Any women out there let a man get in the way of your dreams and opportunities?

Well, i guess the old saying "experience is the best teacher" is relevant in your case. I bet you won't do it again. Will you? Yes you have only yourself to blame since you made such a huge sacrifice. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Since you cannot control his actions becoming emotionally vested in his actions will only hurt you more. Many women, and i don't say this to offend any, are nurturers and want to take on the problems of others. First get yourself together before trying to help others. And when you help, remember your experience and don't expect much besides a thank you. You'll suffer less if you do. Seems to me that individual you helped did not appreciate your help much.

hi thedataminer no I have been lucky that I never had that experience but have seen this happen to other women. They help out a guy and go to great lengths to support him, then he turns around and screws up their whole life. Usually there is a sort of romance going and the woman gives a hundred percent and the guy does not give back but takes a hundred and twenty percent. She should have said no when he first needed a place to stay as these people I call users. they take from anyone but give back nothing to the people they use. The man I married was exactly opposite he gave me much more than I could ever give him. I guess thats one of the reasons I loved him.lol

Whew! Too bad for you...I hate this kind of guys who always think of themselves. I had an ex bf who also needed my help and accommodated him in my apartment for reason that my place is more accessible to companies which called him for job interviews. He is already my ex then and I knew it is not proper for me to still entertain him since he has a family and I likewise have a bf, who then working overseas. For friendship's sake, I let him stay in my place. What I hate about him was that, he seemed to love going out with his friends than visiting his family during the weekends. Worse, there was a time that our street went blackedout for 3 days. I ran out of food and water because I never expected such length of no current. During those times, he would ask if there is already a current and if none, he will sleep over on his friend's apartment. He never realize that I needed help to fetch water and buy food since I have to go to work and gone overtime. I regret having accommodated him at those times.