How do you know he/she is the one?

India
September 1, 2010 1:30am CST
Just curious to know something. When i first saw my girl i was attracted to her by her looks. Later i came to know her more and more and then i came to know what she really is. I had dated her for a couple of years and later when i proposed her she said no. Later when i thought about it i hated myself for believing what i see. What's the first thing you notice about a boy or a girl that turns you on or maybe grabs your attention? Cheers!
14 responses
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I just know he is, I feel it, don't know why, don't know how. Just love, unconditional one.
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1 Sep 10
well.. looking is so important at first sight as u say and means more than we can guess. Then, character comes. Unlike most people I'm not expecting for a Brad Pitt :D
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• India
1 Sep 10
Wow nice wish all girls thought the same....well at least wished that my gf thought like that...
1 Sep 10
wish so for you :)
• India
2 Sep 10
Thanks friend....
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I am always blinded by the physical aspect of the girls beauty. I am easily smitten if the girl is beautiful or has a pretty face. There is something nice when you look in to a person's pretty face. But then I also happen to have dated and eventually turn a pretty girl into a girlfriend yet when the real attitude appears it's a complete turn off. I can only say that to know that she is the one for me I must get closed to her and know her real behavior. I am no longer after the physical looks because what is important is the character of the person not the outside appearance.
• India
6 Sep 10
Yup i know what you mean by pretty face and some girls usually have a beautiful smile that makes any boys day...
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
men are visually stimulated. You may be attracted to a beautiful girl but once you get to know the real her you tend to dislike the entirely of herself. I guess if you've spent enough time with the one you love and you've surpassed all the ups and downs of the relationship and you could come up with a better solution, you are a mirror to each other. Your partner tends to be your inspiration.
• India
6 Sep 10
Wow nicely said.That's the reason why guys go and try to know girls with cute looks..
• India
1 Sep 10
it is most difficult to predict girls nature ....so in my opinion eye contact would help in this ..............
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@len1415 (195)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
We all get to notice someone by looks at first. But to find out if she/he is the real one, you've got to be with her/him first and see if you really are meant to be with each other. Nobody's perfect, and soon enough you will know when there are things you dislike about her/him or the other way around, but once you've learned to accept who she/he is, love will find a way to make your relationship work. All you have to do is be willing to take the risk, all the time, for love...
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@asiregar (864)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
2 Sep 10
before I met my wife, I repeatedly failed to establish a relationship with a girl there was only matched instability arising from the experience I keep trying until you find the woman who now has become my wife and our marriage has been over eight years, feeling fit that will arise itself in time and watch each other live together until the end of Life
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Sep 10
By the time we have known each other as friends I am attracted to other guy but of course it does not mean that I want to have relationship on him, that is why I was been silent about it the fact that the one I like is his friend. But then it came to the point that we develop each other until we treat each other as special friends. Then now I really realized that he is really one for me a big blessing because he was able to accept me for who I am despite of my attitude that I have. He was been able to help me for the better. He is understanding enough especially about my rants. I could see the true love in him.
• Portugal
1 Sep 10
ohh i dont usually care for looks ^^ actually guys i loved till now were never the type you can say he is super handsome^^ they are just normal guys^^ anyway i usually like guys with a cute face that i can say is a good guy^^ im sorry for what happened with your gf :( so sad that she left you after so many years of being with her :( wish you find someone better^^ anyway dont care for looks much bcs looks can make us commit mistakes^^ know someone well and fall for their heart^^ not for their face^^
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I attracted to someone's intellect not much with the physical looks, though the first thing i noticed is the looks but it does not turn me on to be interested to him when after a short talk found out that he does not intellectually stimulate me. then attitude fallows. We never know a person until we establish a relationship with him or her either its friendship or love relationship so to be safe and less pain start a friendship relationship because when things will not work out between the two of you at least the pain of breaking up is less and besides as the saying goes friends can be lovers but lovers cannot be friend.
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
the frist time i see my boyfriend his not that attracted or handsome for me. i mean i know him in some online games all i see is his chracter. but when i see him on webcam his not good looking maybe coz he have some hair in his face and long hair but we still continue cause what i like from him is his attitude not his look. when the time we finally meet in person. he got short hair clean cut hair and shave face then i fall in love with him more. i guess the physical is a plus. but his attitude is the most.
@tatturoy (139)
• India
1 Sep 10
I always get attracted by someonce personality.I know thats not love but infatuation.But I believe that infatuation leads to love.Love comes only when you know that person.Dont lose your heart,life is much more beautiful then a girl.
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
When I first saw my boyfriend/fiance, I felt something weird. It's like what a friend of mine told me, the 'spark'. But it wasn't just sparks that I saw, it was like fireworks. It's really weird because I'm really not into emo guys. I'm always attracted to cute, mysterious guys. But, I guess your really can't judge someone by mere looks because he has been everything I've always wanted, and a lot more.
• India
1 Sep 10
Lucky you. You got someone you wanted wish i would get someone soon too...
@xtmlove (402)
• China
2 Sep 10
When I first saw my girl I was attracted to her by her looks too!I think many people will be attention to appearance of the other one at first.Then we will talk about the other aspects after keep touch with he or she.Just as a famous person said that the first impression of the other person is very important.especially for lovers.