what will you choose love o money?
August 17, 2010 9:22pm CST
good day.. in may situation i have my friend in other country, he send me money and he expect that we are lovers, but i have my love here in our place. what should i choose?now that he plan to come here our place i'm afraid because i dont want to lose the one i love.
19 Aug 10
Love For money, you can work, you can do legal things or illegal things, but love is something difficult for finding and my advice is keep your heart for the one you love. I got some questions - why did you take the money, the other guy sent to you? Why you didn't put some conditions or limitations? What are this money for ... Are you going to give it back ... Are you going to do something to earn the money?
19 Aug 10
hello good question. at first that money is payment for the internet cafe for talking to him. in that time he is depress because her wife leave him. and that money for him is help for me. and now he is still sending. i never think that he is part of my life because he is married here in Philippines, he is the only one think of it.
19 Aug 10
So you are something like online psychologist for him. That sounds fine, i thought you talk about a lot of money, which he sent to you and was wondering why would he do that and what is he expecting at the end ... If you have spent this money to pay in the internet coffee, so you can talk with him = if you have spent the money so he can feel better, i think that you don't own him anything. Just tell him the truth. When one person is desperate he can act different than he would, if everything was o.k. And may be for him you are personification of the positive and happy person. Here when someone is desperate we say that "he grip you as drowned man for straw". Don't let that happens so long. Decline the money and try to finish that story, give him some reason to continue his life and to find the power deep in his heart. That's what i would do. And also would tell him the truth for my love with my guy. If he is unhappy, there is no reason you to feel the same way. I know it will be little mean if you tell him that you got happy relationship, but all that sounds like his illusion. Let him deal with himself, the problem is not with you.
18 Aug 10
If you don't want to lose the one you love, then you already have the answer. Money cannot buy you everything and that includes love. Don't be offended but the problem you are having now is because you accepted something from that friend of yours. But since it already happened, you should make it clear to your friend that you do not have feelings for him deeper than friendship. Besides you should have told him that you already have a bf so he wont expect anything from you. That way, if he is informed of your status, he will not send you anything that he will ask for something in return...good luck...