How do you solve problem skillfully after quarreling with your partner ?

Do we need skills to be able to solve problems with in a relationship...? for me i would not say that skills are not really required. what we need is to build a relationship with love, understanding, faithfulness, loyalty and trust. when you quarrel communication is very important. when one is angry, the other must be quiet first. otherwise when both have outbursts there would be no peace! i mean when two persons trying to get their point at the same time.. who would listen aand understand and explain later... so for me... just communication... and understanding...

Hi miweikang, The one thing tht works for me is to set it aside first. It can even mean that you two are not going to talk for a day LOL. Once you feel better and not hotheaded then you can ask your oartner to talk it over again. Identify the cause of the conflict and its effect. After that try to avoid the cause or the issues that may cause that conflict again. Of course there are times that even one single mistake and the two of you goes into conflict again. But as much as possible dont much your partner's anger with your own rage. One of you must give to the other.

Hi miweikang1987 How are you doing today. I just wanna tell you. It depend on situation. I cant just tell you how to solve problem skillfully or effectively. If you can give us more specific details, then we might be able to figure something out to help you. Have a nive day.

I think you should keep your relationship above your self interests and you partners. It doesn't mean that you should submit to everything. Its like, you both should have a clear understanding of what's best for the relationship. This may not be always possible, as there will always be a conflict of interest on many things. Do mould yourself according to the situation in hand. Be firm when u need to, listen to your partners view, discuss pros and cons, and if other person is right then accept it.

First think you have to do is calm down your mind and positif thinking . is a the best way to solve your problem. believe it just litlle things to sol;ve it The worse you may get, and whenever your relationship is getting bad just let it away and try to get another person for you even its too hard . Hope its can help you...

I have found that there are some conflicts that can not be resolved no matter how hard you try. So, I've decided to allow my boyfriend to vent his frustrations at or about me, with little or no interruption from me. While he is venting, he realizes what he is saying and sometimes, not always, determines on his own his error. There have been many times where he expresses his aggravations about something I have said or done and I allow him to talk without interruption. Then, when he takes a minute, I will attempt to explain my situation. He acts like he does not accept it only to find later, possibly a day or two later, that he realizes my situation and will either apologize or say he was wrong. There is really no right or wrong way to handle relationship conflict because everyone is different. You have to determine what works best for you. Bottom line? If he/she is arguing with you, yelling, venting, etc, rather than try to correct them when they are done, look at them in the eyes and quietly say "I love you"...if you truly do. Since you were arguing, they usually do not have a response. Good luck.

If you have true love, you will discover that it's good even when it's bad. After all who else would hang in through all those tough times to help you change. You are there to help them change as well. The important thing is always leave no doubt of your unconditional love for them. No matter who wins the quarrel. There is no life without them. Communication is key in all relationships. Always be clear. Life is about learning and growing as people. Your partner is part of that. If you never quarrel, you probably have the wrong one.

If the conflict was due a certain mistake committed by any of both parties, asking for forgiveness can be part of the solution. Happy mylotting!!!

Naturally it is dependent on the problems at hand. But friend if you value your relationship the only option is to discuss and weed out the problems. Escaping or brushing down under the carpet only leads to yet a bigger burden the next time another situation comes arises.

well.., i am not good with solving problem with my boyfriend.., I am overpowered by my pride.. and as much as i know that it is wrong.., and it will not help us in our problem.., I can't seem to stop myself.., It always boils down to my man trying to patch the problem and trying to make it up for me.., I hope he won't get tired of me and I hope I can change this attitude..=(

i usually talks so much when im having conflict with my boyfriend/husband,but recently i found out that it will be much easier if il shut up and let the heat subside before i talk to him again..you know heating things up would not resolve any problem..and never talk when you're both angry coz you'll be making the best speech of your life.. just try to be rational and calm..