Normal or not normal? (Guy Trouble)

United States
August 20, 2010 10:17pm CST
Okay well I have know my friend for a little over a year now...since we met his dad let me know his son liked me he called me his daughter-in-law ). I thought it was really cute because he's shy and didn't really talk to me about liking me As the time has passed I think I've started to feel something for him.....now he goes to my school :) Today I heard that he was checking out one of my close friends and as far as I know he still likes me. I'm just wondering is this normal behavior...checking out friends from the girl you like?
10 responses
@kurumi (85)
• Singapore
21 Aug 10
You are still schooling, so i assumed you are a teenager or in early twenties? Why not just concentrate on your studies.? If you are having bad grades, then that is the "trouble" you really need to worry about, not a guy trouble. You are still young and you will have plenty of other guys in the future. Right now, get good grades, graduate with distinction, find a good job and worry about guys later.
• United States
21 Aug 10
Actually I had pretty good grades last year
@kurumi (85)
• Singapore
21 Aug 10
that's good to hear. my point is, guy troubles are the least you should worry at your age.
• Portugal
21 Aug 10
i guess he just thought she was cute^^ like when we see a very cute guy and cant avoid to look but that doesnt mean he doesnt love you^^ is normal see cute people and think this girl or this boy is handsome but doesnt mean we want them. dont be sad ok? you know he loves you also if his father knew about it is bcs you are important to him or he wouldnt tell to his family dont you think?^^ so dont be sad and be happy^^ you found a guy that you are sure he loves you and is very hard to be sure that a guy loves you^^
• United States
22 Aug 10
That's so true I hadn't thought about in that way =] He probably did think she was pretty and that's why he looked. I think you're right because normally kids don't talk to their parents about their feelings
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I think it's normal for a guy to like somebody else. Maybe because he is attracted to that person more than anyone else. Maybe he is shy at you too. Or maybe you misunderstood him, he's just really nice to the girl. Or maybe his feelings about you changed. It really depends on what he feels. Or maybe he's trying to make friends with your friend so he can finally be closer to you.
• United States
22 Aug 10
hopefully it's the last option
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Well,don't assumed too much. Better know about his feeling if he really likes you or not. Checking your friends is not normal if it is true that he likes you. I don't mean to hurt you dear,but sometimes too much expectation could break us. Happy weekend
• United States
22 Aug 10
it's good to know that's normal
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
This is a normal behavior for guys. They usually do the move - regardless with the personality. The act of transferring to the same school you are staying is a strong proof that he likes you.
• United States
22 Aug 10
Really?? Even though he hardly talks to me during school because he's with his friends?
• United States
21 Aug 10
This is normal activity for younger people today and I see nothing wrong with it. But within your discussion I do no read that the boy ever told you he actually liked you, so unfortunately he may see you as a great friend and not as a girl friend, so I would suggest you allow time to see if he in fact does like you that way. Good luck.
• United States
22 Aug 10
He seems too shy and idk if he ever will tell me he likes me. I don't understand why he doesn't admit it to me considering he tells his whole family and new friends.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
It is normal I think but be behave so that it can't make you in trouble.
• United States
21 Aug 10
maybe he is testing you. see if you would get jealous, or maybe hes talking about you to your friend and seeing is you like him the way he likes you. i dont know your age so i cant say for sure that its that. but dont worry about it too much, if he likes you he does, but liking someone and not being with them kind of gives them the freedom to flirt with whomever, but if you two are together or he tells you he only wants you and hes flirting with other girls, that maybe an issue,
• United States
21 Aug 10
hmmm it could be...I wasn't there when he checked her out but he knows she's my friend. I'm 17 =]
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Well it's not like you two are exclusively dating. So I guess it's normal and okay for him to check out other girls. He hasn't confessed his love for you has he? So he has no commitments to you yet so he's free to check other girls out. Are you jealous? If you like him a lot then why don't you make the first move. It's ok, you know. That way he knows you like him too. Start with asking him out to dinner or a coffee or a movie. Just try to spend time with him, just the two of you. Hopefully he gets the point. =)
• United States
21 Aug 10
That's true....maybe that's why he doesn't ask so he won't be tied down and won't feel guilty about checking out other girls I don't think it's jealousy...I would rather him check out other girls that aren't my friends. I'm pretty sure he got the hint last year. I had barely met him and I put together a family celebration for his b-day. I did it because I was 100% sure it would make him feel super awkward and it would be funny (it was ...good memories lol )
@jedpaul (31)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Well as a guy it is not normal. Depending on what is his real motive to do that. Never the less dont think about it. At your age love is not that mature. the way you look at it and react with it. that feeling of something for him i believe makes you feel happy. so go for the things that makes u happy!
• United States
21 Aug 10
That's one of the problems I don't understand why he does certain things. You're right it does...although it's sort of weird lol