you, whenever you need it. Just have faith in God. Give him entire authority to decide things for you. He always has something good in store for you. You must first have faith in miracle to actually see one happening in your life. Thanks. God bless you
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Wow! Thank you Getbiswa2000. I have nothing more to say.You are so kind. Thank you. Thank you. God bless you too. Thanks for reminding me of God. Good day friend.
@akn1961 (1034)
• India
13 Aug 10
belive in god and your self ,do not be sad ,try try try u will find better result and u will be happy
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
We're on the same boat right now Akiramee. I mean the suffering part-- but mine is more of emotional suffering. My heart aches once in awhile because of some losses i went through lately. But i try my best to look forward to that one day i'll be happy once again. Thats what's keeping me sane these days. Because i know sufferings pass by..just like any situations in life.everything will be fine one day.. I may just drift now on the seabed of the unknown but i know one of these days, my sunny sunshine will come back..and make me smile once more. So don't lose hope! you're not alone..
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Oh I'm sorry about you. You know I felt so weak last few days. I wasn't accepted in a job hiring. It was my first time to apply that's why I really felt so bad about it even until now. Yes, everything would be fine for us.We really have to be strong. Thanks.
• China
13 Aug 10
Hi~ akiramee I am sorry to hear that.. I suggest you to try some new things.. yeah~.when anytime I was down..I will do some new things.. The new things can be ..watch a new movie,listen to some new songs ,or the best is to try some New things like trying an sports you never play,...then you will be fine I think.. but after this..I think you have to thought about what is important now ,,the job?or someother thing..
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes, the job. Thanks for your time.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hi Akira, everyone goes through what your feeling right now. Read the bible and get to know Christ Jesus.. http://tropical-nut.blogspot.com/2010/08/he-is-enough.html http://tropical-nut.blogspot.com/2010/08/gad-or-god.html
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes. Thanks.
@BigTips (305)
• China
13 Aug 10
In my eyes, if you want to change the current condition, you need to change yourself firstly. As you have said above, you have no real friends, no boyfriend, no work, etc. Then, if you want to escape from such a bad situation, you need to spend some time on making friendship with others, trying to communication with your true heart and gain the trust of others, stopping bothered. Only in this way, can you enjoy a better life gradually. Of course, if you have no confidence in changing such a bad situation, perhaps you need to gain help from the mental doctors.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
No, I don't want to go to mental Doctor. I'm not sick. I'm just depress. Changing would be enough. he he he. Thanks.
@laura27 (74)
• United States
12 Aug 10
Awwwl! I don't like to see people sad. Just keep believing in yourself that things will get better even if its not right now. Don't let life get you down. Ask god for help everyday and pray. I myself been in situations to the point where I almost lost hope on life completely. Until I start telling myself that things will get better in my life. I'm right along with you when it comes to financial woes. Continue to have the confidence to search around for work, trust me I know its not an easy process. But when you take steps and some of them get accomplished. You'll be proud of you. Show yourself you're not going to let these tough times stop you from striving the best to get back on your feet.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I didn't expect there are so many good people in the earth. And you are one among them. Thank you for a very good advice Laura. You're so nice. I wished I could hear these words from my family.Sad. You're right.I must be strong always. Thank you again.
• India
12 Aug 10
i have been through this situation all i can say is that whatever happens with us is for our's goodness..this is the test that we have to pass ..have faith in god every thing will be alright..but just don't sit praying ..do something to rectify this situation ..only those are afraid who don't believe in themselves and in God..pray,hope,belive.. god bless you
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Okay, thank you. God bless you too.
@SimpleBB (1330)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Akiramee, hi, You're sad now for not having a work, a boyfriend, real friend plus financial problems. So you mean, you're not sad during the times that you have all of these in your life, right? I've been through the same situation as yours, and it created a feeling of depression, but when I realized it's effect, it is more disaster. Why? It will ruin your tomorrow. All I can say is that if we can accept happiness, we have to learn how to accept its opposite. Besides, it's not always rainy days. I also have no boyfriends, but I know I have lots of friends, real good ones. There are also my family whom I can rely on especially in such situation, and most importantly, always cast your burden to HIM up there. HE knows all our needs as well as those what are good for us. Look for new some real friends, It's not possible to find it here, who knows. Always smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you will cry alone. Hope this will slightly ease your sadness.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I'm very grateful to all of you for spending your time to encourage me and give advices. Thank you SimpleBB. You are lucky you have a very good and supportive family. I don't have such kind of family. That's one thing that really makes me hopeless sometimes. But it's okay, as what most of you said that I have to rely to Him. It's God. Thank you.
12 Aug 10
I suggest you pray and talk to God, in that way ... you can release some of your burdens. If you have no boyfriend and real friends at the moment, that I think is not such a heavy problem. If you have financial problems that can be troublesome, what I suggest for you to do is try and look for a job. If you can find one, then the rest of your problems will get solve one by one. Sulking and thinking of your problems will not solve it, you have to take action and try to find the solution. Hope this helps.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes I did hunt for job, but I wasn't lucky to found any,maybe it's not my time yet. Anyway thanks for the advice. Your right,I was thinking too much negative, especially regarding with problems that really cause me depression.
@choconut (297)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Don't focus on the bad things, think positive. So what if you don't have a boyfriend? So what is you have problem?? Believe in God and everything will be alright. Cast all your worries unto Him and He will give you peace. Work will eventually come so don't rush. About friends, maybe you're just thinking too much, maybe you're too distant because with all those problems, why don't you try approaching them? Try smiling, and looking forward and trusting God. Smile for the Lord loves you. God bless (",)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes you're right, I was thinking too much. And I want to overcome that attitude. Actually my friends are busy with their lives, especially some are already married. I'm shy to disturb them. But it's okay, I think I have to practice being optimistic from now. Thanks friend. God bless you!
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Just always believe to God, I know for sure he has a purpose for what you are experiencing the struggle in life.you can send me a message or get my number you can be one of my friends if you like
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
You know, I admit it's Gods guidance I missed to seek out. Thanks for letting me remind of Him. And oh ,for offering your number, you're very kind. Yes I would love to be your friend too,thanks. I will add you in my friend list. Good day.
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Start to be thankful of what you already have. Feel grateful for them whether it's a person or a thing. And watch The Secret. You can find it all over the net. Just trust me on this. :)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes, Ok thanks.
@fanzejian (372)
• China
12 Aug 10
are you sure you unhappy? i feel you happier than me when you are hanging out on the internet .you have so much spare time to look for new boy friend . I envy you seeking help here.it's a joke ,never mind .well ,what's more ,I am single ,no girl friend ,may be I am your choice.ao please considerate it carefully.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Are you happy with your life with no girlfriend?
@ayuhaki (41)
• China
13 Aug 10
I am not a Christian, and I am not going to advice you to belive in God here. I want to say to you. You have some problems, about friend and finance. However, you are lucky, you can find a job if you work hard to find it; and you will find your boyfriend. First, you need to get rid of sadness first. Every people would meet these problems, so do I. It is not a big deal. Focus on something and then you will be success and feel satisfied. Good luck and happy to you.
@jovitex (44)
13 Aug 10
I would like to help you, but you have to be ready to receive or accept it. One can be poor and still be a friend of God. The one reliable and ever-present help comes from God... remember Jesus called his disciples friends which is why he disclosed his father's business to them. One can be close to God regardless of the situation you are passing through. A preacher once said, "your attitude determines your altitude in life". How do you react to situations around you? Let your faith drive you not your problems... this one is from me. I could go on and on but I think i should just end it by asking you to log on to Emmanuel.tv and learn about the mighty works of God in our day and time. The devil is a liar and father of lies. Your are the beloved of God!!!
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
i think all of us go through situations like this at some point in our life..but this too shall pass... things might change for the better in the future