When is the right time to get serious in a relationship?

Philippines
August 30, 2010 4:17am CST
When you meet someone or already knew someone that you really like, you start that getting to know stage and then you go dating, might be a couple of weeks or months and you are now starting to really enjoy this persons company. But, when is the time to get serious in a relationship? Do you wait for 2 months to pass? Lol... Do you wait for signs? or Do you wait for her/ him to tell you that his now ready for a serious relationship with you before you say the same?
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13 responses
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
There is no right or wrong time for a serious relationship to start. You'll just know it that it is the right time. But maybe, it is when you are both mature enough to be in a serious relationship. Many young couples thought that having a serious relationships is something like owning the other person's life. That you have to live in prison with each other. But that should not be the case. Both must also grow independently in their own ways.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
I think you don't have to wait for any signs.., you will feel it if the person you're with is someone worth getting serious with.., if he's mature and responsible enough and he has the qualities you're looking for and you're willing to accept him for his ups and downs..., That will be enough reason to get serious., as long as love exists between the two of you too..=)
@simonelee (2715)
• China
31 Aug 10
You'll never know it unless you feel different towards that person(compared to your previous relationships). For me all past relationships are not serious. You're just enjoying each others company, it may hurt in the end but you won't consider it serious unless you find the right one for you.
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Any time you want to. and Probably when the situations presents it. there are people who do relationship for popularity, security or lust but Love is rare. and that is a serious reason to have a relationship. that's why most guys end up break up or being break upon. because some are not serious or simply not compatible.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Sep 10
For me, the right time to get serious in a relationship has always been when I am able to tell that there is a future in the relationship. I spent a lot of time in my life when I was younger thinking that every relationship that I was in would be something that would last for a long time, but I learned that there isn't potential in all relationships. That said, I only decided to get serious with the man that is now my husband when I felt with my heart that there was a lot of future in our relationship.
@xtmlove (402)
• China
31 Aug 10
Hi,santosmarichris.I believe the right time to get serious relationship is when you are both trust and understand each other.During the time you are contact with each other,you can find you are suit to take together or not.Such as interest,habit and other aspects.If you are had the same hobbies or similar interest,may be you are more easier to get along with each other.Time isn't very important for this,if both of you are get ready for the serious relationship.Sometimes,you should initiative about the matter. Good luck!
• United States
31 Aug 10
There is never really a right time, it just happens. My boyfriend and I got together before I transferred to a different college. I didn't plan it, it just happened. We have been together for 2 and a half years, it'll be three in October. Again, I never planed it, it just happened. If you plan for a serious relationship, you won't get one, or you'll get a bad one.
@tianly (39)
• China
31 Aug 10
When I find somebody I really like, I will go out date with her, maybe after monthes, if I still have the feeling, I think it will be the right time to get serious in arelationship.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
30 Aug 10
Hi santosmarichris, New relationships are very fragile and should be handled very carefully. If you both are feeling the same way about the next move you should take toward a serious relationship, then you should just move forward, but carefully. You don't want to move too quickly, if you have the feeling that the other person is not feeling the same about moving forward, you would not want to chase them away.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
30 Aug 10
I believe that the right time to get serious in a relationship is when you are already matured enough to have someone with you that can face the challenges and willing to handle it. Other than that if you are really sure that you are in love with the person that you want to become your partner.
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
Hi, I was in a serious relationship at the age of 29 to my husband; I got pregnant and so I got hitched. Actually it depends on how you perceive the idea of getting serious in a relationship.
• United States
31 Aug 10
The right time is when you and your partner no longer have to wonder. You will know it in your heart of hearts exactly when is the right time. Although some might say that although one person may be ready the other may not. There really is no month or date you set my friend as some people know it right away while others can date for six months to a year to realize they are not ready for serious. Good Day!
@camaro30 (62)
30 Aug 10
right time? when you have seen your partner during its best and worst.. so take time to know your partner you dont have to hurry enjoy every moment that your being with her during her best and worst, then im sure you can say to yourself i think i cant live without her and thats it you just dont know that you are being serious.. let love lead you the way..