Perfect Relationships??

Its hard ot say what a "perfect relationship" is. Some would say "never arguing", but I dont agree with that. My relationship is perfect for ME. Me and my husband argue sometimes, we dont agree on everything, and we have disagreements, but we dont scream and shout about everything, we're happy and we love each other very very much. He is my best friend and I am his, we have a lot in common, but not everything- we have our own interests which make life exciting and fun! I think a perfect relationship is one where you are truly happy together. Whether this is an argument a day (which many couples who have been married 50 years say kept them together as it cleared the air!), never going to bed angry etc. I dont think my relationship would be perfect for everyone, other people may get bored in my relationship, they need stimulation, they need excitement. Others want to have everything in common with their partner and dont want disagreements etc. But nobody can answer the question what is a perfect relationship, it depends on you. You need to work out what you want from a relationship before you can make one work!

hello witty06! i don't believe that perfect relationships as the term implies, exist. not in this lifetime anyway. I mean, every relationships has its own share of conflicts, quarrels and misunderstandings, no matter how petty it is, it is still conflict in some form. These conflicts, are often the reasons why these relationships thrive and grew stronger in the long run. even if you do everything your partner will say and want, just to avoid conflict in your relationship, time will come that you will get bored being the underling or your partner will get bored always getting the upperhand (no challenge) which in turn will lead you to misunderstandings and eventual separation. a healthy relationship is one which has its own share of constructive conflicts, which helps both people involved grow in maturity in the context of their relationship.

dear witty06, nobody is perfect hence there is no perfect relationship either. couple should really try hard to make a relationship work. sometimes it is easier said than done but we have to give more understanding and be more giving to make it work. if little quarrel can not be avoided, everything should be patched up at the end of the day. and when it is patched up.. there is no need to bring it up again the next time you quarrel. have a nice day. ann

Hi wittyo6, Are there any perfect relationships? I, personally, don't so. I think every relationship has some trouble sometime, in one area or another. The key to keep the relationship safe from total destruction, is to be able to listen to each other's views and learning to compromise. No one is always right and no one is always wrong. Relationships that have no arguments have got to be boring. Why doesn't the couple disagree about anything? Maybe they don't care about what the other partner thinks or maybe the have just given up on trying to have their own voice when it comes to making decisions, so they just go along with whatever the other partner wants are says, just to keep the peace. Disagree with you partner should never mean that is the end of a relationship. It should mean that you are your own person, who thinks for him or herself.

if your relationship is already perfect, as you say it is, do have time to work on your grammar, which is far from perfect...

No relationship is perfect. I dont think i have seen a perfect one.

first of all there is no such thing as the perfect relationship. every single relationship has some issues. something for people to bicker about. each thing you are able to move pass together as a couple does make you stronger together.

Hello witty, I understand what you mean here. Yes it is right, it can get boring lol. If there is something going on, it makes it interesting, of course not something that could bring both to the point of thinking about breaking up. It must be something very light, or something that would probably make you laugh to think about later after you have been through it. And i believe there is nothing like a perfect relationship and nothing can happen too smoothly. Otherwise you would have reasons to doubt the other person, i mean honestly, no relationship can survive if everything happens too smoothly. It's like your partner is agreeing to everything you say and do and blindly agreeing to things. There has to be some change in the point of views and certainly a few things that you might like and the other not. So, that is why there are not such perfect relationships and yes it can get boring at times, if you would follow the same routine each day.

There's no perfect relationship. If there is then it must be abnormal. I dont think its normal at all. I am having a roller coaster ride relationship with my husband but I am happy with it too. There are times that I really feel bad but as the others has said need to deal with it.

I understand what you are saying as I have a great live in boyfriend, but one thing is for sure I certainly do not like misunderstandings, conflict or arguments. I know what you mean about being bored if at times you do not get the misunderstandings, but surely spicy up the relationship in a different way would be my route instead of some sort of conflict. As if there were too many the relationship then gets tainted and that cuddling at night sure does not feel the same way any more.

yes i agree with you^^ i wouldnt like also to be with a guy that always agree with me in all and always do things as i want^^ we all need an arguement sometimes to make things more interesting ahah ^^ about me when i like a guy i always have to argue ahah bcs im usually too caring and guys always act careless so we always argue bcs of this. anyway you are right when people dont argue and all is perfect we start to feel bored and the relationship is not interesting anymore bcs no challenge^^ we all need a bit of sadness that then changes for happiness^^ also couples say that after argue when things are ok things are better ahah^^

...you are right..a relationship without any fight at all is boring..also, i don't think it will grow..with challenges, misunderstanding, incompatibility and alike, we, our relationship will grow..perfect relationship depends upon one's point of view..personally, i can say that one is a perfect relationship is when both lovers are still loving each other and still together until their last breathe..

i agree with most of the members who replied to this thread. there's no such thing as perfect. we won't learn if we don't encounter any mistakes in our lifetime. challenges and the like are what makes us strong. In a relationship, what's healthy is that when people involve in it have open and good communication and knows how to fix their differences or fight maturely. its always a two way road so to speak.

i agree that the imperfectness in a relationship makes the relationship fun and makes you know if the partner is being observant or care about you. and it's from the quarrels that makes relationships stronger and rekindles feelings. that's just my thought.

You are certainly right. What really makes the relationship is when you are able to overcome and cope up with the misunderstandings. Of course, too much quarrel is unhealthy, but at least once in a while the imperfectness of the relationship makes it perfect.

Yes, I agree with you. A little argument will help build a stronger relationship. A relationship without misunderstanding will not grow maturely. If there is no dispute, it is just nurturing a break up in the near future because you will just do things in routine and will no longer look forward on what is next in the relationship.

I don't think there can be such a thing as a perfect relationship. If someone tells you they have one they are just telling you something that they think you want to hear. Relationships need constant nurturing and respect and care and love to endure. All relationships have ups and downs. Perfection is not something we can guarantee in any kind of relationship. We do our best to keep each other happy. that is the best we can do for any relationship.

For me I don't like quarrel I like not misunderstanding so hat your brain not so hassle to understand.

There is nothing like a perfect relationship. Relationship are like careers that needs to grow and mature. A perfect relationships depends on the understanding that both partners conceal so much from each other.

Nothing is perfect, and relationship is one that actually has lots of imperfections. However, one should see those imperfections as something to withdraw strength from and be viewed as a challenge that will only make every relationship worth fighting for. There will always be mistakes, but as long as the two persons in that relationship are willing to accept and to move forward to make their situation better, then nothing will go wrong, even in loving an imperfect relationship perfectly.