Gripe about the behavior not the person.

Hi, There are not many who can actually retain their sangfroid in difficult situation. In fact, in terms of psychology, behavior is often molded by external factors. But psychology also defines intelligence as the ability of a human being to modify his surrounding so that it works in his favor. So if a person reacts to some situation, it may not be just to complain. May be his instinct is asking him to actively participating in modification of the environment for the good of others as well as himself. Talking about the sangfroid, there are people, really strong people, who can remain indifferent at what's going on around them. These people are rare and are seemed to possess tremendous mental aptitude. But if one knows the possible reasons for a certain person behaving badly, one can reason with one's own mind. As I've written in one of my articles http://www.bukisa.com/articles/348782_why-do-people-behave-badly people demonstrate anomalous behavior mainly because at that time they are dissatisfied in their personal lives, for some reasons, invisible to the rest of us. There are other external and internal reasons. Sometimes the trait is ingrained in his personality, which may have its root in his upbringings. You'll hardly find a person who actually learned to stay satisfied with his present position. Thanks. God bless you.

Sometimes, when I am quite close to that person, I can jokingly say my observation towards their behavior and they would somehow laugh about it and at the same time, realize how it is indeed troubling others so that they would try to change it in one way or another. If it was a completely different person that I don't know, say we are both new and strangers to each other, I guess we would just try to be considerate to each other. Then again, there are times when situations like what you have mentioned would happen. On such instances, I wouldn't really try to tell it to them, I would just make some gesture so that they would slightly understand and perhaps remind themselves to avoid doing such behavior in another similar situation. If I was caught doing something annoying and another person got annoyed, politely telling me to stop or giving me a disappointed expression, either verbally or otherwise, I would still say sorry and try to avoid or toning it down to the point that it can be tolerated.