surviving a long distance relationship..

Philippines
August 14, 2010 9:44am CST
i have a boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months..were far from each other like traveling by land for ten hours...he had work in their place and i don't have work for now..we started knowing each other for almost 6 years..we see each other once a year for just only 1 week..but, wondering how we lasted for many years?!because we have constant communication like texting everyday, trust each other and understanding our situation..most of all keep on praying...you?how did u survived a long distance relationship?
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15 responses
• United Arab Emirates
14 Aug 10
I had been in a long distance relation before marriage...24 hrs by land. I survived for 2 years before marriage. But now after marriage we have been togather for 3 years and now i am miles apart.....she is in India and iam in UAE. after so many years of marriage...the tough times have started. Its getting difficult living away from her.
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
why is it difficult?what are the common problems that both of you have encountered during those years?
• United Arab Emirates
14 Aug 10
Her childhood friend has come into her life....she wants to marry him as he earns more, has a house of his own and a car....But he does not want to marry her....But i trust my love and faith in GOD that things will be fine.
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
that's right..just trust your wife and pray so that all things will be settled...give your wife an extra care, love and time so that she will not feel your distance...
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
I can't survive a long distance relationship. I cannot stand the worry and the heart aches specially when we fight. It is hard to settle differences and communication is a must.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
its all our choice to have a long distance relationship..but if you love the person you will you will definitely survive..yes, a constant communication is a must..good thing internet is helpful..
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
15 Aug 10
Well some couples can manage, but then others can't because it's just to difficult to be apart from one another for so long that they just can't take it. My friend is going through this right now, but she has told me that she would not stay faithful because she just can't manage with out a boyfriend for so very long she feels that she always has to get attention.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
i can be faithful to my boy friend because i love him and im afraid of karma...when i started missing him all i do is get my self busy and get along with my friends and enjoy...thata all i do..
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
Long distance relationship was far more difficult before the development of webcam, cellphones and internet. Due to our high tech gadgets nowadays, it became more easy to communicate with each other and the feeling of longing was lessen. Of course, still the main ingredients of lasting relationship are purity of the hearts to Love, Respect and Devotion.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
its a good thing we have high technologies at this time..me and my boyfriend know each other because we are chat mates and become text mates...haha..but he always come to our place once a year with his family...when we miss each other so much we just have to call and talk for a while to hear each other and make funny stories...
@koditza (235)
• Germany
14 Aug 10
in my case it survives, bot only for somth like a few months. glad that you guys can do it :)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
i just did it with a trust with my partner and see to it that i have a great time with him...i always keep on praying that our relationship will last forever...
@mcaquino (60)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
HI The foundation of a relationship is LOVE and TRUST.I also experienced a long distance relationship for 2 years before we get married...I met him in the middle east,,middle east is a very strict country and relationship between man and woman is not allowed..we only met once for two years...and sometimes we have misunderstandings and the only way to reach each other is by means of texting and to call for a few minutes.we all know that calling on a mobile phone is very expensive so we have to limit it.. after 2 years he returned in our country he waited for me for 3 months..and until now we still have a long distance relationship because he need to work for our baby.And the only thing we should not forget is to have constant communication..and you are right trusting God is the best we can do..lift up to him evrything..=)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
its good to hear from you..i know now how to last our relationship and make it stronger..we have the same way on how to make it last..
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
long distance relationship is difficult to keep. in the beginning the relationship would be fine with all the technology that helps in communication and connection, and then, there will be a time that one needs a physical intimacy and care. it is really difficult to keep a long distance relationship. that's why i salute and admire those couples who overcome the distance separating them. it is amazing how they overcome the difficulties and challenges.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
me too..i always admire couples who overcome a long distance relationships..i want to have their advices on how they did that...i know most people who tried a long distance relationship ends breaking up..because they can't bear the loneliness of being far...
@Tresaqwe (376)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I'm not in a long distance relationship in a loving kind of way, but in a friendship kind of way. In January me and this girl will have known eachother two years. We have never met, but we're extremely close. We've written letters, text eachother every second we're not on the computer, talk for hours on end on the computer during day, and have talked on the phone multiple times. I think communication and trust is the best thing to keep a long distance relationship of any type alive. People say there's a chance she's not real, when they've never talked to her or know nothing about her. Only because I don't know her in real life, they assume she is some pedophile or something. It's kind of funny, but anyway, I think they can survive, and very much do.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
17 Aug 10
Me and my partner keep doing this for almost 6 years and we struggle so much just to keep this relationship work. We have constant communications but as years pass by things changed. We barely talk, no SMS and etc. and this situation put us in a rocky road but still we get to handle it. The situation makes me weak and tempted to do something that possibly destroy our relationship, i become so weak and almost lose my grip but my partner is there holding me tight and telling me we can make it just have faith and patience and we will get through this. Support with each others is important.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 10
Hi, I never encounter long distance relationship in my life and I am not sure whether I can handle it well if I were in this kind of relationship. I agreed with you, trust is very important to make the relationship stay stable. With such advanced technology, it makes both of you easy to keep in touch via MSN chat,texting via cell phone or chat via phone. You can always travel to visit your boyfriend and I guess he must be very happy to see you there.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Aug 10
A long distance relationship can be difficult but it can be survived. You have to have a strong bond and commitment to the one you love who is so far away from you. Out of sight and out of mind will destroy your relationship. The effort you put into the relationship whether it is near or far is what matters the most. Just because the one you love is many miles away does not mean the relationship can't last. It is up to you.
@dav20b (507)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I think for most people it is hard for a long distance relationship to work but I think it can work but both have to work hard at staying in contact,text,mail,phone,email,webcam and so on.
• Mauritius
18 Aug 10
woww. I hope it goes on well. Its admirable because most of the time we can't sustain a relationship with somebdy who is here with you. Now to be with somebdy abroad, its gr8. I think its all about love, understanding, patience and trust. If these elements are present, then it is possible to sustain. All the best to you.
15 Aug 10
that is good. well actually your being loyal to your partner.and your boyfriend is so lucky cause you give your best and all of you. it seems that i heard wedding bells. so you better keep it up ok?
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
well good for you both. i think that long distance relationship is not ,going to work for me. my last relationship is. that was what..? 3 years ago i guess. he's based out of the country and he's like going to visit once or twice the most per year. but we always talk.. almost every day.. but for me it's not enough for us to really get to know each other more.