How can you differentiate a good friend from a bestfriend?

@sharie16 (2212)
Philippines
August 21, 2010 2:38am CST
Do you have any categories with your friends, I mean they were your good friends but they were not your best friends? Me, I do...I do have good friends but I know they were not my best friends. I mean those good friends are those that I can trust but they cannot be there for me at all times, but a best friend is a true friend, who is always there for you in good times and in bad, that they care about you all the time, that accepts you for who you are. That's why they were called best friend because they were the best among your friends, do you agree with this?But still whether a true friend, a good friend I do treasure them in my heart and same important in my life. Happy posting my friends!
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25 responses
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yup I do. I Have good friends that I can be with when I need companions and someone to hang out with,but I can't open or tell everything that's happening in me,then my best friends. That no matter how stupid I was,they're still there to tell me my mistakes then comfort me in times of sadness. My best friends never left me,they're always there for me,not only in good times,but most specially during my bad times. They're the first ones who would tell me how worst or bad I'm doing,when everyone else are just laughing behind my back. Even though we don't see each other very often,they are always there when I need them. My best friends,don't always pleases me,but more often they see the other side of me,correct me for they doesn't want me to get hurt by others. For me,they are my savior and guardians. I love you my best friends!
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Well said, our best friends see our other side, that they are the only one who can appreciate it, and no matter what our best friend will always be the first person to fight for us if someone is hurting us...And very true that they will always be our savior, and guardians and to add up our protector...Thanks for sharing your views~! Happy weekend! Happy earning!
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Thanks! Thanks also for adding the definition "protectors". My best friends are really my protectors. They never wanted me to get hurt. That's why when I'm about to make a mistake that they thought I might not be able to recover easily,they'll start telling me things and their opinions so I can think of it before I decide. Many times that they have saved me,and I am so thankful for having them to be at my side always. :)
@amrddy (215)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi sharie, Yes you are right in categorizing best friend from good friend. Best friends are those who will always be there for you no matter what. Whether you are at fault, sad, happy she or he will always be at your side. A good friend is just a friend.
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Thanks AMRDDY, yes I agree that a best friend will never choose any happenings in your life, but indeed will be there in all good and bad times, whether you are at fault, sad or happy....and I know a best friend will always guide you to a right path of life.... Thanks for sharing your views! Have a nice day!
• Pamplona, Spain
21 Aug 10
Hiya sharie, No I donĀ“t think about that side of it much. I have plenty of People I know and that I am fond of could almost consider them to be Friends but I know they are not. I have had really best friends and I have lost them along the way this happens whether you like it or not. But all the "Friends" I know are very nice People and they would help you out in a moment of need no question about that.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Correct me if I'm wrong, but for me I wouldn't consider a best friend if at the end they will betray me. A best friend is someone we can trust on whenever or whatever the matter was. But anyway, I do respect your opinion for we have different experiences in life....But I am grateful that we too view it the same that friends are really nice people.... Thank you for posting! Have a blessed day!
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Good friends are friends from your neighborhood, your classmates, co-workers and even friends on the net. Your best friend is the best among your good friends. The one who values most your friendship, who can directly criticize you for the betterment of your being but also accepts your weaknesses and failures in love and life, who laughs at your silliest joke and cries with you in your melodramatic life. Best friends have no space for the word "betrayal".
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Absolutely, there will never be a room for betrayal for a best friend...If a friend betray you, they will never count in as your best friend...Thanks for sharing your views! Have a blessed Sunday!
• India
21 Aug 10
I agree with you partially. I think you should not differentiate between your friends. You know best friends are not best ones from the starting. It takes some time for them to be your best friend. It is not wise to have a sense of partiality between friends. Good friends will also stand for you in your bad times if you make them best ones.HAPPY POSTING...
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Yes, I do agree with you but in this so called life you learn by experiences, and yes, at the start you don't know they will be your best friend, but as you were tested by years that you spent,I know you can somehow feel who a best friend and a good friend is. Yes, sometimes I try to open a space to make my good friend a best friend, but some things really are not meant to fall that way. By the way, thanks for sharing! God bless!
@adeadey (19)
• Nigeria
21 Aug 10
for me it so easy to differentiate a friend a best friend,a friend to me can be describe as just mutually friend a best friend is something much more,why i say this is simply because they are things you discuss with your best friend,and such things you can't discuss with your friend,like personal and delicate matters,a best friend will be the first to be there when you are down,you got the back of each other when other friends left,a best friend will still be there a best friend can just be describe in one word,a best friend is a family like
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Indeed, a best friend will never turn her back for you, but they are the ones who are there for you when all of them are going away. And yes, they are like a family. Thanks for the comment! Happy mylotting!
@jwfarrimond (4473)
21 Aug 10
I'd agree with your definition there but I'd only say "friend" and aquantances (I think that I've spelt that wrong) But anyway, as you say, a friend is someone who you can rely on. All the rest are not friends at all, just people that you know more or less well. You can know someone for years, decades even, but that does not make them a friend.
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Yes, there are this people that you may know for many years or decade but may not be your friend, as you say acquaintances...But we still have to thank these people because somehow they help us mold into a person we are now...Thanks for sharing! Have a blessed day!
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
21 Aug 10
A dog is the only true friend a person can have. To check the truth of this lock your wife and dog in the truck of your car, leave them there for about 30 minutes. Open the trunk and your dog jumps out, licking your hand and barking happily with love. You wife will fervently hate you, and may file for divorce. I'm a senior, and have never had a best friend. My dogs have always loved me!
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I agree with you in that particular situation...Maybe it's a human nature to react that way, why would you do that to your wife, I mean locking into a truck? She have the reason why she will really get angry, a dog will never realize why does he is being locked up or maybe they were get used to it........ Anyway, thanks for sharing, you made me laugh! Happy mylotting!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
21 Aug 10
too me my best friends are those who knows me well, and the ones who i can open up more to, share secerts and other things with. these are the people when i dont feel good they know without me saying a word. a good friend is someone i might spend time with but not alot of time with. they dont know as much whats going on in my life. but they are still there when i need help
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I strongly agree that we are more comfortable saying a secret to our best friends, but it's a good thing that a good friend will also be there also in times of our needs. So in either way we are still blessed with this kind of friends we have. Thanks for sharing! Have a blessed weekend!
@picjim (3002)
• India
21 Aug 10
I do accept your way of putting it.Your best friend accepts you for what you are.Good friends are those whom you can trust.All friends good or best are invaluable for they provide help in our difficulty.Even if they can't help they lend a ear to our difficulties.
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yes, very true, no matter what they are their to help us...Thanks for posting! Have a blessed weekend!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
21 Aug 10
A best friend is someone you will go to first. This is someone you want to share any joys or sorrows or troubles with. A good friend is someone to talk to and spend time with and share experiences with. A best friend is someone you can lean on the most and they can lean on you.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yes, I also agree with that, no matter what, you will always go to your best friend first. Thanks for sharing! Have a blessed day!
@bloemart (222)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
for me good friends are those friends who always around you. However, Best friends are those friends that have been tested by time and experience.
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Very true, there were a lot of circumstances why you called someone a best friend, a lot of trials and experiences that have put you to become best friends! Thanks for the well said thought! Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
my bestfrnd knows me from head to toe. and we shared countless moments and memories. i consider her my bestfriend bcuz no friend ever cared for me like she did. we have a mutual understanding and some kind of autism. and with her i felt that im happy and life was fun with her around. we do crazy stuff almost anything under the sun though we have differences in personality and tastes it felt like we really understood and compliment each other. shes the one i can talk to and share my life with. and during those times we were together almost everyday.
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yes,sometimes we tend to spend more time with our best friends because we know that most of the people they are the ones who can understand us....Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Have a blessed day!
21 Aug 10
Good Friends are those who finds time for you in their busy schedule. but best friend is who never see their schedule when you need them. A good friend would try to hide your mistakes, A best friend would try to make you stop making mistakes. A good friend would justify your anger on someone, A best friend would say you where you were wrong
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
I dearly agree with you. A best friend is someone that would turn us out to be a best person and someone that wouldn't tolerate our wrong doings but instead will lead us to a right path of life...Thanks for sharing! Happy mylotting!
29 Oct 10
A friend is someone you can talk too, a good friend is often there and a best friend is someone you can heavily rely on and it's very much mutual. My best friend as been there for me many times and his help as been a great influence in my life, I've never made a friend from work until I met him and I very much had a hard time seeing past the fact he was a manager. At least I as a normal worker, see managers as people you don't really want to cross and be wary of socializing with them but he's never let me down.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
23 Aug 10
I do have a couple of good friends in my life, while there's only one best friend right now.. I do agree with your point here, regarding the two groups.. haha =D A best friend will always be there for us, regardless of how inconvenient it is for them.. They will put us above themselves, for they know it's worth it.. BEst friend wont leave each other in the lurch, and best friend wont stray away due no lesser contact etc.. Best friend is always in the heart, and we can feel it.. hehe
@enciel (368)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Best friends in my point of view are the people you are very comfortable with and trust the most. You can call them silly names or jokes. They are the ones who can tell you honestly how you look horrible but you don't get offended about it. You can your voice opinions and you're not afraid of what they might think. You can laugh at loud and get along with even the silliest things no one would understand and so on. Good friends on the other hand I think are those who generally you're with, a co-worker or a friend you somehow get along with. They give support and encourage you but you are not entirely sure if they will stick with you until the end.
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
A good friend knows a few things about you, a best friend could write a very embarrassing biography on your life story. A good friend will bail you out of jail. A best friend would be in the room next to you saying, " That was awesome! Let's do it again!"
@Edawg413 (10)
22 Aug 10
Kind of difficult to explain, but if I were to sort out my good friends from my best friends it would be somewhat hard, yet somewhat easy. There are those whom you have known for a long time, see them frequently or time to time, and you know them well enough that you would be on good enough terms that they would be there in your time of need if they were absolutely able to. Even best friends cannot be there for you 'all' the time. Then there are your good friends, you know them, you have hanged out with them before, possibly time to time, but even then you could decide yourself whether or not your personalities go hand in hand. Me personally, I would say that my closest friends are my best friends, everyone else is either good friends, slightly not that familiar friends, or strangers. :P
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29 Oct 10
A best friend takes away any barriers. You are you, without the need to hold anything back. They are your bestfriend because you can be you and they accept you for the way you are and who you are. I have many friends whom I love all very dearly, but its only my bestfriend who knows the uncensored real me!