why would successful women on their career want to get married at the age of 40?

Philippines
August 23, 2010 3:46pm CST
Let us all admit it. If you are in the peak of your career and you wouldn't want any distraction from reaching your goals in life then you will just stay single and will also limit yourself from having a relationship that would hinder your success. But what if you already reached the top and already been successful. Is it too late for you to be in a relationship and have a child at the age of 35- 40 years old? That is if you got successful but was late from all that. Please share your thoughts guys. Thank you.
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15 responses
@aurorastorm (1134)
• United States
23 Aug 10
I think your career will always be there, getting married is not always an option, so if you love someone you really should take advantage and get married. Especially if you know for sure you want kids, there is a window and once you get past it, the harder it gets to have them. Many have looked back on their lives and realized that love, family & children is what really matters in this world not money and careers.
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
I totally agree with you! these are the things that money can't buy from being successful with your career. If you missed the chance then that chance is really hard to find or might not pass by anymore. If you really found love at the height of your career then go for it! Do not let yourself look back through your life with a regret.
• China
24 Aug 10
I don't like your assumption. Life is life, and every single day is special,if you have lost the feeling of loved in your 25, you will never find it again. So, just do what you want, and enjoy things that should happen in the right time. When you are at the age of 35-40 and have been sucessful in career, but you should know that you have sacrifice lots of things. You were most beautiful at your 20, but your boy friend didn't see it; you were most healthy to have a baby at your 25, but you miss it and your high age is harmful to your baby.
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• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thank you for the response. Yes it is always nice to get married at this age when you are still young but then most of us people at this age are not yet ready to have a family. A lot of the young people who indulge with s_x at a young age and end up having a baby not yet getting ready will be a great hindrance to be successful because you will be sacrificing young opportunity to go to college and have a great career because you will be there to support your baby until it reaches the right age that he will be able to support himself. but then it will all be too late for you to straighten up things. anyway, we are the holder of our lives and it is up to us how to make it well. Have a great week ahead.
@oplopez81 (158)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
This discussion had me thinking. Would you still consider yourself successful if you are alone at age 40? Would it be better if there is someone to share it with? I know of so many firends who are happily married and have their own families and yet still successful in their careers. I think one should think of a very good work and family balance. One is useless (for lack of a better word) without the other. They always go in tandem. In my own personal opinion, it is better to have a life long relationship with someone than have a successful career alone. :-)
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• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Exactly! Very well said. There are lots of successful people at that age or period in their lives who are doing well with their career and having an ideal family life as well. Either at that age they would choose to be a plain housewife (which is i can consider being successful as well) or they would choose to work as well like their husbands do to add financial stability to their families. Being all these, one is already successful with their endeavors. Have a great weekend and thank you for a great response.
@Absinto (2388)
• Portugal
23 Aug 10
In a way it is something good, because by the by th time your sucessful in your career then you might be financially stable. This can help in the future when you decide that you want to get maried and have a family. At least you know that you can have what a family might need at the time. Having a family can be expensive and this does help.
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• Philippines
23 Aug 10
Thank you so much for this nice response. Yes I agree that having a family of your own is not as easy as that. If you are already capable of having one then just do it. Have a great week ahead.
• Goa, India
24 Aug 10
Once you have achieved what you wanted it is kind of boring life to have so people tend to find people who love them and care about them. so its never late to get married and have a family. And for whom are you going to leave the money that you have earned if dont have a family??
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Absolutely true. Whom are you going to share your success if you have nothing to share it with like your husband or wife and your kids. It's a good thing to have a balanced life with success and great family.
@sender621 (14923)
• United States
24 Aug 10
A woman's age and success in career have little to do with thoughts of marriage. When a woman is happy and in love, marriage is something she looks forward to. this can happen at any age and level of success in employment. When the commitment is there, so is the feeling.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thank you so much for the nice response. It is true that the status of your career should not be a hindrance in finding true love. it is never in the age either. If the feeling is there then grab the opportunity so that we will not regret it in the end. Have a great week ahead.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
24 Aug 10
Hi aaronfyzeon i can give a straight answer to your question. At the age of 25 or 26 they will not become successful women so, they will not known by anyone if they known by anyone their age crosses 40. Still, many unknown women who didn't succeed and age is crossing 40 then these women don't come outside...
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Thank you for giving me your opinion. Yes this is applicable to some situations. But there are women who are already successful at that age but then they still manage to choose what is best for them. Have a great weekend.
@shalome (178)
• India
24 Aug 10
aaronfyzeon, As on today days world super-fast technology and lack of spending time with each others to express their desires and other points etc., in all this reason as on today women would like to wish well settled in life with all respecters like wealth, health & prosperity, by this stage they reach their age by 35 or 40, than they decided to get settled in their marriage life. shalome.
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Yes that is correct. But how about the time to build up their own family. I guess they should also think settling down while still being on top of their careers.
• China
24 Aug 10
I think 40 years old is a little late for woman. Because it is hard to find Mr Right limit with age.(even though you wont think that age is a problem in love) Working hard and fall in love can at the same time? Whether once they fall in love will avoid achieving successful?
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Yes it is already late at that age. It is not a matter to argue about if the person is already in love while at the peak of each other's career. For me I guess I will have to work hard more because I will already build my own family. Thank you for the nice response and have a great weekend.
@kukueye (1760)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 10
i think it is not too late to get pregnant if the women is healthy beyoung 40 before menupause set in.With modern technology i think if possible to get pregnant.So celebrities also get pregnant without husband and so opt for adoption too.Whether succesful 40s getting married is possible if they find they match. Being succesful is a good thing i think. But being succesfully also has it perils .It hard to find suitable suitors nowsdays
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Thank you for your nice response. I wouldn't take my risk being pregnant the first time at that age. eventhough I am still not that successful as long as I already got married then I would like to have kids already. I would not want my being successful ruin the chance of being with my own family eventhough I am that successful. Have a great weekend.
@goldfngz (99)
• United States
23 Aug 10
It's nice to be successful, but it's even nicer to share that success with someone you care about. All the money, cars, clothes in the world can't cure loneliness. If you're a successful businesswoman, I think you would be tired of going on vacations by yourself, going to dinner by yourself, watching movies by yourself. That seems awfully lonely to me. Even Oprah had a boyfriend.
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
Hehehehe what a wonderful thought you've just shared. Yes, I this discussion just crossed my mind though. What if I am already that successful though but totally alone in my life? Yes I think I would have lots of friends because that is really the way it would be being successful and having lots of money. I am happy with what I have right now. Being with my man and being still not that successful. My life is just balanced though. But I am still not yet planning to get married.
@sid556 (30986)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Hi aaronfyzeon, Why would she not pursue a marriage and children? I would assume that she is in love and being successful in her career that she can balance those things. Why not? As for having kids over the age of 35...that is so possible these days if you are in good health. Again, Why not? I was 39 when I had my youngest. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. It all depends on the person. My cousin is a successful doctor at St.Jude's Childrens Hospital. She built her career and did not get married until she was almost 50. She will not be having children but she works with them and her husband has two teens from a previous marriage and she is very happy.
• United States
24 Aug 10
There is no time limit when it comes to getting married, heck people well over 60 do it everyday. As for a career unfortunately there are limits so hopefully at what ever age one decides to marry it is with a partner who strives in the same direction so that anything could be possible.
@bloemart (222)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I think it is because they enjoy and dedicate their time with their career. And they think that marriage can wait. You can get married anytime but when the opportunity knocks on the door. They don't want to let it pass. And it is once in a blue moon. So while the time is passing, they don't realize that they are already old enough to find relationship. And worst thing is that they only want to get married it is because they want somebody to take care of them when they get old
@SHAMRACK (8586)
• India
24 Aug 10
Dear friend, May as the women are in the path of advance it is also seen that more and more divorce and family cases are increasing. Moreover much of women have came out with more professionalism with much concentration and planning. I feel it as part of social changes. May be for good or bad, still always there would be a change...