Is it possible for a man to fall out of love?

Philippines
August 18, 2010 1:42am CST
I am very much inlove with my boyfriend and we've been together for four years.. we spent all of our times together since we are both unemployed as of the moment.., i can't help but wonder.., if the time comes that he will have a job and we'll be spending less time together.., is it possible that his feelings will change? or if he meets someone new in the workplace.., and realize that i'm not the one.., I don't wanna sound paranoid here.., i just want to open my mind for any possibilities.., care to share your opinion guys..?
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30 responses
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Do not think about things that are not yet happening my friend instead, think of the brighter side like keeping the love alive even when your bf has a job. A common mistake by people in love sometimes is that we have so many "what if's"...With that, we hesitate to take the risks. If you think that possibility, yes it is possible my friend. If you think that way, you will establish a fear or paranoia not to allow your bf to have a job. Hence, think positively. You should enjoy life too. If your bf has a job, then keep busy as well. And when he comes home, then make love. Some times, it is best to be away from each other once in a while so that you miss each other too. Better think of making the love stronger.
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• Philippines
18 Aug 10
What you said my friend is exactly what I wanna say. So to avoid repetition I will just add on what you say. That we cannot hold our love ones in the palm of our hands. You know like holding a bird so tightly it will die...but if it's not careful it will get away. Just think of your love this way... do everything to make him love you more each day. If you two are really meant for each other, no one and nothing in this world can ever take the love in his heart for you. :) have a nice day!
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
thank you.., i felt bad with my line of thoughts..and now i'm definitely sure, it won't do me any good if i keep on thinking of "what ifs". It will only hinder the growth of our relationship.., i realized my mistake.., i don't want to be possessive partner.., so i'll just loosen the leash that binds our relationship..=)
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I am with maean and czanwell. Don't be paranoid, it will just keep you weak and turned things into negative. No one could control things even someone, and we must be aware that the only permanent thing is changes. All are possible, if falling out of love can happened to girls, there's no reason for it can't happen to guys. All are human, and even ourselves, we're not sure if he or you may change tomorrow, we never know. So, Meaan is right, just keep the love alive while both of you are into. Enjoy what we have today for we never know what's there for us tomorrow. Good luck and enjoy life.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I think that would now depend on the wife if he is going to fall out of love for her. When I got married, i always tried to fix myself and make myself beautiful. And my husband would say i should not do that anymore cause I am already married. But I told, i should do this more often cause I am already married. He doesnt understand it, he thinks I am doing it because I want other men to notice me, but he doesnt know I am doing it for him.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
That's right, that's the meaning of keeping the love alive. ACtually I think the one secret of lasting relationship is maintaining the boyfriend-girlfriend stage even if you're married. That would definitely ignite both your emotions.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
SimpleBB is right.., Courting should not end when the girls answers yes but it should stay to make the sparks of the relationship present at all times..-)
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 10
Hi deve_annrn!. Life has many possibilities but always think positive. I think you already spend many times with him and seem he already comfort with you. So please don't worry to much just enjoy what you had. Have a nice day!.
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
i guess that is my problem.. i worry too much.., even on things that hasn't happened yet.., and i know it isn't doing me any good.., and i would want to stop this nonsense before it actually do damage to our relationship..thanks a lot..=)
• Malaysia
18 Aug 10
there is so much possibilities in relationship..i had a BF, but now ex-bf..we have been together 3 years... during the time, we share so much things, good or bad..and i set on my mind that he and me will get married someday...but, slowly...predicable..he left me when i said i want to broke up because i don't want to share his love with other girl..one things, just be cool in whatever happened..when u broke up with them, thinks positive..there is a reason why you broke up..maybe because god want you to find a better one...70% possible his feeling will change..
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
OMG. If I may only share my story. Long term relationship does not really count, it is if you meant to each other, then it will be. Mine can be considered as a childhood relationship for we are the best friends since gradeschool and started courting after high school. Then after wooing for several years, we're into a relationship for couple of months only & back to friendship but more of MU, but he went to work abroad, for some first months we're ok, but on his next trip, he come home to marry someone else. To make the story short, we're still the best of friends until now. Everytime he comes home, we still hang out together, but, don't get me wrong, it was with his wife and family's consent. So, life is just like a piece of cake, enjoy what we have today for tomorrow there will be more delicious flavor to try and enjoy. Happy mylotting, folks.
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
ouch!!! this is painful..every time i hear stories of long term relationships being broken..i can't help but feel scared of my relationship too.., i am open-minded with such possibilities but i can no longer imagine myself falling in love with any other guy..,i know men.., tends to change their feelings.. but i just hope my man is an exception...-)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
trust him. Trust is a very important ingredient when building a relationship. You are really torturing yourself. Be positive always. If you always think of it, you will not notice that you are beginning to choke him. This attitude will not build strong relationship. Because if you have this ill thinking, you begin to demand from him and become jealous of his friends. My aunt told me that, don't accused him about something that will lead to misunderstanding. Some men tend to do it, to make even with your accusations. Are you willing to give him up. Then don't be pessimistic!!!
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Thank you and you are definitely right.. I might not notice but maybe I am choking him over my worries and paranoia.. and this isn't going to bring us any good with our relationship.. Thanks for making me realize this..=)
@chinoxads (255)
• United States
25 Aug 10
If he love you and if he had demostrate that, you don't have to worried about it, because when he is in the job he will miss you and will you, and you need to call him to tell him how much you love and miss, or just can text him with a nice message, in my case i like those details, i recognize that sometime i'm not like that, just because of the work stress.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Thank you.., I guess you are right with regards to making us miss each other and showing and telling them that we felt...It's going to be nice and sweet with all the pressures from work, it will be a breather..=)
• United States
21 Aug 10
Try not to worry.You can't control how he Really feels.If you are the One, he could get a job with Angelina Jolie and Still be in love with you. If you are not the One, then he can find someone else Anywhere1 Hearing your story, I feel that his feelings Will change when he goes to work, they will Deepen. If he Rally loves you , he Wants to spend all his time with you. So Having to go to work, means he'll miss you Badly.I am a recovering worrier so I know how it feels to over think things. Please try not to worry. Just enjoy his full company now. Take Care.
@derek_a (10874)
19 Aug 10
Yes, I believe this is so the world over. People split up and get divorced etc. I don't think this would happen if they had not fallen out of love with their partners. It is something that has happened since time began I think. We just have to roll with the punches in matters of romance._Derek
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
18 Aug 10
i think he wasn't in love to begin with. i know you will find someone who really loves you and you will love him. best to you
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
yeah.. i believe so.., if a man fells out of love.., he was not that in love from the beginning.., thanks..=)
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
yes of course.. everybody's capable or it might happen to everybody. i once fell out of love and i broke up with him right away. not all because i no longer love the guy but because i don't wanna hurt him. every time we see each other, i don't wanna be touched or hear his love for me because i can no longer respond the way i do.. it will only hurt us both.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Every thing has always the possibility. So try to enjoy what you have now and be thankful that he is with you and feel inlove. You share the happiness that love gives to both you. So when the time comes that it is fade away be ready for that and try to accept the reality. Anyway I didn't said that it will happen now but there is a possibility if you changed your love to him. Stay as sweet as you are and love him as high as you can feel the love and happiness.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
thank you.. and i will be at my sweetest to him.. i can't give him all the reasons he want for him to stay but i could definitely give him the reason to go back..=)
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I think it depends on the level of emotions your boyfriend is having now, if both of you will make an effort to nurture the relationship, distance is not really an issue,I know some friends who are far from each other and yet in the end they still ended into each other. So try to keep the communication alive and get intouch with your boyfriend often and most of all, trust each other, love alone cannot survive if there's no trust and respect in the relationship. Goodluck!
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
absolutely... especially when the relationship is no longer working... not about another girl, that's quite remote... another girl is just an invitation for a fling to a happily married man...
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
IMPOSSIBLE - if he really loves you not just for fun POSSIBLE - if he only loves you just to have fun ---make sense! ! ! TRUST and LOVE must be there. . . GODbless :)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
i love your answer..., it gives me assurance..=)
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
19 Aug 10
It can happen to anyone It could even be the other way round and if it does happen then you are not right for each other Heartbreaks are part of Life believe me but then can also make you stronger After being together for 4 years though you should both know one another enough to know if this happens, also it could happen anywhere or for any reason so really I would not worry to much about it and just hope you might both find a job at the same time as then you will both have the change in your Life together
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
18 Aug 10
yes, i think so. i've seen this happen.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
Don't think of the things that never happened yet. ^^ Just be positive. It is impossible for two of you to keep unemployed, right? So, just stay positive.. ^^
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Real love is developed overtime with constant communication. Don't lose the opportunity to have that talk. It is possible for women to fall out of love. The same goes with males. What you need is a commitment. Both from you and him.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
just enjoy the things you have now and yes you are paranoid thinking negative possibilities that will happen just be positive in things just have plan to make your relationship become stronger not things that can destruct your relationship
@lfloresca (116)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
There is a possibilities that you boyfriend will fall inlove to other girls but if he really loves you so much even their are beautiful girls in his workplace he will just ignore it and also you show your love to your boyfriend when you are together