Does it really take a lot of effort to just listen?

It does take a lot of effort to find someone to just listen to you. I still haven't found that person. I am more often the listener. I don't mind most of the time but other times I want to scream WHAT ABOUT ME!!! LISTEN!!! I have helped with listening and commenting if it is asked of me but I can not get anyone to listen, I guess I have been the listener for so long that is just my role now. Good thing I can just talk to myself! At least I listen

I like to listen and help. But i have had problems and come to talk to friends or what not and it sometimes does seem to go onto another subject. It can be very very upsetting when you just want advice, but i guess ive gotten use to it. And there are a few people i know who would do anything to help. So, i guess its just finding the right person to listen

Well, what happens naturally in a conversation is for example you talk about some experience you had, the other will relate it unconsciously to their experiences and then talk about what they can relate to based on the story you talked about. When it comes to listening, i guess it depends on the topic you're talking about. If the other person isn't really interested on what you're saying then expect his thoughts to drift away so you can plan right away on how to get it back.

Oh yeah I get that a lot. I'll be trying to vent about my day and the next thing I know I'm spending 20 minutes listening to them complain about something totally different! I'm always the friend who is there to listen and offer comfort when it's needed. But rarely do I get someone who just listens to me. Except for my best friend who I'm sooo grateful for because he'll just shut up and let me whine. Sometimes all you need is to just get it off your chest. But it's hard. I think many people aren't even really listening, they're just so busy thinking about what they will say next. And the funny thing is that we probably won't even remember the conversation a few days later anyway...

nope,it will be good if i listen to someone.i would also talk to someone and ask the people to listen mine.basically,it is simple,dont get too much of other people's problem into ur mind.thats what i think everyday

I do,specially with my job, I get to be the listener most of the time. At first it pisses me off,because I'm not the listener type of person,specially if I'm so depressed and pissed off. But,as I go on with my work,I've learned that its good to to be a listener. You get to learn things that will help you get through with life. You get to gain knowledge with everything around you. Even if sometimes,the topic doesn't have any sense,you still get something from it.

For me, it's actually easier to listen than to talk, because I'm always afraid of saying the wrong thing. I know for some people, though, it's much easier to talk because they're convinced that their talking is helping the person they're talking to.