WOW all I can say is WOW....Scared but happy!!!

Canada
August 29, 2010 2:43pm CST
Well Mylot for those of you that know me I'm taking yet again another plunge I always felt that something happened between my ex husband and I to cause him to go back into his little comfy shell of closing everyone including the ones that loved him....We have had some really good talks recently and let alot out in the open and I NOW understand where we went wrong and what happened I always knew it was something but couldn't put my fingers around it.... I have saw him now a couple of times we are taking things slow as I'm scared to death with his patterns that he has shown me for years but this time he is making more of a solid effort for the better.....At least we are being mature and adult and made a promise that if we can't be together at least we will still be friends for the kids.... We are reconizing our mistakes and what not to do again and honestly it's going great so far even tho I miss him terrible as he is 2 and half hours from me but we contact each other daily so it helps....I just hope that I'm making the right decision because I know it feels so right when we are together....HappyMylotting
4 people like this
7 responses
• Portugal
30 Aug 10
well im happy for you that you are trying to work things out with your ex husband^^ maybe you guys can be together again^^ if he is making an effort and you too^^ im sure it is going to work bcs for a guy to change his attitude is bcs he really loves the girl^^ otherwise he wouldnt^^ so you are right giving him a chance now to show his love for you^^ why dont you go on dates again? like when you were dating before marry? im sure it would help your relation^^ try to do that and please be happy with him^^ you both deserve it^^
• Canada
30 Aug 10
We are technially back together but he lives 2 and half hours from me and we see each other when we can....We are really trying this time and it's not the feeling it's just me i see him trying too....Thanks smiles...
• Canada
30 Aug 10
That's great that he is making an effort too! Hope things work out for you both!
1 person likes this
• Canada
30 Aug 10
Thanks purple I hope it does too and he does too...
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Aug 10
hi blueangle That sounds really good and sometimes things in a marriage go awry because we did not communicate like we should have. If it feels right to you, use your woman's intuition as I have always found when it feels right to me, it is right and I have seldom gone wrong in trusting it. I think this will be good for your children too.Maybe the two of you before were 'not always on the same page and now you both may have recognized where each of you went wrong.
2 people like this
• Canada
30 Aug 10
hugzzzzz Hatley and thanks for that and I agree I believe that is what has happened that we were not on the same page and life was hard and rough at the time but we are turning over a new leaf this time....
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
29 Aug 10
You can only give it a go This can happen I have known couples to separate then realise where they went wrong and tried again, some worked some didn't mine didn't, I was going to give it another go, he then proved that he will never change just before I was going to say ok lets try even though I realised he had killed of all the love I ever felt for him over the Years but well it can only go one way or the other I wish you both the best of luck and really hope it all works out for you both Hugs Sweetie
2 people like this
• Canada
29 Aug 10
Thank you sweety I hope so too this time.....I really think tho we have a good fighting chance to make it work....Hugzzzz.
• Canada
30 Aug 10
I really hope that things work out for you both I really mean that! I just hope that he doesn't go back to his old patterns and learns to properly deal with the deaths in his life that he hasn't dealt with otherwise he will go back to his old patterns. Does he plan on moving back here if things work out with you two?
1 person likes this
• Canada
30 Aug 10
That's great he is changing, and is past the anger part of his grieving process. Hope things work out for you both! Good Luck!
1 person likes this
• Canada
30 Aug 10
Thanks I hope so too....He has admitted alot to me we still have along way to go and alot of fear but we will get through it I'm sure.
@dawnald (84233)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Aug 10
If you both recognize the need to change and are committed to it, this could work out great. Best of luck.
1 person likes this
• Canada
1 Sep 10
Thanks hun we really hope that it works this time....
@kristinad (185)
• United States
30 Aug 10
hello blueangelrs i give you alot of credit for the to of you still talking and keeping in touch for the kids. sometimes people have to talk a step back before you can go forward to and that's maybe what the two of you needed was time apart to realize how much you guys really mean to each other i wish you the best of luck to you and your family
1 person likes this
• Canada
30 Aug 10
Thank you I think so too I think the time apart was a good thing we are sad it happened but we have decided that we will remember the past so we know what to do different but we are not going to live in the past...
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
that's great!
1 person likes this
• Canada
30 Aug 10
thanks!!!!