missing your ex

France
August 31, 2010 2:42am CST
I just had a break up with my bf, it has been a week but I am missing him like crazy. Just yesterday, I texted him saying that I miss him.. and later on I regretted doing that. But an hour later, he texted me back saying that he miss me too. I felt somehow relieved I wish that we could get back together, but if he wants to get back together himself, he would have called me ages ago saying just that. I miss the tenderness between us, i miss the hanging outs, the travel around europe just between the two of us.. It is very hard to forgive and forget, and I don't know what to do to forget him :( Life can be hard at times
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16 responses
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
31 Aug 10
When since you both missing each other, why not try to make over? I meant you still love him, and he still love you right? If this is the case, problem solved. You can make over with him, and continue this romance. All you have to do just talk to him in person, and have a serious talk this time about your future with him.
@AmbiePam (85159)
• United States
31 Aug 10
I think the problem has been that he doesn't see a future with marriage, and she's been with him forever.
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• Portugal
31 Aug 10
oh sorry for it :( maybe he just was afraid to message you. the way you talk seems like he did something wrong to you and that was why you guys broke up right? :( is normal that you miss all good things between you guys also maybe you can be with him again^^ it seems that you and him still love each other so you dont have to forget him^^ anyway what happened exactly for you guys to break up? maybe you can tell so i can advise you better ^^ maybe he just didnt message you before bcs if it was him making the mistake that lead to the break up maybe he was ashamed to talk to you or afraid you wouldnt answer him.
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• India
1 Sep 10
Many a times, our ego comes between us and our loved ones…we think of this moment rather than the broader picture. I don’t know why you broke up, but if both of you are missing each other, then why don’t you take the first step? You never know but maybe he’s waiting for you to do it while you are waiting for him to do it! at least keep up the connection and see what happens…if nothing works out positively, at least you’ll have the solace that you at least tried.
@AmbiePam (85159)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Don't back down, girl. I remember your posts, and this guy is not good for you. I totally realize that is easy for me to say because I'm not the one in your shoes. But you deserve someone who will commit to you how you want them to, and from the time you've spent with this guy, it doesn't appear it will be him.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Sep 10
lilmuchang I can understand how hard that is to do. Perhaps the two of you can get together and talk it out.Maybe whatever drove you apart can be worked out and renewed. I hope maybe you two can communicate and find the things that first brought you to each other again. As a senior lady I hate to see young people fall out so quickly when maybe it could all be mended' and start over again. Maybe he is waiting for you to say lets get together.Cannot a woman make the first move now days? try it.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
In the first place, you didn't mention the cause of your break-up as well as who initiate the break-up? If it is you who requested for that break up, I thing texting him is inappropriate. REceiving a text from him after you sent him first, probably just to reciprocate or not wanting you to be embarrass. You are the one who knows hte status of your relationship, as well as the reason for that break up. You are the one who knows the severity of its effect. In any case, wait for him to initiate a move, so it would not be a shame on your part. If that will happen, feel the situation if you can let the relationship work out again. It is really hard to forget someone. Good luck.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
31 Aug 10
what happened that caused you to break up? If you guys miss each other than maybe you should get back together. As long as he treats you right and is honest.
@ElicBxn (63229)
• United States
31 Aug 10
you don't forget him, you never do, but you need to get past him and go on with your life I know its tough, but he was that immature to break up with you, well, just remember, that boys (men) grow up at a different rate than girls (women) and a lot of time they don't ever really grow up...
@gdesjardin (1918)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Hang in there! I know it is hard to get over a relationship, it takes time. Sometimes, it takes a lot of time, especially when you have a long history together. Just remember the reasons why you broke up. It will take a while, but you will move on. Remember, time heals all wounds.
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
There's a big chance you two might get back together and realize that the reason you broke up was too shallow. There's also a great chance that he's chasing other girls right now that's why he's not calling you. One of the great things i enjoy of when single is the fact that i can sleep with any girl i like and he maybe thinking the same too. Just saying..
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
There's a big chance you two might get back together and realize that the reason you broke up was too shallow. There's also a great chance that he's chasing other girls right now that's why he's not calling you. One of the great things i enjoy of when single is the fact that i can sleep with any girl i like and he maybe thinking the same too. Just saying..
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Not really! I never had that feeling towards my exes. I could not remember I ever felt that way for any of them. Anyway, in your case if you are still good friends with your ex then there's nothing wrong with asking him out so you can be with him. You know, for friendship's sake.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 10
Since both of you missed each other so much. I think there must be lots of things between both of you that is fun and enjoyable. It do seems to be some misunderstanding between you that causes the split. I think what you should do is to list down the pros and cons of your ex. If you feel that the pros are much more compared to the cons, you should take a moment to sit down together and discuss whether there is a possibility to be together again. All the best!
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
hmm perhaps you and him need to talk , an honest to goodness talk and see if you can take it from there. i know its really difficult days/weeks after the breakup especially if there's no closure. and like what others said hang in there. go out and have fun with your friends learn to love yourself more and try to forgive ..easier said than done i know but it'll be worth it in the end specially if he did something really bad to you.. its his lost not yours..remember that :)
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Why did you break up with him? If you really want to stay together maybe you should try to forget about the reason why you did. He might want to get back together with you but is scared that you'll reject him. Maybe you should swallow your pride and just go ahead and ask him.
• India
31 Aug 10
Yes i agree with you. My girlfriend left me when i proposed to her and it took me a lot of time to get over her but i somehow managed to stay like that. I would always be with her and would try to do so but it wasn't possible. I convinced myself that she moved on and it took me a couple of months to move on also. Now like we are not even talking to each other but yet i wonder if she still misses me sometimes. You are lucky that your boyfriend is still there for you. You should just forgive him and yourself. That would leave a really great feeling for you. To err is humane, to forgive divine. Cheers!