Forgetting the past
By arystine
@arystine (1273)
Philippines
August 20, 2010 5:11am CST
Is it easy for you to forget a person's past?
I am currently seeing this guy whom I've known since post college days. I remember how way back, he used to have a reputation for being a two-timer. I also heard (and was able to confirm) that he dated a really older woman in our school. He seems sincere with me and I enjoy his company. However, it's really hard for me to let go of his past. I guess I'm the type of girl who's always doubtful of a guy who has a track record for being a cheater.
How about you? Is it easy for you to forget the past of a person you're currently dating or in a relationship with? Or are you the type who can easily put the past behind?
4 responses
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
25 Oct 12
Hello arystine. Speaking of forgetting the past of my ex-girlfriend, I did manage to put it past behind as I was trying to win back my love to her. But she insisted on going to the other guy eventually. I could do nothing but let her go in the end. It is only a past history of mine and now I am happy to have found my true love and we got married with two kids. Enjoy your life.
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Thanks for responding to one of my old discussions. :) This has been posted about 2 or 3 years ago. I am now married and very much happy with my husband, who is the complete opposite of the guy which I described in this discussion. I found someone who is very loyal and devoted to me. :) Good thing we both found our true love and partner for life. Enjoy your day!
@lptan_1225 (70)
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
I am the type who consider his past to understand his character,'am to take note of his misdeeds in the past but do not make it the total basis of his intentions about me. If I like the guy and the feeling is mutual and it happened that he has that two-timer reputation, it will give me more reasonable reason not rush on anything in ending up with a relationship with him. It will be fair enough also on my end to find ways to validate his being two-timer that is being labelled against him.It could be that as time runs by, we tend to grow mature in every way and have learned lessons of our past mistakes. So it could be also that the past had changed him for the better. On the other hand, if I don't like the guy nor interested about him, then I will not bother digging up anything about him. In this case, there are unoffensive ways to convey to the other person that I am not in his direction.
Friend, now it's written...Hahahah!See 'ya!:-)
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Aug 10
I must admit that it would be difficult to think straight, and to listen to your head when your heart is telling you something otherwise. But that's just me. And I've been burned by it a few times.
So, for you arystine, I suggest something that might not be popular. Which is to listen to your heart. If you're happy then why the heck not?! Why dwell in the past? Just don't go rushing into something just because the moment feels right. Let it go the distance. I'm sure that if the past comes back to haunt, it would show itself. And then you'd just have to deal with it then.
In the meantime, have fun!
And I still stand by your stated entitlement, which is 'you deserve a man who will be worthy of you!'.
