do you worry a lot?

Philippines
August 20, 2010 4:24pm CST
And because I am the eldest among the four siblings, I need to be strong and courageous to face the challenges in life. As my father usually says, "you are the eldest, you have to stand strong and certain for your brother and sisters". Since then, I have started to plan not only for my self but also for my brother and sisters as well. Thinking I should work hard so I can support them in their needs. Aside from that, I need to be a role model in every aspect of life. And if there are times, I was not able to do my role, I will start to feel uncomfortable. Hence, I am starting to feel worried. Thinking that I did not do my role well. Thinking that I neglected them. And that worry feeling makes me feel uneasy. Due to this, my friends always comment that I am such a worrier person. That I worried that much wherein, the matter is not that big to think that much. How about you, do you also worry a lot? How you handle your worries?
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19 responses
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Well I worry a lot when it comes to money. Tehcnically, I've never been broke in my entire life but I get anxious when my money is dwindling due to unnecessary expenses! That's why every payday, I see to it that I've already kept enough savings.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
That is a good habit Ephraim123. You have the capacity and ability to budget your earnings.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I understand what you're going through..were the same i'm also the eldest there were lot's of expectations from my family that i'm the one who will uplift our status of living..it's a lot of pressure on my part..I worry not only for my self but also for my family.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Hi Katherine, It is really hard. There are times, I dont know what to do. There are times, eventhough I am busy and thinking of other things, the matter keeps bothering my mind.
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I do worry a lot in terms of financial matter, I cannot just sit and relax when I know I have a lot to pay and I do have a son that I need to provide his needs. But, I don't show to my son that I have worries/problems because I don't want that he will be affected in any way. I always show him that I am happy and strong that I can face whatever life challenges may come. But, of course when I'm alone I tend to think too much on how to cope up with financial problems....
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
That is great. You know how to handle it infront of other people. Is there any idea that you can share to me on how to do that - to be happy and strong infront of your son. I dont have a son, but, I think, it is somehow the same approach if you are facing other people.
• United Arab Emirates
21 Aug 10
I like the way you are taking life. I have seen my brother doing the same. Being the eldest in the family, he has handled responsibilities well and has always been supportive and handled pressure well. I had the least of pressure as i was the youngest.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Well, how lucky you are being the youngest bearing the least pressure in life.
@puccagirl (7308)
• Israel
20 Aug 10
I do, unfortunately. But I try to stop doing it as much, since it is really annoying both for me and those around me.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Same with me, there are times, the person arounds me gets annoyed when I worry a lot. However, there are times, that I cannot cope up with it. Situation keeps bothering my mind.
@thaMARKER (2505)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
i do. im a worrier of almost everything. even though i don't really have to or even if i'm no longer concerned but i still worry about it. other people's problem is like my problem too. i think about a lot of things and come up of some scenario then worry about it -- worry what would happen if this and that.. sometimes though it can be a positive feeling. like im already aware of what's gonna happen next because if you worry, you think ahead. if i start worrying of something, i just try (sometimes very hard) to calm myself and think slowly of what am i to do.
@tomitomi (5440)
• Singapore
21 Aug 10
You are such a wonderful person. Managing the day to day of my children and family can be hard sometimes. I do make lots of plans and worry alot in the process. But that doesn't mean that I am a worried/worrying person. It's just part of the process in learning to be a better person as you are.
@BigTips (305)
• China
21 Aug 10
If you are living under big pressure, you tend to get worried a lot. As the eldest among your four siblings, I guess you must face a worse situation than most people. Obviously, it is not a good thing for one person to worry a lot. For the long run, this situation will lead to many side effects to your physical and mental health. For me, these days, I am also have a similar situation with you. Now, I am running several home besed businesses and aim to make profits with my own efforts. Because I am the single son in my family, in the future, I will pay more attention to my parents than my two sisters. As a result, I tend to get worried once I meet some unexpected troubles.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I am a type of person who takes things as it is. I don't wanna make things so complicated. I usually do not worry on what's gonna happen tomorrow or what I should probably do. I just think on the present and do what I think is right. I have plans but I do not pressure myself to these plans. If it's gonna happen, then good but if it's not, maybe God has other plans for me. Live simply. Do what your heart says. Worrying won't give you any help.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yes, I worry a lot on stuffs. I get affected easily. I worry to much even on things I do not have direct participation. That is also the reason why I always get hurt emotionally. I worry a lot on my future too. Sometimes it makes me depressed. Worst my depression stays for months, least would be a month. I can't help it, it's in my personality. How I handle it? I just let it be. It fades away by itself. I don't open that much on people. So I just have everything by myself.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
no..worrying a lot won't get you anywhere but it can also help so that we can be more responsible and not forgetful
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
21 Aug 10
nobody can live with our worries.... there will be worries in everyones life... here your problem is you are thinking too more about your duties as a elder one in your family... i thing you no need to care this much about that thing... when we are giving unnecessary importance to some matter then it seems very difficult for us.. better you not bother that what is your stand.. you act as what is you are.. you play your role in your family..don't try to make something more than that..
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
21 Aug 10
It seems to me i can always find something to worry about. I am usually the problem solver in my family. There just always seems to be something that needs taken care of. Sometimes i think if I didn't worry about something, nothing would be done about it.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Hi there.., I can also relate to how you feel.., and I have bigger number of siblings to worry of that you have.. =) I am also an eldest daughter and have 6 younger siblings.., see? It's quite a large one.. My parents taught me to be responsible and reach for my goals so that one day I could help out my family too.., But now.., I am already 24 and a registered nurse but still doesn't have a stable job and my parents still give me allowance.., It bothers me a lot and I even cry for it because I feel so useless.., I did my share to find me a good paying job but here in my country.., it's not what you know for you to get hired.., with "whom" you know.., and i find it really unfair.., but what can i do? that's how it works here..but i am not giving up.., i'm just worried that if I will be able to fulfill my dreams and help my siblings financially someday.., I am not getting any younger here..=(
@dodo19 (42562)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Aug 10
Unfortunately, I do worry a lot. For one reason or another, I've always been someone, who worries a lot. I try not to worry so much, but there are times when I just can't help but worry.
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
I'm a worrying wart. I can't help being pessimistic about things. But,I realized it doesn't help me at all. I now try to look at things in a more positive view.
@OConnell87 (1045)
20 Aug 10
just because you are the eldest doesn't mean you should be put under pressure to be the best and set an example. You didn't choose to be the eldest so it's not fair. As long as your brothers and sisters are happy thats all that matters, you don't want to look through life and wish you'd done things you couldn't because you are trying to be a role model for your siblings
• China
20 Aug 10
I guess everyone is leading is a more or less stressful life. We all have stresses from our families, regardless we are from a single-child families more more-children families. To me, being the only child of the family is nothing easier than your case. As my parents are getting older in a society with imperfect social welfare system, I need to save up my the medical care of my parents after their retirement. In addition, I need to buy a flat for my marriage, though the housing price in China is soaring like the rocket. I have no idea if women should shoulder equally great responsibility like men, but in mine, it is men's sole responsibility to take care of their parents, wives and children. So in short, life can be rather stressful for everyone here.
• United States
20 Aug 10
I get to out of control with my worrying. it got so bad i started to stres my daughter out. I worry about this high crime neighborhood we live in. I worry about my daughter going to school and how we are going to make it each month. Your a good person and should not worry so much about the smaller kids. They hvae parents that should shoulder the burden of this. Your job is to make sure your duties are done on a daily basis. Your only one person you know.