Indifference

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Among so many human emotions, happiness,sadness, jealousy,hate, anger,and so forth,some are just so distinctively 'evil', like hatred, rage, hostility. But to me, there's a noramally less-attended human emotion that is more horribly evil,though people may not normally feel the intensity of it, and that's indifference! It might be not quite explicit to come to that conslusion. But just picture that one day your parents no long nag you,raise voice at your wrongdoings, or your partner never ask anything abt you.What does it feel like? We all know that trust is bonding the whole society together. whereever we go, whatever we eat, we know there're trusted people to stick to their position to maintain this link. But coming down to a lower level from a society to a small community like friends circle or family or just lovers. what makes us bonded together? Caring! The opposite towards love is not hate! it's indifference! when you hate, you still care. Indifferent, literally it means no longer care things outside.That seems to be too casual, isn't it? So I googled some psychologist' research I found two defitions that are acceptable to me. 1, it's also called impassivity or perfunctorieness, it's a state of suppression of emotions such as concern, excitement, motivation and passion, an indifferent person has an absence of interest or concern to emotional,social, or phisical life. 2, US novelist John Dos Passons wrote that ''Apathy is one of the characteristic responses of any living organism when it is subjected to stimuli too intense or too complicated to cope with. For the above two claims, i have doubts for both. 1, it may not neccessarily be the suppression of the human emotions. For example, there're so many people dying each day, but we are indifferent to those deaths! Exacly we are lack of interest or concern, but where comes the suppression of anything? 2, John's pespective tends to explain more about what is numbness, very close to the level of mental health malfunction. Both America and China have experienced the time when it's young generations are lack of awareness, concern towards social issues, like voting. Here, John seemed to forget dig more into the word 'stimuli'. Is it neccessarily the thing the person being indifferent to? What I feel is that numbness falls into the mental problem category while indifference is just one of the human emotions. Whenever thinking of this subject, my mind would first go to Shanghai, a modernized metropolis 'Hk' in mainland China. I was there for nearly a week, but the feeling of indifference from around was intense enough to impress me. What drives people there to stay indifferent to others? Pressue for survival! When a person is cornered to strive for his own survival, he no longer cares, he no longer spares more to share with others! This helps me to understand more abt friendship. After my friends graduated from university, we were contacting with each other less and less, and we were caring for each other less and less. It's hard to imagine any one is too busy to even spare half an hour to make a call to each other, but we just don't like to waste that 30 minutes! But if we reverse the scinario to the point where all of us are free, and even bit of feeling empty.Will we still be that indifferent to things happening to our friends? or suddenly becoming desperate to contact all the others? Besides all the above scinarios I mentioned, there are many more cases of us being indifferent in our daily lifes, and till now I still can't draw a more scientific conclusion on why we become indifferent, but from today, I hope one of us can have a reflection and start to care more about the ones we have cared before or whom we have received caring from.